Could this work?

- We met on holiday in Jan and had an intensive few days together — not on a deep level, just sexual but I knew there was something special about him
- We live on diff continents
- Been in touch on chat and texting every day since — therefore getting to know each other on a deeper level
- He took a 12 hour flight to see me and we hung out for 2 weeks
- Had an amazing time together. But had a couple of wobbles to do with his insecurities (self admitted). He told me he loved me after only 3 days while drunk! Pfffft. And there were times when I felt he was distant
- The first 3 days and last 4 days were simply amazing. He said the trip exceeded his expectations. He told me he thinks I'm lovely and he had a wonderful time. I told him he was amazing and that I would miss him. We??re both so similar and got on so well.

All seems great...but...

What do I do now? We didn't mention anything about the future. About me coming to see him. About us being exclusive. If he really liked me wouldn't he have mentioned it?

We've chatted or texted for the last 3 days since he's been back, but to me it doesn't feel the same. Like he's a bit distant again, but then it's him that initiates the contact. Is this normal behaviour? Does he need his space? Or has he had his fill, come to realisation, or isn't interested anymore?

Posted by dummylove


.. to me it doesn't feel the same. Like he's a bit distant again, but then it's him that initiates the contact.

That is a tad unfair to say that he seems distant when he's the one making contact with you, don't you think?



And everything that you've written seems normal to me ... everything except you having unrealistic expectations of a relationship that hasn't even gotten off the ground yet.

Rome wasn't built in a day, you know.

YOu two have barely scratched the surface and now you are worried that he isn't into you the way you expect him to be?

I guess I just feel confused by his behaviour...

Why does he contact me if he doesn't really want to chat? Before, the chat would flow easily and frequently. Now it's more sporadic. Like he can't be bothered to chat to me.

I guess it is early days, and yes, I am worried he's not in to me. Do you think I should just ask him straight in a weeks time? Once we've both had a bit of space?

What do you expect from his behaviour?

If you are confused by it then it means you have an expectation of how you think he should behave ... number #1 rule all females MUST learn .. you must learn this before you even learn how to put on mascara ... just because you sleep with the man, doesn't mean he is going to be emotionally bound to you.


Get that out of your mind this very second .. he isn't any different than he ever was to you being in an LDR .. but, you slept with him, now YOU have changed how you expect him to be.


and that is woman's ultimate mistake she makes nearly everytime .. no matter how many relationships she has .. she rarely learns this lesson and will fall prey to her own mistake over and over and over and again.


Just because he made love to you .... doesn't mean he has developed loving feelings .. mean don't equate love with sex.

Put the thought of love out of your head, put any expectations you have of how he is suppose to behave out of your head .... and just let this relationship ride to run its course.



Another thing you have to realize ... Pisces people live by the direct influences of their environment. When he was with you, you were his direct influence, and he liked the atmosphere of you so much, he let slip how much he was digging his time with you. Now, you two are physically seperated and you are no longer being the direct influence on him.


That's being a Pisces .. he cannot change that. He can tell you how much he likes you, but, he's relying 100% on memory

We had sex before when I first met him. I'm old and ugly enough to be very aware that it doesn't equate to love. So that's why it's odd that behaviour has changed. It's not that he was pursuing me for sex and once he got it, he's off. He was still attentive while we were having the LDR, but not so much now, and that's what's odd.

You??re right though. It's very early days and i should let it run its course. I just wondered whether you guys would be able to give me insight to ease my mind. I think we both need space to assess and then re-group.

Of course a guy wouldn't do that ... I'm sure they have sheep in his country.

He's a Pisces, he's not going to be the same person a continent away as he is in person .. without feeling the vibe, we can only imagine .. and if we are left to imagining, then it becomes something entirely different than the reality of it.


A Pisces cannot survive in an LDR !!!!

hi princess, i'm a saggi. i know of all the problems we could face: my bluntness against his sensitivity etc. but we are quite similar and get on well. or maybe that's me being unaware LOL

i do try though and be aware of what i say and, if anything, it's been him who has said insensitive things to me.