Confused about Pisces Ex Boyfriend

It started when this Pisces guy starts talking to me, inviting me out, giving me gifts, etc. I said no to him for two entire months and he kept insisting so in Dec. I decided to give him a try because it was impossible not to. He made me feel like the only girl in the world, said beautiful things to me all the time,called me every hour,wanted to know what I was doing and to be with me all day.I couldnt believe I had finally found such an amazing guy after ending up being so hurt by my last boyfriend. After getting to know each othermore, spending a lot of time togetherwebecame inseparable and I finally said yes when he asked me to be his girlfriend. I was so happy and he was too. Everyone could tell how happy we were. It was suddenly and out of nothing that he decides to do plans alone with his friends without taking me with him. He went to a party without me. This made me uncomfortable and I told him that I wasscared, that I didnt want our entire relationship to be about each other separately. I told him that I wouldnt have been his girlfriend if this was how things were going to be. He said he was scared too that he wasnt going to be able to give me as much as I gave him. That he was so afraid of commitment, specially because he had never had a girlfriend before. So I started crying telling him that he couldnt give up now, after all he had done to make me fall for him. I told him that if he really wanted something (me) he had to fight for it. That he couldnt just give up. Being afraid to commitment is not an issue if you love someone. He noticed my pain and instantly grabbed my hands and told me not to be sad, that he wanted to be with me, that he was going to everything he could and try. Things ended up really good that night and I was so happy about talking to him. I was so calm. The next day he was really sweet again but it was the day after, he started acting twice as weird. He wouldnt call me for 4 days straight, answered my msgs 30 mins later, he wentto his friends lake house and was so cold to me. I was heartbroken. I knew what I had to do, so i told him I was going to make things easier for him and break up. I told him I couldnt keep hurting and that I knew he wanted out. He didnt complain or say anything back, he just cried. No real reasons, nothing.He left after giving me a hug and now he hasnt contacted me in any way. Neither have I. Im so sad. 3 weeks havgone by. Will he come back? Im so confused and i miss him

Ok...one thing that is getting me is the whole you can't go anywhere without me or I'll feel unwanted. You can't be like that with anyone, esp a merman. Merfolk LOVE to be with our partners and lovely dovey and inseperable and there are other times we just need a break. We want to be with our friends and without our signficiant other and just have fun and not have to hear the you don't care about me or don't want me convo. Women have this problem a lot...some more than others. That's clingy and it will suffocate a fish. It will freak us out, we will feel strangled and swim.

Now okay you gave him that whole if you want something you have to fight for it speech but in the end you ended up not fighing for it and gave it up. So...do you see what I'm saying?

A thing about merfolk is we soak up the feelings of others and you crying hurt him and he cares for you so he wanted to make you happy. He's alone time was him just dealing with his own feelings, decompressing and thinking things over. Your his first gf so he's prob dealing with a lot of things and trying to figure out if he can and wants to do this with you. Also merfolk just don't have the need to reply instantly to people even our loved ones. We are just like that at times. Sometimes we do and sometimes we just don't.

WHY oh WHY do women do that push you away thing but you don't want them to go tactic. If you didn't want to end it why did you? You got what you wanted...you interpeted his reaction and actions and instead of talking/fighting to make it work you broke up with him and now your wondering if he will come back! That doesn't make any sense. Do you see that? I'm not trying to be mean...just tough love here.

Your not making any sense at all. If you want to keep him or fight for him do it instead of breaking up with him and wanting him to crawl back to you. A lot of people think merfolk are weak but we aren't. Sometimes if a relationship is over we are done. It may be done it may not be. But if you broke up with him do you expect him to eat crow and grovel at your feet?! You may have a long wait in front of you with only the wind to confort you hun.

Be realistic. he's a man not a puppy.

I'm a cancer myself, and he's everything you want him to be, but you just answered your own question.
" Being afraid to commitment is not an issue if you love someone".
Somewhere along the way his heart changed.

Tbird sent hers when I sent mine but she's right on. Ever hear the song Hold on loosly but don't let go? They love their freedom but they want you there when they come back.

Thank you, this really helps. One thing I hate about us cancers is how stubborn we can be and more than afraid, i dont even see the possibility of talking to him at all. He moved on so quickly and what hurt me the most is not even the fact that he changed so dramatically, but him not saying anything back at all to correct me when I told him "I know you want out" Why do I have to keep fighting for someone who doesn't even care? I even saw him with another girl two days ago, just a week after we broke up. How is pisces capable of moving on so quickly? Im even starting to think he never cared about me at all, just superficially.

