Can a Pisces personality be influenced my Scorpios

I'm a Pisces and I sometimes feel that Scorpios are a bit violent and aggressive. I'm usually following their examples and doing what they think is right, but then I feel that that's not really me. As if I had done something wrong. Can Scorpios make a Pisces more aggressive or only the weak minded ones?

Nobody can make you more aggressive unless provoked. I dont think pisces was generally made to be aggressive or violent, unless highly provoked. Besides, why would you want to be that way? Or be something you are not? I generally hate to be violent. There was a part in my life I was pretty destructive, but only because I was extremely stressed, highly provoked and completely misunderstood. I have calmed down incredibly now that I have more confidence and balance in my life. I learned...I hate fighting!

Im not sure where you are getting the very aggressive/violent thing from scorpios. Yes they are intense...but I have several scorpio friends and none of them are even close to violent.

I live with two scorpios and they often get mad at me for not standing up for myself. I usually ignore anything bad that is being thrown my way and they get mad at me. They say I'm to soft and keep comparing themselves to me. Usually when I do get mad and fight back is when they gone to far or to defend others' point of views.

I feel you on this, their provoking is probably irritating. Im assuming these might be siblings? or are they room mates? Maybe its best you not talk to them about any kind of problems and find a gentler group to communicate with. If you notice what is generally provoking them, then dont talk to them about that subject. They really dont have a right to tell you how you should feel. Yes, pisces can be a bit softer and less confrontational than a scorpio, but I think they probably just want to toughen you up or perhaps feel upset that you are getting hurt. Can you tell me what you typically fight about if you dont mind me asking?

You were right, one of them is a sibling and the other is my own mother. They are alike in personality and when together I feel like they both agreed to insult me or something like that. Fights usually start between me and my older brother. He hates in when I state my opinion and I don't know why. Since my mother thinks in the same way he does she takes his side and I'm not able to make her understand me unless my brother is not there. Usually the things that start the fights are the different ways I handle problems and the way they handle them.

LOL this reminds me of me and my virgo mom and how she would bark at me on how I should have handled the problem even though it passed. My gemini dad would sometimes do that too, but he was not as forceful about it.

Its not very nice that your mom would take his side over things, but Im assuming that is your brother's was of being protective of you. Same thing with your mother. Im assuming she hates seeing you hurt and wants you to have a stronger approach to things. All this yelling of course, backs you into a corner and makes you feel unheard and angry.

Is there any way you can take them aside seperatly and tell them in a calm way how this makes you feel and how you would like to be handled? If not, are there other people (friends) that you can talk to and trust?

Actually this would be GREAT to post in the scorpio board. Did you post it there too? Maybe the scorpios might be able to help you understand how to deal with your issue.

My mom calms down when she's alone, but I can't really talk to her about how I feel. My brother....he's scary and might say something around the line of it being gay ot something since he's the kinda that likes putting me down. My younger brother is more help, but like my few friends I'm usually the shoulder to cry on and won't listen to me. My dad is the only only who kinda gets it, but its only because he doesn't like seeing me sad. He doesn't live with us any more though. So I really can talk to anyone about any feelings. The funny thing is the only one I trusted was a male scorpio, but I sort of stopped talking to him.

So I really can't talk to anyone about any feelings. The funny thing is the only one I trusted was a male scorpio, but I sort of stopped talking to him.

I miss spelled a word.

That's terrible man. Im sorry to hear that. Do you have a counselor at school you can converse with maybe?

I kinda have a hard time trusting people, so I really don't talk about how I feel. I kinda just suppress it and hope it'll go away. I have a hard time talking in school and when I do it doesn't come out the right way or they just don't understand me.

Do you give a lot of excuses when people try to help you? It seems you are not giving yourself a way out to express yourself right now. You cant talk to your family, friends or any one else. So now you are here talking to a stranger. lol. People are always going to judge you no matter what and it doesnt matter if they understand you, as long as you get your point across appropriately. Is it easier for you to write your feelings compare to saying them? I felt like you at one time, it had a lot to do with trust and confidence. You would be surprised how understanding people really are if you meet the right ones. You sound like you are a bit scared to get a real opinion if it doesn't coincide with your own ideals. Tell me, are you generally looking for solutions when people help you or just comforting? It seems your scorpio family wants to give you solutions when you rather just get comforted.

It's easier for me to write than speak. If I'm face to face with someone I start getting nervous and try everything to avoid getting hurt by them. I do wish to get comfort, but I also feel like their solutions are not really going to get me any where. They want me to take control and I don't think I'm capable of being a leader like they want me to be.

