Ex Pisces Not Ready. just need encouragement :)

I just need some encouragement from anyone...

I finally got up the courage to ask the ex Pisces what he wanted from me, and he said he wasn't ready to give all of himself to me (due to all the hrs at work, and some trust issues). I totally understand he has a lot going on in his life with being a restaurant manager and a workaholic. I told him if he really wanted a relationship we could work something out together...

I was already expecting the conversation to go like this. I had said that I cant handle being friends when we both want to hug/kiss every second when we see each other. I said I wanted a committed relationship or nothing at all...he said it wasnt fair of me to do that. I said I can't pretend I don't have feelings for you.

Anyways, the night ended with his decision being as he wasn't ready (I'm assuming he expects me to wait around for him for when he IS ready, but I cant do that)

I just need some encouragement here!!!

If he does contact me, I think I will just tell him that since we want different things right now, I need time to myself to heal & live my life. A part of me still wants to keep him around in my life for no apparent reason...just to torture myself. But I have to be STRONG this time. I HAVE to. I can't put my life on hold for him. I need someone who knows without a doubt they want to be with me.

Isn't there a saying that goes "if you love something set it free, if it comes back, it's yours & meant to be?"

I guess only time will tell, but I dont have TIME to wait for that time to come...or maybe my patience is being tested. hmm

Anyone care to add their comments/thoughts/experiences on my lovely situation? lol

Im a libra!
Yes there are plenty of fish in the sea...

Its funny because I prepared myself for this, I was so ready to just know where everything stood and put it behind me. Now that I made my decision, I feel like its the wrong one. I know it was the right decision to stick up for myself though...just hate this feeling.

I even said do you expect me to wait for you or something?? he said no. And i said why spend my time with someone who doesnt want a relationship when theres someone out there who does want it? He just didnt see the logic in me cutting him off....well thats because he wants to keep me around, for whatever reason. I dont get that...

Hm, well he is older than me. He's 27.
According to our charts....
Both our moons are in Sagittarius
His venus = Aries, My venus = Libra
His mars= Aries, My mars = Virgo
His mercury= Pisces, My mercury= Libra
His jupiter= Sagittarius, My jupiter= Aries
His Saturn= Scorpio, My saturn= Sagittarius
Both Uranus in Sagittarius

I have NO idea how to decipher any of that. lol But those are the results I got from CafeAstrology.com 🙂
Maybe you could help me? haha
Also, why do you say that if you were him, you would also play with me to keep me at a distance?? Did you mean because of the sexual chemistry?

Posted by simplysweet987


I even said do you expect me to wait for you or something?? he said no. And i said why spend my time with someone who doesnt want a relationship when theres someone out there who does want it? He just didnt see the logic in me cutting him off....well thats because he wants to keep me around, for whatever reason. I dont get that...

He purposely didn't see the logic because he wants to have his cake and eat it, too. 😛 You're doing the right thing. Don't second guess your decision, Libra! lol It's difficult enough for you guys to actually make one, so now that you have, stick to it!

I've never understood the "remaining friends" with exes crap. If one person still has feelings for the other, then the only person who benefits from that arrangement is the person who DOES NOT want something more serious. They feed off the attention and can use the other persons feelings to manipulate them.

You need a complete break from this. You're an air sign - detach and fly away! Easier said than done, but once you do, you'll be much better off. If you keep hanging with him, then either consciously or subconsciously, you'll always be waiting on him, and you may miss out on other opportunities for the real deal.

Okay King, I get what youre saying. Just another question though...
you said "If you were interested in me I would politely decline. If you persisted I would keep you hanging like a suspension cable. Giving enough hope in order for you to not get obsessed with me but short enough to make you go away. The problem with most Pisces is that they just can't say 'No' and Libras (and most signs really) can't take a hint."

Now tell me...what happens when the Libra actually DOES go away?
The only reason I ask this is because of this: I said is there a possibility of any relationship at all in the near future? He said, of course, or else I would have just said no & would not keep talking to you...
I have ignored him since then (Sunday), I woke up this morning with a text on my phone from him last night saying "good night, just want you to know im thinking about you, sweet dreams, ill talk to you soon."