He probably met her while you were together. It made it easier for him to say goodbye. Sadly, if he's not used to dating, the best thing you can do for him is let him explore and see what is out there. He will always wonder while he's with you anyway since you were his first interest.

That would explain why he stopped wanting you to go places with him btw. He was likely meeting up with her.

If I made a mistake, in breaking up with him, how do I fix it. Its not easy, for he let me go first. I dont know if he feels he needs to respect my decision of breaking up, or if he feels upset about how I ended things. I only did it based purely on his actions, and since hes NOT good at explaining himself, what he wants, and what he feels (pisces) i am SO confused.

Honey, of you saw him with someone else then at this point, you can't fix it. I'd say he's ok with your decision. Sorry hun, he's gone.

i saw him dancing with someone else all night, nothing serious. and well, guys do this like breathing

I see, well just reach out to him and tell him you miss him, you didn't want things to end and you' regret it. Be as open and sincere as you possibly can. Put any pride and ego away and show him you are serious. But, if he really wanted to go in the first place, you will not change his mind.

And jeeze....maybe this time it will post correctly.

Posted by CancerLove213

... he decides to do plans alone with his friends without taking me with him. He went to a party without me.

... that I didnt want our entire relationship to be about each other separately. I told him that I wouldnt have been his girlfriend if this was how things were going to be.

You've got to be kidding.

He hangs out with some friends one time, and you have twisted it into being "our entire" relationship? And you wouldn't have ever been his girl if you knew that he had fucking friends?


lol .... you should probably stay away from Pisces. You'll end up getting hurt, because one day he might hug his mother and we wouldn't want you having a stroke.

Don't take the old battle axe personal. She hasn't taken her happy pills for half a decade.

MMandI...

Seriously, the drivel you hand out as advice on Pisces is sometimes pathetic. If I tried any of it on my Pisces he'd be laughing his ass off (inside to himself, of course)

You are in a fantasy relationship with your Pisces because you're trying to escape from your own reality. It might be true for you.. but trying to pass off your 2 demential, book learning advice to people who ACTUALLY have face-to-face interaction with a Pisces is misleading.

Then you have the nerve to warn people not to listen to P-Angel because you have a personal problem with her when she is an ACTUAL Pisces and her words are at least relevant. When yours ARE NOT!

I only skim your wall of text posts but even then all I get is a bunch of try-hard tricks from someone who's aim is to 'seal the deal'...

rant over...

I never said she wasn't right, I just said not to take her henpecking attitude to heart. I do not have a fantasy relationship, but I do have a real friendship with him, online or in person, it is still correspondence and communication. I really don't care if you or anyone else likes my opinions or not. I have as much right to give my opinion as anyone else in here who is not a Pisces, just as people can choose whether or not they want to take my advice. I hope your rant made you feel better, however.

I will add that I have ALOT of experience in relationships and dating. That doesn't mean I sleep with them btw. The way I would handle a Pisces is the way I've handled all of my boyfriends. They never had anything to laugh about, let alone complain. Guys don't leave me, I leave them. This Pisces you all mock me about stating that I'm trying so hard to get is no indication that I can't succeed in that. This Pisces is currently in the hospital and has been seeking shock treatments from trying to slit his own throat. He is very bad off, but you chose to believe its what I've done or not done right. He has to heal his heart before he can let me in, or anyone for that matter. I really tried to keep from mentioning in here what he has been going through because I'm learning that a lot of you in here are scum and want to throw it in my face that I will never have him. None of you hold the answer to anyone's future, otherwise you'd be god. The Pisces guy is a human being just like every other guy. I don't treat him any different than I have any of my past friends/boyfriends. I would give the same advice on any thread when it comes to the opposite sex based on how I treat them. I've never had any problem "sealing the deal" and getting the guy. But, If I don't "seal the deal" with him, I'm sure I'll survive.

Posted by CancerLove213
Thank you, this really helps. One thing I hate about us cancers is how stubborn we can be and more than afraid, i dont even see the possibility of talking to him at all. He moved on so quickly and what hurt me the most is not even the fact that he changed so dramatically, but him not saying anything back at all to correct me when I told him "I know you want out" Why do I have to keep fighting for someone who doesn't even care? I even saw him with another girl two days ago, just a week after we broke up. How is pisces capable of moving on so quickly? Im even starting to think he never cared about me at all, just superficially.

