taurus moon and detachment

i tend to shut people out sometimes, even family if they are causing emotional disruption in my life. I hate to get lost in their drama, too. It literally makes me sick when I'm all wrapped up in it. I love to be that person who is there for everyone, as i know its a gift of mine - understanding. i just need to find a balance between understanding, being reliable for people, but still keeping my wall of distance.

its like my emotional life sets precedence over everything and everyone. maybe thats why i, having a taurus moon, stay 'stable'.

any other taurus moons do this? i have become so distant from my family because i feel like an outcast. I'm sure some of them think that i think i am better than them, but it isn't even that. i just need to keep my sanity and being around for too long gets me uneasy. maybe part of the reason i felt i needed to move away.

my scorpio side does this psychology thing on myself lol

Posted by Impulsv
I feel detach from family when young I was the person they ran to . Even adults n it drained me. Now not sure how but I'm detach n disconnected
I know they think I've become to good for them
It's not that I just feel no connection or commonality
At family functions I can't relate so I stay as long as I can
I literally get physically ill.
Mothers side of the family I'm fine. But one thing I learned I don't do things out of obligation I don't care what they think.

I used to be all about family not sure if I disconnected because ex husband said he left me because I preferred my family over him. Kinda like a reaction to his state although logically I know he was irational.

you are literally saying things that i have thought.
not feeling a commonality! i don't even go to a lot of family events events anymore. i feel like I'm sitting in a room full of strangers.

i totally understand how you feel about doing thinks out of obligation. i stopped doing that in general, with everything. i think to myself do i REALLY want to do this? or am i doing this to please people. i have parts of me that like to be cordial and do the right thing, but if at the end of the day i end up hating myself for going to an event or doing something, it really isn't worth it. i stopped caring about what people think. i stopped caring if people see me as they might. its hard though because sometimes i feel alone and wonder if i shut people out too much for my emotional sanity.

Posted by Impulsv
Truthfully I'm not liking that I'm feeling disconnect from lots of people although I'm for living authentically.
How is it balanced? I've met new freinds yet I'm starting to feel disconnected from them n wanting to continue on to the next but then again have 11th hoise issues lol

But also I think it's grieving the loss of many of my freinds due to changes of work n residence.

yes! its like i get to a point where I'm at peace with myself, but then i find myself - by myself. thinking to myself like this cannot be normal.

are you a scorpio sun? I'm sure that adds to it for me.

making new friends is tough for me. I'm starting to think its too hard. i def have felt like I've distanced myself from friends as i feel a lot of us have either grown apart or other reasons.

what do you mean about 11th house issues? my moon is either in the 10th or 11th house. I've had 2 sources say different things so I'm not too sure!

Posted by TauroMale
yeah everyone runs to you for the stability and understanding nature even older people and everyone assume your always ok..

yep i know this too well. its flattering, and i feel good that i can have that emotional stability for myself on most days.

but the times that i am NOT ok, is where it gets tricky

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Posted by TauroMale
yeah everyone runs to you for the stability and understanding nature even older people and everyone assume your always ok..

yep i know this too well. its flattering, and i feel good that i can have that emotional stability for myself on most days.

but the times that i am NOT ok, is where it gets tricky

"everyone assume your always ok"
---> How to tell otherwise?

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Honestly for me it's usually never until I communicate it to people. When that happens I'm probably already way in the deep end and I come off too emotional. This rarely happens.

I'm learning to communicate better. Half the time I feel like I'm wasting my breath so I go back to my old self.

Posted by Impulsv
"chart, the concentration of four Gemini planets (Uranus, Saturn, Venus, and Mercury) is in the 11th , which means I invest a great deal of myself in my friendships and probably expect too much. It leaves six empty houses. That one house contains energy that otherwise would be dispersed into that empty half of the major areas of life. Those four planets are the rulers or co-rulers of seven houses.

That means that my friendships take the place of many other sources of fulfillment. I have no family around me, no children, and no mate, but my friends are far, far better companions than anyone I’m related to or have ever gone out with.

The joy of my life is that they are exceptional, original, and funny folks who fill those spots in my heart so very well. There are, of course, occasional lonely moments—holidays, Sunday afternoons, or times when everyone goes on vacation at once. Luckily, I’m very good at entertaining myself."

Aha. I don't find that to be an issue. I envy that. People who have great friendships tend to be happier imo.

I wish I had more emphasis on friendships than romance or family. I think I have to many Venus qualities so I might put more weight on my happiness to love.

I think I attract people easily but keep them at a distance for the most part until I feel they are 101% trustworthy. It's very difficult for me to form friendships or aquaintances even:

As a partner ro a Taurus moon, I appreciate you guys being so open about this. Gives me a bit more insight into his acrions.

He is the same way as you guys, but I have no idea how he feels about it.

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Posted by sultrykitty
As a partner ro a Taurus moon, I appreciate you guys being so open about this. Gives me a bit more insight into his acrions.

He is the same way as you guys, but I have no idea how he feels about it.

They have a really good poker face ...

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Me as a cap moon am very similar, except I have no problem telling people no. He is always overextending himself doing things for other people, then complains to me about it. I can tell he's frustrated, but he keeps doing it because he feels obligated.

The only person he feels comfortable saying no to is me. Makes me feel a litte unimportant.

i agree, he feels that he can be real with you. May seem strange, but definitely a good thing

Aries sun/Taurus moon here

I used to have a hard time saying no to ppl when I was younger but not so much now I'm older. It all depends on who it is and what they want/need. I tend to say no more often these days to newer ppl in my life, than my closer family and friends.

However if it all gets too much I will shut ppl out as I have to think about my own well being too. I have a lot of Pisces in my chart so I absorb a lot of other ppl's energy which doesn't help either.

I think being naturally reserved emotionally gives ppl the impression that we're always 'ok' and we can take on things and be unaffected. Only those closest to us know that this isn't the case and we just hide it better.

Wow guys. Yes I detach. I'm not ignoring anyone it's just people are exhausting and constantly letting me down.

Posted by kissmygrits
Wow guys. Yes I detach. I'm not ignoring anyone it's just people are exhausting and constantly letting me down.

+1

A simple and accurate explanation!

Posted by MadMarchRam

Posted by kissmygrits
Wow guys. Yes I detach. I'm not ignoring anyone it's just people are exhausting and constantly letting me down.

+1

A simple and accurate explanation!

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YESS!! exactly. i would rather be detached than take just another let down. no matter how that comes off to people, unfortunately.

Posted by MadMarchRam
Aries sun/Taurus moon here

I used to have a hard time saying no to ppl when I was younger but not so much now I'm older. It all depends on who it is and what they want/need. I tend to say no more often these days to newer ppl in my life, than my closer family and friends.

However if it all gets too much I will shut ppl out as I have to think about my own well being too. I have a lot of Pisces in my chart so I absorb a lot of other ppl's energy which doesn't help either.

I think being naturally reserved emotionally gives ppl the impression that we're always 'ok' and we can take on things and be unaffected. Only those closest to us know that this isn't the case and we just hide it better.

i used to care to much about how i was perceived. like you, i have a lot of water in my chart too (lots of scorpio and cancer rising) so it makes it worse to absorb peoples issues and want to be there for them. at first people take me as too nice until i detach and become just.. cold.

Posted by starlover
I just value my own space a lot and make sure of who I spend time with and that they don't drain me

me too. so much so, that I'm realizing most people i used to be around are just not worth it.