Aries mom with pisces son - confused!

i am totally confused by my 2-1/2 old pisces son. he is very sensitive and at the same time very stubborn. he will not listen to me and is always in a dream world. i like to dream too, but enough is enough. i am ready to give up on the boy. any incites into how i can prevent him from turning into a "jerk" (as read in a separate thread) would be appreciated.

phew...give the poor little guy a break...he's only two years old.

children need to be nurtured that's all you need to know. on the dream world thing...we all know that is something dear to our piscean hearts so don't be to peterbed by it unless it is affecting his growth as a child in the world.

let him dream!!!its not hurting anyone!!

I have one ? and only 1 ? 4 U and that is...R U 4 REAL??

Geez you're talking about a 2-1/2 YO child so where the phuck is YOUR HEAD AT—

If you're "ready to give up on the boy" than in IMO...YOU SHOULD HAVE KEPT YOUR LEGS CLOSED!!!! Cuz you don't have a clue as to what it takes to be a mom. Sorry to use your own words against you but I feel it's a no-brainer ? IMO. And to seek astrological counseling? THAT EVEN WORSE!

I have to wonder about people like yourself!? What wrong with you BTW?

PS: YOU'RE THE ONE WHO SOUNDS CONFUSED TO ME. Your child IS NOT the problem, sounds more to me like YOU ARE the problem?! Again, WHAT'S WRONG W/U? You really need to seek help before u screw up your childs' life. IMO you sound a crazed mother especially since U DON'T WANT HIM TO BE LIKE A 2 1/2 YO!? Once again..what the phuck is WRONG W/U?

Really mame,
ask yourself what you were doing when you were 2 1/2 years old!!! Give him some love and attention! Pick him up and hold him and talk to him and play with him! If you don't do well by him now, when he is 15 years old, you won't know what hit you!!! Your parenting skills will be put to the test. If you did right by him or not, will show up at that time! Trust me I have seen it!

...and that is where the phrase 'the terrible twos" originated! he is having some growth and wants to learn and be moving around! don't try and restrict him. let him explore!!! they love to at that age. i would just sit back and watch it all, and take some movies. they can be really incredible at that age. i am amazed at that age what they can figure out on there own, it's pretty neat!

"i am amazed at that age what they can figure out on there own, it's pretty neat!"

To bad she ain't 2-1/2 huh?! LOL Obviously children of that age have more sense then her and it sure SOUNDS/SEEMS like it IMO!

yes 12 i hear you! i just would add one more thing. enjoy those years while you can they don't last and they are precious. they are really cutie pa tooties at that age!!! just relax and go with the flow. let them do what ever they want and enjoy, and learn! it is really fascinating to watch them learning!

i wish i had one! 😢

Oops, sorry for the upset. I didn't give you the whole story. I have been a little psychotic because my in-laws think he is autistic. I didn't think anything of his actions until they turned my world upside down. Now I am trying to find some answers, and as for the mom thing, well I love being a mom (I didn't just
"open my legs", I've been married to my wonderful husband for 11 years now). But I don't love being told that my son has a problem (the pediatrician assured me that he is fine and very smart). It makes me feel like I'm doing something wrong. And I don't want to do anything wrong, I just want to see if anyone has any answers. I would never really give up on him. There are just some days where I wonder about my son because of what my in-laws have planted in my head. I will never write anything on this board again. Again, sorry for the upset.

141,

You didn't tell us that, so what were we suppose to think?? There are people here who are passionate about the welfare of children. That is what we want in this world!!!!

As for your own situation, I would have NO problem telling your in-laws to BUTT out. If they did such a good job raising children, then why did they raise such a whimp? (your husband)can't stand up to them and tell them to butt out! He sounds pretty spineless to me!

We were only thinking about the welfare of your child. I think you should remind the in-laws that this is YOUR child and he his healthy and the PD says everything is fine. And you will raise him however you see fit! They are intitled to be grandparents. If they continue to cause problems, then let the husband staighten them out! If he can't or won't, then you do it!!!

Good Luck and enjoy that baby boy!

141...this was pretty important ifo you neglected to tell us but I feel your frustration is the downright heartless ans sensless replies particularly from 12.89 fullstop...

12.89...show a little respect please...

141...you are welocome here...as is anyone else who chooses to be but be warned this is a place where people have a right to say as they please...

Don't let negativty and senslessness defeat you...you're stronger than that...you gave life to a beautifull baby boy and to show you care for him is nothing to appologise for at all...

12.89...I wonder if you had a loving mother like 141 is toward her child...it would do a lot to explain your poorly controlled tongue and your lack of compassion...