Some of the people in my life that I cared for far more than others, I've left behind for good. And almost all of the time it amounts to them not caring--I stopped caring because I knew they stopped caring first. When I get pushed away, I take some serious alone time, beat the situation to a pulp in my head, and when I feel like I truly understand where the other person is coming from, that's when my decision is made. Though I will admit at times I can be overly suspicious of others--sometimes a deep fear creeps up, thinking that everyone in my life only likes me because they have some hidden agenda. When a few previously stable friendships go wrong, I become extremely suspicious of everyone in my life, to the point where I shut out even my closest friends.

If you really want him back, you have to lure him back in, and it will take a lot of patience. A fish that gets hooked and thrown back into the lake isn't going to bite the bait again unless the reward outweighs the risk. If you're afraid he'll be vengeful, you have to be 100% flat-out honest with him, because a Pisces *cannot* (intentionally) hurt someone with a good heart. Speaking for myself, I could forgive anyone of anything if they were truly, truly contrite. But by no means does that mean it would be easy to convince me that you would have done things differently in hindsight.

Sun and Venus in Pisces.

Posted by MeMyselfAndIntrigued
I will add that I have ALOT of experience in relationships and dating. That doesn't mean I sleep with them btw. The way I would handle a Pisces is the way I've handled all of my boyfriends. They never had anything to laugh about, let alone complain. Guys don't leave me, I leave them. This Pisces you all mock me about stating that I'm trying so hard to get is no indication that I can't succeed in that. This Pisces is currently in the hospital and has been seeking shock treatments from trying to slit his own throat. He is very bad off, but you chose to believe its what I've done or not done right. He has to heal his heart before he can let me in, or anyone for that matter. I really tried to keep from mentioning in here what he has been going through because I'm learning that a lot of you in here are scum and want to throw it in my face that I will never have him. None of you hold the answer to anyone's future, otherwise you'd be god. The Pisces guy is a human being just like every other guy. I don't treat him any different than I have any of my past friends/boyfriends. I would give the same advice on any thread when it comes to the opposite sex based on how I treat them. I've never had any problem "sealing the deal" and getting the guy. But, If I don't "seal the deal" with him, I'm sure I'll survive.

I'm really sorry about what happened with your Pisces 😢 I hope he finds a reason to live... and not just stay alive and go through the motions--to truly live.

Thank you, I do to. He's truly a wonderful man. He actually put himself through medical school when his sister was diagnosed with cancer just so he could try to save her. That's dedication. He has suffered more than anyone I've ever known. It's all finally caught up to him. If he doesn't get the help he needs now, he will not survive.

Posted by MeMyselfAndIntrigued
Thank you, I do to. He's truly a wonderful man. He actually put himself through medical school when his sister was diagnosed with cancer just so he could try to save her. That's dedication. He has suffered more than anyone I've ever known. It's all finally caught up to him. If he doesn't get the help he needs now, he will not survive.

Wow, I didn't know it was so bad, MM&I. I'm very sorry he's (and you) are going through this right now. We don't "all" mock you, by the way. I admire your consistency and well, stubborn will to go about as you please in many ways.

Thank you for that. I will stand by him no matter what he will want out of me. What has happened to him lately is like a bad movie. His friend went by his house one day and found him on his balcony with a t-shirt and no coat and he was unresponsive (staring into space and not answering her). He was taken to the hospital and sadated. The next day he broke the bathroom mirror and tried to cut his throat with it. He had to be placed in arm restraints. The series of shock treatments didnt even help. We had a major breakthrough days before he went in but he is not allowed to have any devices in there, so I have not talked to him in almost a month. Things will probably go back to square one when he comes out. As long as he comes out I don't care. If it weren't for his friend keeping me updated, I would have no choice but to think he's dead from his absence. She visits him daily and sends my regards. He was moved this week to a rehab that is like a spa/hotel since he was not improving there. Who could improve in conditions like that! Here he gets massages everyday and gets to use the gym. She said he'll possibly get to use the computer soon. I've written him while he's been gone to let him know I'm still with him in spirit. They keep a close watch on him but I'm scared to death for him. She said he got to his wrists at one point as well. He told her the other day "Everyone I love dies". My gosh, I can't emagine how lonely that must feel. I'm not surprised at all that he's not so willing to give me a chance. He keeps everyone at a safe distance. Tomorrow is his birthday and he's spending it there. They wouldn't let me send anything to him due to their strict policy. I wanna go to him so bad. I can't leave my kids to leave the country...they're too young. This is so sad.