Cancer In SOS (Pisces friend)

Hello, I am a Cancer/Leo female, and I have a friend who is a Pisces. I really enjoy hanging out with this friend. To be their friend though, I have to come out of my comfort zone, I have to start all the conversations. Is this normal?

For the most part, the conversation goes with me asking questions with short replies or usual acknowledgments.
They reply with " I don't know" a lot. Which is greatest difficulty is they don't give me much to work with. They mention things, show me pictures but never tell me the name. So I can never look it up or get into it myself. If I know it I know it, and if I don't I am out of luck.

We do have good days, where we can talk a lot.they are the Pisces that goes with the flow they don't care very much for anything extremely. Except some few events that happen during the year.
I know I am very lucky to have met them and wish to continue being their friend for years to come.
If I was to disappear for days, this friend said they would probably forget me. Is this normal for Pisces? I know all good things including friendship require time.I have come to find this friend dwells on past stories a lot.
I know they have friends they grew up with they get happy go lucky about, when they get the chance to see them.
Since I am new I am struggling to make them care for me like their other older friends. I would still love some advice on how to go about engaging my friend. I have met this Pisces less then half a year ago. I first was drawn to them. Then I ended up breaking off conversation, cause I wasn't use to there short replies and ran away because I thought they didn't like me. I stumbled upon a opportunity to try again, and I don't want to waste it.
This friend is possible love interest as well. Right now I am trying to find out if I think they could be a soul friend or a soul mate...

This isn't a friendship.... and won't be a loveship.

I do take quite a long time to allow someone in... even friend wise. I want to make sure that it's a wise decision. A few times I have befriended someone to only later find out that they were expecting too much from me... (wanting to hang out every waking second type stuff).

So there really is no way to change the time for "them" to assess the situation. It just has to be authentic, be yourself, and if it is meant to progress it will....

I see, I have the problem where I probably don't know when to stop. We are attached, and would love a friend who was attached back. I have been backing off these past days as much. I need to find a in between. Even though I am cancer, I can change. Thank you ladies!

Also is it a good thing, when my Pisces friends it fun to tease me, and mess with me? As much as I like to seem to deny, I do enjoy some teasing.

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Also is it a good thing, when my Pisces friend it fun to tease me, and mess with me? As much as I like to seem to deny, I do enjoy some teasing.

Pisces friend finds it*

Probably the important thing here is how he feels about you too. Does he enjoy your company? After you break the conversation ice, does he tend to open up more? Talk more?

Maybe you should put him to the test. Disappear for a while. See if he forgets you, as he says. My bet is he won't, and he'll ask about you. I know it's not nice to test people, but sometimes, Pisces don't give you any other choice. They build such a thick wall around them, that no amount of directness can penetrate it. So you gotta go through the weak spot.

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I see, I have the problem where I probably don't know when to stop. We are attached, and would love a friend who was attached back. I have been backing off these past days as much. I need to find a in between. Even though I am cancer, I can change. Thank you ladies!

if you have to change so much in order for this to work - you probably are going to have to ask yourself if it is worth it.

being able to be yourself in a friendship is the essence of friendship imo.
an equal. and yes, of course friendship requires work and effort no doubt, but the common ground you both stand on - should not be built on you changing who you are and other things.

yes, we like to tease 😛

pisces are very affectionate and attached to their friends; in their own way, but at the same time do not need too much attention. i can go for weeks or months without exchanging a word - or have phases we communicate on a daily basis.

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I know some change isn't good, but I believe if I can change and I want to fully change. I would find it very worth it. I don't want people to think I am needy. I will be the same, I just want to grow more. I guess this crab wants to evolve. I don't want to be down if a friend I really enjoy doesn't talk to me. I do want this friend to have the space they need. They already know I am a cancer. A couple days ago, we were just looking this stuff up and talking about it, including the blood types. Also this Pisces thinks they know me very well already. I just want to surprise them. I don't want to expect one thing. When I can and am capable of doing something else. This no talking thing is killing me though. I do enjoy talking to people an my friends company. I am so used to it, I guess I am getting stir crazy, because before I met them, I was just going with the flow. Then I took a chance, and had fun. Now it is like I don't want to crowd and I dont want to go into this cancer stage. I don't know if there is a way a Pisces friend will seek me out, since they know I am a crab. :x

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I see, I have the problem where I probably don't know when to stop. We are attached, and would love a friend who was attached back. I have been backing off these past days as much. I need to find a in between. Even though I am cancer, I can change. Thank you ladies!

Thanks for clarifying that you are a Cancer. You can't be a Cancer and a Leo - you can't be ruled by the Moon and the Sun. The universe does not encourage greed.

Most Leos don't care about one word answers, they just hate being ignored. And they don't care much about being forgotten, they pick off where they left off whether their friend is catching up or not.

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I know I am mainly cancer, but as me and my friend were reading about zodiacs, which we believe fits us. I am on the end and they believe I have Leo tendencys. I do hate being ignored at times. Sometimes I don't care, but I think recently with this friend. I hate it very much :p

Posted by Treplev
Probably the important thing here is how he feels about you too. Does he enjoy your company? After you break the conversation ice, does he tend to open up more? Talk more?

Maybe you should put him to the test. Disappear for a while. See if he forgets you, as he says. My bet is he won't, and he'll ask about you. I know it's not nice to test people, but sometimes, Pisces don't give you any other choice. They build such a thick wall around them, that no amount of directness can penetrate it. So you gotta go through the weak spot.

I know it is very bad to test, I have tried that before with another friend. I never did look up their sign. But this was when I was younger. It didn't work all that much :x so I think I will hold off on that, and wait for least a year.

Posted by tiziani
Be yourself is always a decent rule of thumb.

I will always try to be myself, but sometimes people do not truly know their selves. Will always find out new things.

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Posted by tiziani
Be yourself is always a decent rule of thumb.

I will always try to be myself, but sometimes people do not truly know their selves. Will always find out new things.

Even in those moments, you can believe in letting the flow happen right? There is no real need to "make" anyone do anything.

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True, I guess I need to stop worrying about it, and just let it happen. This forum did help
so Thanks everyone. It helped to get some feedback from people I don't know. Which normally I would never do forums so. I think this was win win.. ^^
Thank you~

I may have not seen it but what is it about the Pisces you like? You said they don't talk much but you all must talk enough to have gotten to know each other. As much as I love my Cancer women you all have days where you talk a little too much and I end up tuning you out or go off on my own for a bit : p. Some days I am just not in a talkative mood I am more reflective or contemplative. People always think something is wrong because I am quiet but trust me if we want to talk...which we eventually will we will come find you. To me Cancer is one of the few signs that instantly understands me. As a Pisces with some out there views or up and down emotions the fact I can always relate to the sign so easily helps a lot. I am also quiet sometimes because I am shy around people I like or don't want to say something stupid so they may like you a bit as well who knows...

Also as people said before it does take time for us. Since it has been such a short time they may not see you as a possibility yet. I know I may hang out with new people for something to do but I won't consider them close until months later when they prove to me it is worth it. That means no blabbering things I say to everybody, not being budget and until I can figure out what I can and cannot say around people. Give it time and as hard as I know it can be don't push too much too fast. I always tell people dealing with Pisces as think of a fish in a fishbowl. When you quickly walk up to them do they not swim away and hide? Only when they watch you a bit and realize you aren't going to harm them do they come out.