Help needed, pisces confuses me badly!!

Hi!

I've a story to tell about a pisces and a leo (that would be me) and any thoughts about this, to clear my mind, would be helpful and received with gratitude, it's a long story, I'll try to focus on the essential.

Once upon a time, last fall, I met a pisces through work. We had a connection instantly, but this was never spoken out loud. We lived in different countries, so after our brief encounter in my hometown where he was visiting, we became friends online. We were both going through breakups and found each others company cheerful and fun and just got along very well. I noticed I was developing feelings for him, but didn't want to say anything, until the right moment.

After four months of talking online, turned out I would be visiting his country, through work/fun, we would be attending the same event. We were both looking forward to meeting each other and hang out. And we did. Within an half an hour of meeting face to face for the first time since last fall, we both just gave in and admitted we were badly smitten, he first. It was incredibly easy and natural, we were floating. In a tipsy moment he spoke of years of happiness that he sees with me, love even.

After a weekend of fun, he asked me to spend the rest of my stay with him at his place. It was great to get out of the fun environment of the weekend into the normal world, we spent two days just strolling along, lying around, staring into each others eyes and holding hands, watching films, cuddling. It was easier and more perfect than anything I've ever experienced.We never had sex, we agreed that there would be a time for that, later. He spoke of coming to see me soon, that he wanted to earlier already, but didn't dare.

Then I came home. Two days after that he sent me an email explaining that he still has nightmares about his ex, that he is not over her and that after I've been gone he has fallen back to feeling the pain he had before. That if he hasn't ruined everything he want's to be friends and he doesn't want this to be the end.

Now I've fallen, so badly and am at a loss, what to do? I'm stubborn, I really think this is something that might happen only once in a lifetime. My heart wont let me forget him, I want to help him move forward. Is this possible? Im so confused, so very very confused. What I would normally do if someone treated me this way, is to just say goodbye and try to heal myself. With him, I feel I can't. That I need to see this throgh. Do we have a chance

The Pisces has to have a direct influence of his environment .. for this reason, he cannot do an LDR. While you were there, you were his direct influence, and life was great. You left, now his environment is dealing with the pain of an ex.


There's no hope for any Pisces person in a long-distance-relationship ... so, no, there is no way you can get him to emotionally attach to you, so long as you two aren't in close proximity of each other.


Your only option with this man is to live close to each other, where he can see you everyday, and pick up on your vibes.


He is capable of being friends at a distance ... but, even then, don't expect him to relate his feelings for you, to you, because without picking up on your energy, he can't relate, really, except in memory of how it felt, and then it will fade.

thank you for your insight.

i can't believe this is happenig, this just feels so completely wrong after feeling so incredibly right.
also it breaks my heart that he is in such pain. he told me he hasn't smiled or laughed like he did when we were together for a long time.
i want him to keep smiling. this is unbearable.

Maybe since you two work together, one of you can get a transfer?

I feel like that option is out of the question, I wouldn't dream of bringing that up, not now. When he told me about his pain over his past, he said he wants to be friends with me. So I told him that I don't know what to do with all these sweet feelings I have for him now, to hold them or let them go. To which he replied "it might be better if you can let them go, i don't know" I feel comfortable being very honest with him, so I told him that I don't want to lose him existing as a person, that it's all too valuable to go to waste and we agreed that being in each others lives in some way is important, as friends, as before. So, I dont know, I trust him completely, I don't think he was playing me when we were together, just that life is very confusing for him. But still, he said he has feelings for me, but his feelings for his ex are stronger, at least for now. That he thought it could change, but after I left it was the same as before. When we were together I once asked him if all this wonderfulness was really for real to which he said "oh god, you are the love of my life" And I believed him. I almost still do. But I don't want to preassure him. And I have to consider the possibility that he just doesn't want me. I should believe and trust his judgement. But my heart doesn't. My heart just wants back that what we shared together.

Thanks for reading, I must sound completely nuts. I am just very confused and sad over this.

Pisces are the most complex sign there is.
Somehow it knows all signs which makes things very confusing.

Yeah, actually you do sound nuts .. but, to me everyone sounds completely nuts, so no new news there.


A Pisces doesn't fall emotionally, so I'm unsure about him telling you that he can't get past the pain of an ex. ARe you meaning that he still loves his ex?

I'm sure it is sad for you .... but, you have to come to terms with this. A man, any man, no matter his sun sign ... if he tells you that he enjoyed his time with you, but, now he's still feeling this other person, and perhaps, you shouldn't wait for him, maybe just consider being friends .....


... this is a clear sign on the wall = he's not into you



You have to walk away from this. Take to your heart the good memories, the good times and then pay it forward with your next love

Posted by P-Angel
Yeah, actually you do sound nuts .. but, to me everyone sounds completely nuts, so no new news there.


A Pisces doesn't fall emotionally, so I'm unsure about him telling you that he can't get past the pain of an ex. ARe you meaning that he still loves his ex?

He said he has nightmares about his ex, that the feelings come over him, he doesn't want them and knows he will never be with her. That with me he thought he would be ready for a new love and relationship, but that when I left he soon started feeling bad and depressed again, that he thought he wouldn't. He said his feelings for his ex are "stronger, at least for now".

I know I should walk away, but I can never walk away completely, we will be friends, if that is what we are. Because, meeting someone that feels this epic is not something I can walk away from. So, we will be friends, and I think things will calm and cool down for me. And I hope he will survive his pain. We know we will meet again in a few months, hopefully we will be at a better place by then. I don't mean relationship wise, even though I can't deny that inside I dream of that too, but just as people and friends.

Posted by P-Angel
The Pisces has to have a direct influence of his environment .. for this reason, he cannot do an LDR. While you were there, you were his direct influence, and life was great. You left, now his environment is dealing with the pain of an ex.


There's no hope for any Pisces person in a long-distance-relationship ... so, no, there is no way you can get him to emotionally attach to you, so long as you two aren't in close proximity of each other.


Your only option with this man is to live close to each other, where he can see you everyday, and pick up on your vibes.


He is capable of being friends at a distance ... but, even then, don't expect him to relate his feelings for you, to you, because without picking up on your energy, he can't relate, really, except in memory of how it felt, and then it will fade.

Co-Sign

The truth of the matter is RUN!!!I was involved with a Leo and found him to be selfish,shallow, and full of himself and it doesn't get any better.(I'm Pisces)