If i CONTINUE to ignore these messages, does this "make me go away" in his eyes? Does that make sense? And if he wants me to go away so bad, then why keep talking to me to give me hope? What is the logic in giving someone hope when in reality there is no hope?...

Just a thought 🙂

Be tough and firm with him and explain what you want without leaving things to the slightest question. You have to prove your power with him. If he doesnt trust you for whatever reason its something he feels is amiss. We will keep you hanging on if theres something but not everything.

Theres no pattern here. No correct answer you have to appeal to his innermost soul to get what you want. What makes him tick? Work it out and put some work into a gesture that cannot be ignored. Set yourself apart and show him that true feelings exist and do not waver.

You will get your answer after that if he rejects it there is truly nothing left and you should never interact with him again. If the opposite occurs then youve spoken his language and hes yours. Our language is always love. He thinks more like a woman than you realize so if your trying to figure it out from a male perspective your already messing it up.

You're 22. Enjoy youth!

Posted by PandorasBox
Find someone else who will give you what you want without havin to ask.

He has you hangin on a "maybe".

Maybe if he doesn't find someone else to bone he'll choose you, maybe if no one gives him the time of day he'll go to you, you're his second option.

Cut this man loose. It's for the best. You'll find someone worthy of your time w/ all that Libran charm of yours! Go ahead and let go

ok, unfortuanatly I have done this to someone. I didnt want a committed relationship but told them maybe in the future. I genually really liked them, but i knew i could not deliver 100% , it would be unfair.
Libras do have this irrisistable charm and passion about them, dont respond to his texts, and if you are to do so, tell him in a non chalant way that you understand his position and if your paths were to ever cross again, you can both see if it possible.

Butttt coming from a Pisces. be stern, detach yourself from the situation and have fun (he might change his mind though and "be ready" all of a sudden, lol

just to update everyone...i did cut him loose...for a few weeks, and wanted to be his friend again so started talking to him. I thought I'd be able to keep things as friends and block out feelings. No of course not.

So this last time (two weeks ago) I finally talked to him again about it (third time) and I kept getting excuses and he wants to be friends for now because alot going on in his life. (TRANSLATION: its not you that I want)oh well...so that was the last time I talked with him...

UNTIL YESTERDAY...he showed up at my house to give me a ham. SERIOUSLY? and I live with my parents, so that was even weirder. Also, I sleep during the day because I work night shifts...so my mom met him outside and took the ham. WHO GIVES A HAM TO THEIR EX AFTER NOT TALKING TO THEM FOR TWO WEEKS? for thanksgiving or not...it doesn't matter. It's not like my house is in town either...I live a good half-hour away from town. lol and I haven't said thank you only because I feel like I've given that guy enough and have been empty-handed the whole time. I'm pretty sure he's pushed me far enough by now...Oh the head games. Just don't get it.

starting to get the impression that Pisces are some odd cookies. lol

GACK

This story is so intriguing! I've never been able to understand Pisces men! The two I have dated drove me crazy with their flakiness and endless mind games! Ugh. They don't know what they want, but for some reason want you in there life. However, when you are in their life they are too "busy" to do anything with you. Always the workaholic/addicts that can't tell you what they want. Ugh! I can't stand them!

I am dealing with a Pisces as well. We were intimate one but now we are friends. Even as a friend he's just never there! Ugh! Talk about emotional unavailablity! So this pisces pops in and out of my life. He says, "I miss you" one minute and then stops talking to me. ugh! We have parted ways twice, and everytime he emails me wanting to be friends, but doesn't do anything to maintain our friendship.

It use to drive me up the wall, because I know he's too polite to tell me what he really feels-hence the endless mindgames! Now, I finally got the Picese guy down. I told him, if he wants me than he has to make the move. I am putting our friendship in his hands. So far nothing.