has the coldness comes over you?

I've been in a relationship with a man who seems dedicated to misunderstanding me. Every positive step moves we achieves moves me 2 steps back because he doesn't seem to what to know who I am.

He assigns my actions and feelings meanings I don't have. I see myself wanting to pull away and wanting to convince him he's wrong at the same time. I think I'm just more annoyed with myself. Couple this feeling with him but the 2 exes who professed deep regret over that last 24 hours and mindbogglingly annoying.

Why is it I can't be understood and accepted as I want? This makes me start to fee; indifferent and cold towards men.

Posted by busyeyes88
I am a taurus either a Leo moon and a venus and Saturn in pisces. I know that feeling which is why my relationships never work. I am too strong minded in that I know who I am and what I want as an INDIVIDUAL. I always say ' i am a circle and I am not going to let anyone cut my 'edges' off to fit into their square' so if they don't like it they can f*** off!! Lol lol As I am happy being ME!! And if that means staying single.. Then do be it!! Lol l lol PS. I am also a 66 fire horse... I will not be tamed lol lol

Let the 'coldness' commence!!! Lol

Yup, I've got a leo moon. I've never really tried with anyone so I thought I was being a brat. At the first sign of not being emotionally safe, I usually run

Posted by Infinite8
Perhaps you are not clear enough to him? He is frustrating to you because he is teaching you a lesson you don't want to learn - communicating more verbally about who you are, what you think and why - so much so, that he would no longer have to question who you are...

It sounds to me that he is frustrated too in trying to figure you out and out of the desperation he tries to come up with his own conclusions of who you are so that you can either correct him or agree with him. But, he wants you to speak more.

Isn't he a Scorpio? If so, it's a negative sign (just like all water and earth signs)... So, his first impression will be negative and perhaps in deep hopes that he is proven wrong.

Yup he's a scorpio but sun and moon along with about 3 other important placements. I figured this made him inherently judgmental. I thought it was our insecurities but sometimes I wonder who does he think I am.

Posted by Arrius
The two of you are fundamentally incompatible. This will not change or improve. Move on.

Maybe you're right, he broke up with me this morning

You missed a bullet. Trust me. This break up doesn't hurt nearly as much as staying with him would have.

Livictori are you being a whale type piscean? Sometimes we become that way because....well theres many reasons. Sometimes piscean don't want to be dominated. Most of the times e just don't care. But i think sometimes we hide our true piscean nature with arrogance and or indifference. And i think sometimes it throws scorpio men off while they're figuring us out. I sometimes become whale ish because even I'm heavily piscean with Sun venus lots of other planets and I'm ruled by neptune 😢 and all that duality can make life a living hell. I try to feign indifference because people can tell I'm drowning in my tears. When i become my natural self, i run the risk of exposing an entire ocean and of drowning others.

Maybe this is you. I hope i helped rlly 🙂 but maybe you need to let you piscean softness and vulnerability peek out a little more. Maybe that leo moon is asking you to do something your heart isn't willing to do.

I cried and told him I was falling in love with him. I mean sobbing to the point he had to call me back because he said he couldn't hear me like that.
The problem is, he's not ready. I actually think he loves me but someone told him we should just be friends and I'm just not going to beg. It hurts but if he doesn't value me now it will be exponentially worse later.

He wants to call me like everything is ok. I don't know if it's a test but I feel like the responsibility is on him to at minimal explain himself. Adults don't do this

Posted by livictori
I cried and told him I was falling in love with him. I mean sobbing to the point he had to call me back because he said he couldn't hear me like that.
The problem is, he's not ready. I actually think he loves me but someone told him we should just be friends and I'm just not going to beg. It hurts but if he doesn't value me now it will be exponentially worse later.

He wants to call me like everything is ok. I don't know if it's a test but I feel like the responsibility is on him to at minimal explain himself. Adults don't do this

Just follow your heart. And if he comes back then good. But don't get yourself hurt. Ever. The thing about scorpio pisces connections is that they're so unpredictable. And don't do stuff just to pass his tests, just follow your heart.

The ironic part is I come here because I don't tell my friends my relationship problems. I re-read the four agreements when ever I get really down in the dumps. I did that and read the 5th agreement. REALLY good. I'm somber of course and it hurts but all I can do is sit back and question my motives. Why I want him and why I would if I did take him back.

The father of my children called me and I couldn't help but breakdown. We've maintained our friendship but have never talked about our relationships with other people. He's also a Scorpio and we were together for 14 years. He predict my current ex will comeback and we will be married. He said he remembers feeling certain things about me that made him behave a certain way but not look at it in the perspective of how he was treating me. He says, when he calls; hear him out. I was really surprised. He said and I quote "I wasn't ready for you and you scared the shit out of me. I didn't have enough to give you and you never stopped asking for more"
When I asked him to explain he said a man has to be ready. I can play around but if I'm not ready, a woman like you won't let me forget. And you just give and give makes me feel so small. The stronger you got the more you scared me. I knew you were going to leave.


My current ex feels like karma on a lot of levels. Things he's done to people, Things I've done to people have impacted us as opposites. The connection was effortless and honest but boy were we scared. It's not just the fact that I see a younger,less jaded version of myself with him but he stirs the feeling of vulnerability and commitment in me. There are things you just feel. I told the father of my children I would not do the back and forth with this guy. The is poison for me. It makes me desperate and demanding. It makes me greedy for love and less conscientious of if it's right vs wrong. It makes me obsessive and irrational. I never want to love like that unless I know that person is in there with me. So while it hurts, I maybe willing to wait and talk but pretty much, I can't jump off the deep end

Girl please do not ignore his actions. A breakup is code word for FUCK OFF. When someone loves you they don't make you cry, they don't test you in ways that make you feel bad (what is this? high school?), they don't second guess you. If homeboy was really scared about the relationship he should have talked to you like a real man, not break up with you like a coward. Please don't try to rationalize his actions. Breaking up with someone is very telling of how they really feel.

You're a very emotionally vulnerable right now. I think it's important that I say that you stay grounded in reality. He broke up with you and now he's trying to call you like everything is okay because he feels bad. Do not accept his scraps because you want to be in love.

Cry it out, clear your mind, and move on.

Sorry if I sound harsh but I refuse to be one of those women that encourages other women to stay in situations that don't really benefit them.

As beautiful as love is it is never worth sacrificing your mental/spiritual health. Remeber your tears. Love isn't supposed to make you feel that way. Dont wait on him. Move on.

Posted by Magenta_Azure
Sorry if I sound harsh but I refuse to be one of those women that encourages other women to stay in situations that don't really benefit them.

As beautiful as love is it is never worth sacrificing your mental/spiritual health. Remeber your tears. Love isn't supposed to make you feel that way. Dont wait on him. Move on.

I fully understand what you are saying without being offended.

I wend back and forth only with only the father of my children. Breaking away from that was a viscous painful experience. I literally never want that again in life