He doesn't want a relationship but gets jealous

I have been dating a pisces for about 2 1/2 months. Things are great, we have a good connection, get along great and have a blast. We spend probably close to 4 or 5 days out of the week together. I have been introduced to all his friends and just met his parents a couple weeks ago. Things seem to be moving along perfectly except he won't say we are togther. In fact, he makes it a point to tell me that. Says he doesn't want to be tied down or have a girl asking him all the time where he is or who he is with. Thing is, I never bring this up. Ever. Relationships are where this is all going. It is always him like it is always on his mind.

He jokes around every once in a while almost saying he loves me. Always asking how I feel about him. He got really drunk the other night. Again asked how I felt about him. Said he would never cheat on me even though we are not together and doesn't want me with anyone else. Says he wants only me. Ok, then what is the difference between being in a relationship and what we have now?! Later that night he was joking again and said he loved me. I just looked at him and said, "you do?" He just smiled and we dropped it. Then he talked about getting married but again he was kinda joking around.

Thing is he gets jealous and kinda possessive and jokingly accuses me of cheating. It is getting on my nerves only because he reminds me all the time we are not together. I just don't get it. I really really like him but this is getting to me and I really don't want to bring it up only to get into an arguement or scare him off.

I have never dated a pisces so this is new to me. He is so sweet and caring and always doing things for me. Treats me like I am his girlfriend but says we are not together. I know he has been jerked around by previous girlfriends but he hasn't had a girlfriend in 4 years! His friends all tell me they haven't seen him bring a girl around in a long time. So I don't get it. maybe I should just keep being patient but him thinking I am cheating on him or getting possessive is getting to me. Especially since I never ask him anything about where he is or where he is going because he says he hates that. Sorry so long, just trying to figure this guy out!

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2. Projection.

3. Insecurities abound!

4. Good luck

He seems to really care for me but why all this dicking me around?

So you are saying I should mirror him and ask him who he is talking to or if he is cheating on me? Or are you saying to just do my own thing and be more of a mystery to him?

Ok, wrote that last comment before I read all yours. Thanks for your advice. I think he thinks that he has me already. He expects me to be around every weekend. Expects to be including in all my plans with me and my friends. Invites himself everywhere I go. That is my fault though I guess.

What if he tries to contact me?

Nevermind, I see that I should still be nice to him but turn down requests.
Thanks so much for your advice. It all makes sense really. I do need some time for myself anyways. The two days I am away from him, it is like a breath of fresh air. don't get me wrong, I like him and spending time with him but I need time to myself. I feel like we have been spending too much time together anyways. He just kinda gives me a guilt trip when I do something without him. He has even joked around and said he will call his backup instead. Whatever. He is 33 but is obviously still playing a lot of games. I dealt with this crap in high school. Shouldn't be dealing with it now at this age. He is always testing me it seems.

So time away is just what I need. Again thanks so much for the great advice.

Well, I spent all weekend with him because we had plans with friends and stuff for a while and he really made me upset. One night he says he is falling in love with me. The next night he goes out, takes some pics of a girl in lingerie at some bar he was at, not just one pic either and then tells me he really wants me to come out so he can see me. Posts a pic on his FB page of a half naked girl and says he did that to make me jealous so I would come out to see him. The next day he tells me before I went out there to see him, he got another girl's number but doesn't know or remember who it was. I kinda let it know it upset me. Yeah, we aren't together but these stupid games make me mad. He told me he has to keep me on my toes.

Then I tell him I need to talk to him about some things. He asks what and I tell him that certain things that happened this weekend really makes me think and if I even want to put up with it. I said I wasn't mad but upset and didn't want to deal with drama. He replied it is Monday night football and as long as I don't mind, I can come over and vent to him. That pissed me off even more. So I just replied that this was about us and I needed his full attention so I guess it will have to be another night. No reply from him. I think I am done. I like him but we are 33. What is with all this game playing? All he is doing is pushing me away and turning me off. I guess if I don't hear from him, I am just going to disappear and not just for a week. Should have took your advice right off the bat.

Posted by rockyroadicecream
1. Cakey eaty.

2. Projection.

3. Insecurities abound!

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