Take care...all of you...
Durrie.

You tell em Durrie

Durrie,

You want to explain to me how my comments were 'heartless'??

First of all I meant what I said! She was the one who got on here and described her child as a dreamer and that enough was enough! Now you want to kiss her you know what? why? she can blame everything on her in-laws but is she blaming her poor communication skills on her in-laws too! She upset alot of people here, some of which have children, what about an explantion and an apology. I can see where this is going to go. I still stand by my original reply!!!

What was she expecting a fan club? give me a break. sometimes you get on my nerves! seems like someone who doesnt like to judge, sure does the dudging an awful lot! you did with us when all we were doing was showing concern for the child!

judging that is!

Tit 4 Tat in not usually my game 152.163 it shows an individuals laque of maturity in an unwillingness to take constructive criticism or leave it...that's your choice.

This time however I feel your question needs answering.

A mothers concern for her child is not the kind of topic any individual with any form of respect for others would choose to reply to with four lettered words and poor choice of adjectives.
Take a look at her response...she felt the need to leave this board and never come back and purely on your response.

Does that make you proud...does that give you a feeling that you have helped...—

I and many others also may have felt she was over-reacting yet we recognised the matter at heart here and said basically what you said in a humain way.
The posters reaction to her childs dreaminess shows me she cares...that's the type of mother I'd rather have than one that would heed your advice.

Wipe your mouth 152.163...your level of respect leaves much to be desired.

Take care...
Durrie

That's true! I have none for you! You have alot of nerve to come on this board and think you can start telling people what they can say or do, especially me! Don't ever think you can tell me what to do...do you understand! Keep it up and you will be talking to yourself!

Tit 4 Tat...grow up 64.12.

Yes you are a Fish Durrie, but you act more like a Scorpio. Too bad you are not, because I find your quest for control and domination very appealing! But one thing you don't have that a Scorpio man does is respect for others opinions, whether religious or any other!!! I think you are the one that needs to grow up. I hope your mate is as young as you appear to be, so you can brainwash them and train them just like you want them to be! Better yet, why don't you and your PARTNER work on some new projects together and leave the harder stuff for the pros!HAH!

64.12...I seem to rub you up the wrong way...this was never my intention...I think you need to learn how to take criticism and advice...it's simple...you take it or leave it.

I find your last post to be totally unjustified in that I do not have a quest for control and domination...indeed it was you who finds those things appealing not me...those are your own words above, not mine...—

Who is this partner of mine you speak of and where did you pull them out from...—...what project do you think I am working on...—

Your inabililty to recieve advice unbiasly has clouded your judgement sending you into protection mode 64.12...you are flying off on all sorts of unjustified tangents due to an unjustified perception that I am against you...—

I appologise if I have hurt your feelings...this was never my intention. I speak my mind and opinion freely as you do and rightly so...

Take care...
Durrie.

I do believe I can and will take it, but on this board it would have to come from someone like Cwab!

For Durrie, actually I had a VERY loving mom thank you. Can you say the same?

Consider this...a "mom" comes on this board seeking advice on her son so he won't become a "jerk" in her own words? Now picture this if you may. A mom WHO CAN'T TELL IF HER OWN SON IS AUTISTIC—? Now give me a break please if you will. I know you are young only because "laque" is actually spelled "lack" and "appologise" is spelled "apologize", but that is besides the point isn't it?

Moms who "give up" on their children are the reasons why their are shootings in high school, deaths by beatings, why moms run their cars into lakes, rivers with their children in them BTW, and why moms drown their children in their own tubs, etc., etc., in this world because THEY CAN'T COPE WITH THEM :o( SHAME ON THEM! I'm sure you're old enough to read newspapers aren't you?

I suggest you re-read her original post if you are a "child" and perhaps you'll learn something for when you have children. # 64.12 was right... "for you to leave it alone and leave it to the pros".

I stand by what I said. She should have kept her "legs closed" if she was clueless as to what it would take to be a mom.

Being a mom is based on INSTINCT and nothing else. Not in-laws and most certainly not a Pisces message board! LOL! GET REAL...both of you BTW. Anyone who would stand by such a "mom" is truly CLUELESS! I hope you educate yourself Durrie before you ever become a mom?

My oh my 12.89..."Durrie hangs his head in disbelief"

I assume you are the origional person I asked to hold their tongue and wipe their mouth and I echo that statement again...I just can't tell with you cloaked behind an ip address of anemity and you still don't accept my appology which further more highlights the person you really are...!!!