Well if you think about it, even if their way is abrasive, they do have a point. I think they just want to make sure you don't get pushed over and it probably does make them mad to see you get hurt. This really has everything to do with confidence in yourself. You can take control of your life and your situations and that is really by saying no when you dont want to do something and stick to it. Or when some one is being a jerk, you let them know that that pisses you off. You really have a LOT more control over your life than you think you do. You have control over situations by having a different attitude towards them. You cant control people, but you would be surprised how much they will bend to you if you are confident in you. I tried this before as an experiment, it really does work. Its not about faking it, but realizing that you are a wonderful person that deserves people to treat you right.

I understand your family dynamics have made you feel very shy and reserved. And I understand you are afraid of pissing people off. But how do you feel when some one does disrespect you? You dont have to be a mean person to let them know its not ok, but you also shouldn't allow people to take advantage of you either. I think that is what they meant to say. Scorpios are good at not taking too much bull from others.

Right now, you are scared because you dont feel highly of yourself. You might want to consider investing in trying to establish self-pride. Meaning getting use to loving and respecting yourself and being comfortable with you. It has nothing to do with being a leader, but more about making sure you command respect just by inner strength alone. If you are confident in yourself, people will also be confident in you. This is something you are going to have to learn with time, when you get tired of feeling stomped on. Respect is not about being rude or mean, but trusting yourself that you can handle situations and are happy with your own decisions. After you start learning that, peoples opinions really no longer matter or have such an effect.

I never actually thought about it that way. I have one more question. Why is it that I'm not capable of figuring out things for myself, but people come to me for advise and it actually helps them? It's also weird since the few friends I got don't take bull from no one and usually get into fights easy, but with me there.....well its like hitting their off button.

Well the only people I'm around are scorpios, aries, and leos. They kinda have a strong personality compared to a pisces.

Except scorpios, they are all fire signs. Fire signs are always stronger in personality.

Ill tell you what...you cant figure it out because you got the philosophers curse. You can help everyone else, but yourself. lol. With yourself, its really your emotions at stake. You are too emotional to really understand yourself. With others, you take yourself out of the equation and have better focus on the issue at hand. You just need to take the time to understand yourself. What you like and what you dont like, how you can improve on things that you feel are negative traits, etc. The truth hurts sometimes, but too be too harsh on yourself. Just start figuring out what is best for you so you can be happy and understand others better through your happiness.

Guess whats left to do is try my best and do what I want to do. Starting by attending veterinary college if I have scholarships to do so. Maybe see if I'll survive alone or not.

That sounds like fun, but I wouldnt advise starting off college by being totally alone. Sometimes having a friend around will make it less boring and break up the silence with a bit of life. I lived with roomies my entire college career and it was always a blast. They really kept me sane even if they were sometimes driving me insane. 🙂 Living alone for the first time might be nerve wrecking if you never done it before. But that's just a suggestion. If you think you can handle it, go for it!

I probably won't. So I'll go with college dorms. Hopefully I'll get along with people.....wonder if you can take a dog to veterinary college....

Im sure you will, remember everyone is in the exact same boat and are nervous. So Im sure you will click with at least some one.

Angiemima, you have to look at this from a different position.

To the Scorpios in your life, they would handle a situation head-on, confront it, fight it, control it .. to them this is dealing with it. To them this is being strong, being in charge, taking care of business.

The problem is .. they choose every battle to fight. And that isn't really being in charge, it's actually the opposite. It's falling prey to their own emotions to battle out everything because they don't have the resolve to simply walk away.

Pisces people are very capable of making stands .. however, we choose our battles, we choose for ourselves where we want to put our energy, and if we deem that something isn't worth exerting our energy into, then we choose not to let ourselves get depleted by falling prey to participating in the drama.

Think about that ..... to always make stands on every issue, is in essence having a desire to blow everything out of proportion, so a victory can be achieved.

Fuck that.

Pisces people can sense what is beneficial for us, and if something is a non-issue and doesn't require to be blown out of proportion to bring to battle over in order to be right .... then we walk away, and that's something to be proud of, not embarassed about.

It takes a stronger person to walk away ...

With your two Scorpios, you can just let them sting each other, if they choose. If a situation arises and your brother thinks you should handle it a certain way, and he gets ugly with you because you aren't confronting it HIS way, then this ugliness is coming from his inability to let it go, and he's in awe that you can just swim merrily along undisturbed, and it tears at him that he doesn't possess this kind of emotional strength ... so, he'll try to tear you down, to make you weak, like him, so you'll fall prey to self-victimization of feelings, like him.

You're going to find this all your life, and not just with Scorpios ... when you as a Pisces simply walks away, rather than making a mountain out of every non-issue, people are going to do whatever it takes to force you to be emotionally weak, like them.

As you get older, you'll find it easier and easier to deal with because being a Fish, you cannot change this quality .... this is how you are.


I promise you, this quality is a strong one .. NOT a weak one.