Total meltdown at work

I'm really hoping someone can help me feel better here.

The quick background is that I work in an office with 10 people. Only myself and my boss and one other person are there on a regular basis. The entire finance department strolls in whenever they feel like it and leave the same way. They aren't there probably about 5 days a month each. No exaggeration.

I haven't taken a sick day in a year and a half. I rarely use my vacation days of which I get 15.

I knew the woman who was supposed to keep track of all of this never did. I knew that. We were bought by a big company and now we're in this system that computes our hours worked and vacation/sick days earned. I expected a problem when I saw my status going in according to them.

They said I had 3 vacation days (I assumed at least 10) and 12 sick days. I immediately complained to the woman (who is my friend, but I have zero respect for her work ethic/performance). They literally made up 11 days of vacation I took last June. Literally. No one had a record of this. I was already shaking with rage. They took off the 11 days, but now said I only had a total of 11. I was still pissed off and felt robbed, but I was somewhat better.

Then the woman mistakenly told me that they gave EVERYONE 12 sick days. Soooooooo her entire department that is out almost as much as they're in have the same number of days as I do. I flipped out. I have an anger problem on good days and I swallow the rage I feel when they all stroll in and out when they feel like it. I got loud with her and her boss and when her boss told me, "Well, life isn't fair" I yelled, "Bullshit! Thats easy for you to say...you're out half the year and somehow you have the same number of sick days as I do!" They gave me 3 more vacation days to shut me up.

Yeah, I'm happy with what I have now, I know it will be fair going forward, but I'm upset about two things. How angry I got (they all know I have a temper, but I've been so much better lately) and I know they're all thinking that I should just mind my own business. I guess I don't know if I agree with that or not. Isn't it my business that I show up each and every day when I could have been out 10 days the past year and still have gotten the same number of sick days as someone who showed up every day? Its so easy for them to say mind my own business because they're making out like bandits!
Sorry, I know this is long. I hate long threads. 😢

Oh sorry...not sure I was clear. I now have 14 vacation days and 12 sick days.

Hey, Pesca. Thanks for getting mad too! Makes me feel like I'm not being totally unreasonable! I mean those two are just very passive, whatever, don't really care about anything people. So they honestly don't even see that while they're taking off every other day...others are there every day! I guess they think everyone slacks off like they do. So I doubt they'll ever understand where I'm coming from! I honestly understand why I got angry..I feel any rational person would. But I know they don't. I know in their minds, I have a temper and I'm too concerned with what everyone else is doing (OR NOT DOING!). At some point I even said...this is my fault for showing up every day!

That entire finance department should be fired! I've never known a bigger group of incompetent slackers in my life. They are all USELESS. Thats the understatement of the year!

MorningMist...I know my work ethic is semi appreciated, but in this case I kind of feel like my real anger is that their lack of work ethic is still earning them the same number of days I have! I mean I could have literally have been out for two weeks this year and I still would have 12 sick days! So in my mind, I'm getting F* $ D!

I just don't fit in with these people. They are all so passive and afraid of rocking the boat. I'm like a fish out of water. I can't help but feel, though, that its those that rock the boat that change whatever bullshit is going on for all of the passive people!

Sorry, Pesca. I just completed my sixth year with the company.

I don't know what the answer is. Like I said I know it will be accurate going forward, but in general I'm not sure I'll ever be less angry unless I start slacking off like they do. And that's just not in my character at all.

Thanks, Elle. 🙂

Honestly, I have a feeling that our entire finance department could be wiped out at some point because 1. they're not needed now that we are a part of the government giant company and 2. they suck. I love these people and all, but damn! It would be poetic justice and I'll finally feel like my hard work mattered!

I'm a big cry baby when it comes to fairness! Why do I feel the need to apologize for that? I get it...life isn't fair. But does that mean we shouldn't fight when its not?!?

Thanks, ToC! Seriously.

Posted by Shadows


I'm a big cry baby when it comes to fairness! Why do I feel the need to apologize for that? I get it...life isn't fair. But does that mean we shouldn't fight when its not?!?

You aren't a cry baby, you are (rightfully) pissed off! It's never a good thing when people are allowed to get away with B.S. while the ones who REALLY work, get screwed over. Trust me, I think about it all the time, if I had to go back to Corporate America, and while I'm not one to cry, it makes me tear up just imagining it!
Keep your head up and I'm glad you aren't being passive aggressive (although, I don't want you to lose your job either 🙂 I know times are tough all over).

Posted by USCTaurusGal

Posted by Shadows


I'm a big cry baby when it comes to fairness! Why do I feel the need to apologize for that? I get it...life isn't fair. But does that mean we shouldn't fight when its not?!?

Keep your head up and I'm glad you aren't being passive aggressive (although, I don't want you to lose your job either 🙂 I know times are tough all over).

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Thanks, USCT! I called myself a cry baby, but really I'm a rage baby.

The thing is I never fear losing my job. They know how hard I work and they know I'm good at what I do. And heres another thing which I'm SURE is contributing to my rage. There are 5 people in the finance department, 10 people in the support department and 15 sales people who handle about 2000 ships (I'm in the maritime satellite industry). But its me and me alone in the installations department to handle the same 2000 ships. Does anyone see how thats a bit 'off'? I have NO help. Which is WHY I never take sick days and rarely take vacation. If I'm out, no new ships, no terminals get activated, no changes can be made on our servers...NOTHING gets done so all of our customers suffer. So I feel all this pressure every effin day while everyone else is goofing off half the time, coming and going as they please!

Posted by TasteOfChaos

Posted by ellessque

Posted by TasteOfChaos
Call in a bomb threat, then have a FREE day off 😄

Naaaa... just kidding!

I think its GREAT that you stood up for yourself, most people wouldnt...

you would do that. you've already lead a small child down the path of destruction with you candle devil horns 😛

I told her to skull some salt water before work and then vomit everywhere when she arrives to work, she'll get sent home

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Wow...see that's what I'm talkin' bout! Note to self: Stop to buy some salt on the way to work tomorrow.

😄

Shiznit, I'd be pissed too! That's a lot to shoulder!

Hm. Interesting viewpoint. And yet here you are bitching about my thread.

I feel your pain/anger/frustration! ♥

Just went through something veryyyy similar, I'm sure people remember me whining.
You did the right thing saying something.

I finally stuck up for myself, and ended up getting what I wanted. 😄
I don't like to rock the boat, and was worried they were going to see me as a trouble maker and try to make my life hell other ways.....but actually the opposite happened. I think I've gained some favoritism to be honest. I made them see it my way, they agreed, because I was right!

You're right. They just need to have their eyes opened. You'll gain nothing but respect by standing up.


Goodluck! Try not to stomp a bitch 😛

Posted by oldskoolflavor
what a soft ass.
people that go through real shit don't bitch about it.

you must be from the midwest.

fuck. off.

Hehe, I honestly thought about your work situation as this went down. So thanks for giving me hope! Maybe this can work in my favor. I'm a firm believer in speaking my mind...never really expecting change in that moment, but hoping that it will all add up to people seeing things differently eventually and then hopefully change in the future.