While you are right that it is beside the point...well actually differant sides of the "Atlantic ocean"..."ise" is to the British dictionary as "ize" is to the American dictionary...both equally correct in their own right...next thing I suppose you will be telling me how to spell colour...lol...and since you seem to think a persons age is determined by their ability to spell correctly I think it is you who needs to "grow up" not me...or is it that you need to learn how to "spell"...—

While autism takes weeks of testing by a doctor to confirm in a child I do agree that a mother should trust her instincts...as should she ask for advice if she is confused...but for "dimwits" like yourself to reply in such a poorly founded way with the use of four lettered words shouting your mouth off and hurting her feelings and confusing er even more is no help to anybody...least of all to yourself...

The rest of your reply is about individuals makeing their own choices but I won't even try to explain myself to you there...

12.89 you should try to think about what you say before you open your mouth and foul the air peoples ears breath as much as their noses do...not everyone is as forgiveing as myself and one day you will run into some trouble with your quick draw no thinking behind it attitude.
It is embarrassing you over and over again but your level of intellect leaves much to be desired so I will once again forgive you your ignorance.

I appologise if I hurt your feelings...

Take care...
Durrie.

BITE ME 204! British huh? Well that BLOODLY well explains it! You are clueless to the USA ways aren't you?

Read some books and you just may well agree with me! But I doubt it. I'm very familiar w/British ways and they leave much to be desired like...NOTHING! Sorry but IMO your culture SUX!

12.89,

I must agree with you on the British culture!!! 🙂

THANKS 205! These British folks are just TRIFELIN aren't they??!! LOL

I think he said he is from Rodesia, and I have some friends from Britian and they are great people!!!! The best!

...and I love the way they talk!

No more clueless than you are 12.89...I was raised in S.Africa after being born in (Rhodesia)Zimbabwe...both countries were colonised by the Brits and that is why I spell the way I do...I cannot change history and it is no more right or wrong to spell the way I do than the American way...we still comprehend each other...but why is it that my head is on my shoulders about it and yours in up your rear end...—

I now live here in the U.K as my mother is Britih and I as a result have dual nationality.

I excercise my colonial right to visit England and it broadens my horizons...I have come to see differant life and how people live here...to learn and to share my culture wih theirs...How dare you judge a culture before you've lived in it 12.89...once again your true colours shine through!!!

There is life beyond Amercan shores 12.89. It's rich and diverse and has all the splendours you have so get off your high horse come back to earth do some travelling (internationally) and learn you are just like anyone else in this world.

You think I am against you 12.89...I'm not...I'm trying to show you how your foul mouth and poor people skills show you up to be nothing more than a self richeous, bumbling idiot who has yet to make a valid comment on this thread.

Have a nice day 12.89...
Durrie.

No more clueless than you are 12.89...I was raised in S.Africa after being born in (Rhodesia)Zimbabwe...both countries were colonised by the Brits and that is why I spell the way I do...I cannot change history and it is no more right or wrong to spell the way I do than the American way...we still comprehend each other...but why is it that my head is on my shoulders about it and yours in up your rear end...—

I now live here in the U.K as my mother is Britih and I as a result have dual nationality.

I excercise my colonial right to visit England and it broadens my horizons...I have come to see differant life and how people live here...to learn and to share my culture wih theirs...How dare you judge a culture before you've lived in it 12.89...once again your true colours shine through!!!

There is life beyond Amercan shores 12.89. It's rich and diverse and has all the splendours you have so get off your high horse come back to earth do some travelling (internationally) and learn you are just like anyone else in this world.

You think I am against you 12.89...I'm not...I'm trying to show you how your foul mouth and poor people skills show you up to be nothing more than a self richeous, bumbling idiot who has yet to make a valid comment on this thread.

Have a nice day 12.89...
Durrie.

Get off you high horse British Tonto!

okay the mother who has written anything else on here or says she isn't
take it from me i have a mother who can be controling but don't try to restict him when he grows up he won't like it. Aother thing fine a nice way to tell ur family it's ur child and if they have a promblem with him dreaming tell them at least he has more abmitions of whatever then they do. Just understand ur learn a lot from him as he from u. just be careful. is all i aks
Another thing i ask why must both of u act like childeren. One unregisted person who's on Durrie's back. Understand u have no right to even act upon in writing that u a normal citzen and i hope of no federal power to say u can u can restict a person's right to speak. That is something men and women died for and even more that is given by being born a God given right. And another he's just telling u just a little to harsh. That's all and saying u were out of line. When u shouldn't have been. It appears to me u don't have any respect he opninon. Just seems to be out it upset u honest man. Try to think. As my father would say. Let people belive ur a fool but don't open ur mouth and remove all doubt.