Do you are get offended if...

someone don't make eye contact with you when he/she talks to you?

I'm a rather shy and passive Taurean. I usually am not the first person to talk to others especially in a group, but if others talk to me I'll respond and make eye contact with them. But today...haha. I was so shy. Another colleague ask me for help on something, so I went over and help him. Then there's this one Piscean person in the office whom I'm attracted to and interested in, he was sitting beside my colleague, he just joins in and ask for help too. Then I repeat with my explanation and stuff all over using my colleague's computer very quick but did it as steady as possible. After I finish my explanation, I went back to my seat and realised I haven't made an eye-contact to him the whole time.

Haha...I hope it's not a big deal. I did try to talk to him when I have the opportunity, e.g. if he's sitting beside me. But I dare not make eye-contact otherwise. I did catch a few good glimpses of him when he isn't looking. hehe...

I think he's shy too. We didn't know each other that well. But I'm always the one to initiate conversation "small talks" with him, other than the first time he borrowed something from me. But at this rate, it's going to take forever to know him. haha... 2 shy people...

"every once in a while i "feel" eyes on me.. and my peripheral vision is good.. you cant fool me by looking at me when im not looking.."

Really? hehe...It's good taking a good glimpse of him once in a while. He's so charming and adorable. I don't feel him looking at me though...it's like he would walk pass everybody and say "hi" and make eye contact, but to me "nothing happen". He sits beside me one day and never even say "hi"...I have to make a conversation first. He's that shy!Or maybe just not interested.

"and to answer the question.. when i talk in a group setting i often find myself not looking at the people im talking to.. im a terrible public speaker.. one on one i usually make eye contact though.."

Well me too, ianthefish! I'm rather passive. If people starts talking to me one on one, I will get the conversation going.

Our job is such that we won't be in the office that often. We are usually at our client place. So it's not easy to ask him out, especially I don't have his cellphone. But next year, we are doing a job together. Hopefully, the schedule doesn't change and we get to know each other better.

"But if you see he is being shy then you should step up and that will reasure him that the feelings are mutual and he'll become more open to you but he's not going to do it until he feels comfortable but if you both just sit and wait for the other you're never going to get anywhere. So don't just leave everything up to him. If you like him then show him that and see how he responds and then you'll know what to do from that point on."

Ya, Cusp of Magic, I been trying to be the one to take the initiative when I have the opportunity like that was one time I was in the lift. I tried to talk to him. But in a group, it's hard, especially he's talking to others all the time. haha.

I agree with Ian.

We are pretty aware of everything that goes on around us, and what it means for a person to act coy in front of us, and then boldly look when back is turned .... I would venture to assume that he already knows you like him, Notabully.

OMG, he knows! hehe... I know Pisces is sensitive but didn't know they are that sensitive.

It's not a big deal getting rejected. What I do fear, if he's not interested and he starts avoiding me...and things get awkward like what happened between me and the previous Pisces...especially in a working environment. I know what you mean, Hizaki, it's not desirable and not easy to date someone in your office. It's not easy to ask him out alone as there is always other co-workers around. Not easy to talk. I hope I have the opportunity someday.

"There in a comfortable setting you can tell him how you feel."

If I tell him that I like him...would it be too direct and scared him away? Because of previous experience, I don't want to come off as being too strong or pushy or stalky. Should I get to know him better first before I tell him that I like him?

In your position, I wouldn't ask him out for lunch to express feelings .. that seems pretty presumptious, considering you two haven't even made a minimal connection, so expressing feelings is way out of boundaries.

Especially considering we're talking about two males. Females would tell you to express emotions because that's what girls would do. If you did this, NotaBully, he's likely freak out because men don't anticipate other men coming on like a female.

In your position, I would gather the guts to give him The Eye. Let him see you stare at him with desire. You say you look at him when he's not watching .... well, look at him when he is watching. Don't stare as in being rude .. I mean the stare of lust.

If he gives you the look back, you'll know he's interested .. then you could consider being forward in asking him for lunch without worrying about whether you'll frighten him away.

OOpps, I am mistaken .. men told you to express feelings.


Pisces .. awwweee .. even the males are feely.

Yes - I look people directly in the eye when im talking too them.
I was told that if people look everywhere except at you when theyre talking to you, theyre not really interested in what youre saying!
Not sure if thats true, but Yes, Eye Contact is very important

Thanks for all the help. I really bad at dating...never date before. But definitely I wouldn't express feelings to him directly in first meeting. It's just too weird. haha...

"In your position, I would gather the guts to give him The Eye. Let him see you stare at him with desire. You say you look at him when he's not watching .... well, look at him when he is watching. Don't stare as in being rude .. I mean the stare of lust."

P-angel...haha. When I read this, I find it very funny. Don't know why, probably the way you describe it. I don't know if I can stare him with "lust". haha. Erm..probably not at the moment. He's really a very cute boy. hee... I did try and watch him like 3-4 secs at his far side...he didn't look back. I try looking when his back is facing me. haha... Guess he didn't sense it. haha.

"^^i use those tactics.. if i give them the "stare" they will come to me.. but im the pisces.."

Ya, don't know if I can pull off the pisces' "stare". But Taurus have their own sweet way of attracting people. hee...

"Ever had a Scorpio stare you in the eyes while talking to you? *Shivers*"

MsPisces, what is it about a Scorpio stare? I read quite a lot abt the Scorpio's stare here. But I haven't felt it yet. My younger bro is a scorpio...his stare has no effect on me. And when he speaks in a "not so nice" tone...I'll score him. haha. Don't be intimidated by them...they are not that scary.