commitment phobia

Hi everyone...newbie here.
I want to know if all pisceans are known for their "commitment phobia"?
What do you people think?

Hi again...sorry I guess I should have explained myself better.
I am a pisces myself. I personally don't think all pisceans are "commitment phobes". Thats what my libra friend thinks (her last boyfirend was a pisces)...which is kinda odd cause I always thought saggitarians were suppposed to be the CBs of the zodiac.In my opinion pisces people (including me) tend to get serious about a relationships more slowly compared to some other signs but its only because we want to be absolutely sure that we are with the right person and not because we don't want to commit.

Sags are live for the moment,carefree types which leads to flighty just sex stuff in most cases,wouldn't consider it a phobia,they settle down fullheartedly with no looking back when they do fall in love.The reason pisces are known for that is because they freak out when things get serious due to past relationship fears,it's a commentment phobia.Thier afraid of bad things happening again alot of the time,which leaves some people being left in a dark corner because the pisces doesn't feel they can trust them because of this other past persons doing.Thats how that works.

That's comforting, Tiamat!

So what happens then? Do they get over it ever? Don't they ever date again? I assume they get ready for a relationship ONE day...I hope so!

I saw mr.pisces tonight finally and it was ok. He held my hand at some point but I was careful about steamy dancing...I'm not even going to interpret--just going to live in the moment.

tia is right, about the past hurt situation.

yeah eventually kafka but like melusine said they may take what seems forever in doing so.i guess being a constant person in thier life is one way of getting them to trust you.they don't ever really get over it though but yeah they'll date and go for new ones when thier ready.then it gets crazy though you think your passionate wait til you see a pisces passionate,it's kinda scary but funny and cute at the same time.

"You think your passionate wait til you see a pisces passionate"

You mean sex?? LOL

Tiamat:
Yeah, I agree we pisces people are not known as risk takers when in comes to serious emotional entanglements specially if past experiences tell us we might get hurt again. Thank you for that info on sags.I was afraid that the combination of a pisces sun and sag rising makes me even more of a freak when it comes to relationships.So I guess there is still hope left for me...LOL

Kafka:
From your response I gather you are having a hard time with mr. pisces.Although I don't know the whole story but from my experience when you are dealing with a pisces who is kinda Committment Phobe and is giving out mixed signals..the best way to handle them is to give them time and be patient with them (like tiamat mentioned). We might be slow when it comes to realizing what our heart truly needs but once we figure it out ...let me just say you will be surprised with our reaction...you won't need to ask anybody else what "passionate" means.. you would definitely KNOW. LOL
Good luck with your Mr. Pisces.

Hey Melusine,

Thanks for the support. Everyone else has been very patient with me these last 2 months...Tiamat, Haffo, BJ, cancerlady, just to name a few.

This Pisces guy really got me. I can't read him, and yet there's something about him that's so different than anyone else I've met before. There's something in him that promises a whole world, moves me, and also arouses me. It's more than him being by our standards "hard to get". It's an instinct that says "if you just wait, it can be so great...but just wait".

On the other hand, in the real world...He's a great friend, a total cutie and we have talked. He hasn't promised me a rose garden--he's told me that he's really not ready for something now, but he thinks something w/me would be great...It's just that he's not ready. It should be so simple. But then when he drinks a few beers, he becomes someone else. He gives me mixed signals which I can't trust, but he doesn't make it easy for me to see him as a friend when he flirts and responds to my flirtations (I'm guilty there). I'm weak because I do like him and know I want to pursue something with him. He should be the one with more self-control, but from what I gather here, Pisces aren't that great at that.

So now I'm playing the friendship card. I've let go of expectations. You can't force these things.

PS: I really don't like the fact that he smokes and drinks.

Hey Kafka:

"This Pisces guy really got me. I can't read him, and yet there's something about him that's so different than anyone else I've met before. There's something in him that promises a whole world, moves me, and also arouses me. It's more than him being by our standards "hard to get". It's an instinct that says "if you just wait, it can be so great...but just wait".

Wow..You know something... after reading your post I almost envy you.I have never had that kind of feelings for anyone in my life.I think I would give up anything just to find someone that would make me feel that way ( moi "hopeless romantic" !!pathetic I know!!but thats pisces for you...LOL).So I think you should trust your feelings and be patient with this guy... I think you are doing the right thing by giving him space to figure it out for himself just how good you two will be together.Don't worry too much about his sending you mixed signals... in my experience pisces people often do that when they want to hide their true feelings or emotions.Kind of a defense mechanism.It means you are really getting to him...he's feeling emotionally vulnerable.
I am sure things will work out superbly for you two...

Now I have to go and find me a Mr Pisces or the next best thing a Mr.Scorpio or a Mr. Capricorn maybe...hmmm...choices ..choices...😉

see you later...

I hope you prove to be right, Mel! (Sigh)

I go back and forth--some days I'm positive and faithful, seeing the good in him...other days I'm pissed off and want him to see I'm not ready waiting here or anything. (the game thing) He doesn't make much of an effort and that pisses me off.

I'm not in love with him, but my emotions run very deep. And those feelings I described are genuine. Too bad he has to act and put on a different public persona most of the time. He gave me a glimpse of what it could be like, and now I'm addicted! And I can't let go and "forget this" as my friends advise me to. Wish I could though.

Will def. keep you posted!

PS: Me saying he's a great friend in the previous post is a lie. We're not really friends. I feel like a stalker if I call him. I wanted to develop the one-and-one friendship but he felt too awkward, because our group of friends were constantly nagging him, "what's going on between u two?". It backfired, but wasn't my making. So I can't go crazy here...Whatever. Time will tell. I do know I'm not going to go out of my way here.

I have that placement for sag rising but a scorpio,and it's actually alot 23 degrees but the only things that really apply to me is the social stuff,incurable curiousity,blunt and I like to be happy go lucky when I can but still don't fear the serious stuff at all either.It's interesting is my point of view of it,two completely different point of views coming together,of course sometimes it does turn into alot of tug-o-war inner struggle stuff and will take forever to decide on something,will not indecisive but it just takes alot more thinking for me to decide something than it does for other people.

kafka :
yeah, keep us posted on how things move on from here.Personally I would like to see things will work out for you two b/c the whole affair sounded kinda special to me. I had the same experience with the group thing in the past...some friends although well meaning just don't know when to shut up.Its kinda surprising to me cause I always somehow know when to ask a question and when not to.But I guess its normal to be curious about whats going on in your friends life.

Tiamat:
I totally have the same tug of war and inner struggle thing. I think its the whole fire and water mix thing thats causing that.I am a very direct person and very curious too.You know something funny ...I tend to kind of switch back and forth between acting like a sag and a pisces. I don't know if it happens to you.