Do people really change?

This morning I responded to a post by Cansir-Rising, in which she said her boyfriend cheated on his previous girlfriend, and fathered a child by this other woman .... and my response to her was that a cheater is a cheater. And I've thought about this all day.

Don't we all jump to the conclusion that who a person was, is who they still are? But, is this accurate?

Just because a man cheated on a woman years ago .. doesn't mean he is still a cheater, does it?

However, do we really change? Even when we think we grow, do we find ourselves reverting back to old ways?

bijou made a thread several months ago about how we program our minds, we open pathways when we think about something for more than 5 minutes .... and we know that thoughts create our reality. So, do we think we change while times are new, but, as soon as they go 'wrong' .. do we inadvertantly open this doorway to stroll down the same road?

Because it's familiar.

Each of our action depicts different facets of our personality. In the Cansir-rising example, if he has cheated before,there is a probability that he will cheat again. But the chances of it happening depends on whether he saw his cheating as a mistake and repented. It also depends on how truly he loves Cansir-Rising.

"Don't we all jump to the conclusion that who a person was, is who they still are? But, is this accurate?"

Not necessarily accurate.. All of us are somewhat hardwired to a certain extent, but i truly think we can get past personal limitations by our own free-fighting will or (inner spirit) and (what) we continuously feed our brains and subsequent thought patterns. Reminds me, i saw an interesting piece on Larry King a few weeks ago, and they were talking about how we talk to and convince (ourselves) everyday about confirming habitual negative thought lines. Ironically, without even thinking about it much. Old habits can truly die hard! They mentioned, that instead of confirming a negativity about yourself or a situation --just by actually thinking about it; turn that thought around and ((challenge)) it. For eg. instead of saying to yourself, "i am a born cheater." ...say "who?? is a born cheater? ..the thing to remember is, NEVER* confirm or answer a negative thought, only challenge or ignore. The mind can truly get stuck in ruts for years and even decades, and can even sabotage people. It won't work overnight, but with much practice, the mind can be (retrained) for habitual success and positivity.. *so once a snake, not always a snake ... (and impo, surrounding yourself with like-minded positives peeps never hurts either. I also think the more your mind is rewired & renewed toward inner positivity, the more you will naturally seek these same people out.)

You're thoughts can become your life..

Oh yeah forgot to mention, they also said that human beings are *hardwired* for BLISS.. 🙂 ..sweeet