Golden opportunity taken away...

I'm a bit upset yesterday...realising that my work schedule has been changed. I won't have a chance to work with my Pisces crush. Sad!

I don't know if it's a sign that co-workers should not date each other. lol. Or maybe it's a sign that I should get to know him using my own effort.

Any advice what I should do? I don't see him around in the office so much...cos' I'm not in the office...neither is him. And when we are at the office, it's difficult to single him out to talk as he's always talking to somebody else.

How do I get to know him better? Will it be too imposing if I sent him a message in facebook or friendster? Will it scare him off (probably depending what I say...haha)? We only just met a few times, if I ask him out for lunch, will I seem to aggressive?

It probably will sound funny to you all. haha. But I haven't date anyone before and was afraid being a Taurus, I may be too direct. It's not easy being homo in an Asian community...especially in a working environment. Don't want to harm him or myself.

I'm quite unsure how I should approach him. What I'm sure is I want to know him better. Me Taurus = too cautious! hehe...=)

I've finally sent him a message on Friendster.

And I really can't stand Taurean's trait sometimes. I been lurking in front of my computer since yesterday...pondering what I should do. Even when I finished typing the msg, I'm still thinking whether I should send it. My inner voice keeps screaming to me "Just send it!" haha...

Sometimes, my "slowness", my passive and shy personality...really do irritates myself. haha. I'm glad I did send it...at least now no matter happen...I don't have to ponder what I should do.

"It's not easy being homo in an Asian community...especially in a working environment."


Romance is tricky, and not a good idea, in any working environment, regardless of orientation.

Maybe you could consider relocating your residency, NotaBully, if you feel like your culture/community is holding you back from being able to express yourself openly.

Your soul wants to love a man, and you should let your soul do this without any barriers ... if you are to be complete in this life. If you forsake who you are because of social pressures, then you will diminish as a man, NotaBully. 😢


If your community prevents you from being the man you are, then I would counsel you on moving, relocating to a city where you can be free to live within feeling your freedom of expression.

Hey, P-angel, reading your post makes me cry the other night. I broke down in tears when I was about to sleep. hee...Embarrassed. But it feels good to cry once a while and let all the emotions out.

Well, I did consider about shifting my residency. But I love it here. Secure, safe...my friends and family are all here. Maybe I'm just a stubborn Taurean who doesn't like change. I can leave to a society who accept my orientation...but I don't know...having blessing and acceptance from my friends and family means a lot to me. And if I leave without having their blessing and acceptance from them...I guess no matter where I go to, I will still feel lonely and regret.

And if I don't find my love of my life, I don't think I have the courage to move to a new place to live. Love brings courage.

Oh I feel like crying again. I don't want to feel diminish as a man. But it just isn't the right time yet. I know it's sucks...the social pressure and etc...but I'm not going to let it get in my way. Not going to marry a gal so I can please my family or the society. That has always been my belief.

When I manage to find the right guy for me...someone whom I love and feel secure with for the rest of my life. I will be open with my sexuality and there's no stopping me from loving my dear. =)

I'm still waiting and hoping one day the right person will come. Someone who I love so much that will bring out my courage. I still believe the someone is out there. =)

SD, sorry I shocked you. Haha... I think I shocked a couple of people in the forum like Gemgal. Assumption is deadly. haha. I never did once say I'm a gal.

Hizaki, thanks for your email. Like I've said in the email, I know he's gay and he's interested with men. How I know? Through facebook. He seems very closeted too (probably less so than me). I didn't want to add him on facebook because his account do not have any co-workers and mine do have. If I start adding him and other co-workers may do likewise. Don't want to out him against his will. So I only add him on friendster.

Met him in office yesterday. Nice. He was talking with the other co-workers. Smile to him at the other end. He's such a cutie...charming yet tad shy personality. Hee...I'm mermerised. =)

Don't want to do anything too drastic as of yet. Romance in office is tricky. So am probably just going to take things slow from here out and hopefully will find a chance to get to know him better.