Why Men Lie to Women: Top 3 Reasons

?I?m not upset that you lied to me, I?m upset that from now on I can?t believe you? ? Friedrich Nietzsche



I decided to go straight to the horse?s mouth this time girls and ask a group of men I know straight out the top three reasons why they think men lie to women, and then why they personally have lied to women themselves. I found their answers very honest, enlightening and I think you will too. I also found it very interesting that more than one of the men stated different reasons for why he believes men lie in general and why he has lied himself.

Here is what Mark a 28 year old technical writer had to say:

Top Three Reasons Men Lie In General:

? For Sex

? To Avoid Conflict

? To Avoid Doing Something He Doesn?t Want To Do


My Personal Reasons For Having Lied To Women:

? I don?t know that I?ve ever lied outright for sex. Hmmm. Probably. Hard to believe that I haven?t.

? If I?ve forgotten to do something, but I can do it before the lie can be found out, and I?m dealing with someone who will get bent out of shape, I?ll lie. Note that I?ll only do this with women who take it personally that I forgot and who will whine and get offended.

? For number 3, this is a catch all: ?I have to work late? to get out of some thing or another. Though, if I?ve said I have to work late, I do then generally work late. I don?t say I have to work late, then go do something else. Also, if I?ve already committed, I don?t then bag out at the last minute unless I really have to work late.

Jeff, a 32 year old grad student thinks his reasons concur with those of men in general:

My Personal Reasons For Having Lied To Women:

? I lied because I did something wrong and I didn?t want to face up to it

? I lied because I felt roped into a commitment

? I lied because I didn?t want to worry her

Here?s some very honest and insightful views from Brett, a 36 year old P.R. executive in Los Angeles had to say:

Top Three Reasons Men Lie To Women:

? Because they?re insecure. They?d never get the date if they admitted they were 5?6? or made less than $ 30,000 a year, so they figure they?ll ?fudge? the truth and hopefully she?ll fall for him for all the other reasons women fall for men (that covers pretty much everything, by the way ? as most things fall under the umbrella of insecurity). Alas, she won?t.

? Because they have something to hide. This is another form of insecurity, since the truth often hurts. For example, if you?re married and looking for a fling, you?re most likely not going to admit to being married. Pretty much anything that will prevent one from getting a date will be glossed over for obvious reasons. Why tell someone you?re on Prozac? Or that your last relationship was emotionally abusive? Or that you?re fifty pounds overweight but ?working on it?? This is what I call ?bad truth?. You?re not lying, but you?re not giving full disclosure either. It makes sense ? it just doesn?t end well in most cases.

? Because they can. You?re not immediately accountable for anything when you?re hiding behind a computer screen and a fictitious username. Lying allows people to play out their fantasies and act more powerful than real life allows them to. Again it makes logical sense, but people adopting different personas online only set themselves up for failure in real life.


My Reasons For Lying To Women:

It may sound like a lie, but I never lie online. You need a healthy ego to be yourself in full, but the rewards are that no one will ever feel deceived when they meet you. I don?t disclose my income, or mention my dislikes at all ? because why alienate anyone? Probably my most common non-disclosure is the don?t ask/don?t tell policy of dating multiple people. Women I?ve met often breach that by discussing their date last night or thei

Thanks Q for that wonderful bit of useful and informative info. Men really are very "simple" creatures. It is true, if a man likes a woman the woman "knows" it and there are NO questions to ask...she just knows! If a woman has to ask and wonder if he likes her - chances are he doesn't, well he may like her but not be truly interested in her for long term but perhaps for only self gratification (if ya know what I mean.)

I believe that for the most part women have the need and desire to "justify" a mans behaviour rather than seeing it for what it is...they hope for change and the reality of it is...he won't and if by chance he does change, it will be on his terms, his time.

This knowledge comes from experience and we are here to experience experience so....go out there and live life, enjoy each moment but make sure that YOU are happy in each moment...trust your feelings and when you lay down at night to reflect upon your day...you are able to say, "what a great day it was" and have no regrets. 🙂

*this is where Seize The Day steps in and says....SEIZE THE DAY!

SEIZE THE DAY !!! 🙂 Easier said than done, though 🙂

qbone~ thank you that was great!


STD~ so true so true!!

I will read this several times. If you call a man's bluff, and he accuses you to justify his actions, he's not real.