Help understanding my Pisces?

Hi all, I'm new to dxp but I'm looking for some help understanding what is going on in the head of my Pisces guy.

I've been seeing this guy for a few months now. I'm 22 and he's 4 years older. We instantly hit it off (I'm a cancer, so duh), everything has been going so well, we have the exact same sense of humor, we give each other the space we need, but I have never needed to worry because he always shows me how much he cares and makes times for me, etcetc.
We're both very mobile too, we love traveling and have both lived abroad and plan to do so again and basically just see as much of the world as possible.

So basically a few weeks into our relationship, I found out I was accepted into this amazing internship in another country. I was excited, but a little nervous because even though we hadn't been together long, I was really hopeful about things. He was totally supportive a few weeks AFTER finding out that I was leaving he initiated the conversation about us officially being exclusive and whatnot. Everything continued on fantastically.

So I leave in less than two weeks so we just had the conversation about where we stand and now I'm totally confused. At first he said he wanted to "open" our relationship while I'm gone, but wouldn't get into anything serious because he really likes what we have, yada yada. Then we continued the conversation and I just began to feel more and more confused because hed go on about how much he likes me but then it felt like he just didnt see all this as something as serious as I saw it. Yet he had brought me to meet the parents, had met mine, we had mentioned traveling together in the future, etc. I don't know, basically I'm confused as hell and this really doesnt seem like piscean behavior. Any insight?

Also, I should add the internship is only 2 months long.

Well...this could be many things. There are certain people who wouldn't mind being in open relationships and sleeping around as long as they knew they'd find their way back to each other. However, it doesn't seem to me like you like that sort of thing (and I mean, yeah, not a whole lot of people would). If you're totally against it, verbalize that to him. Though, he may not want to stay around after, but if not, then that is his problem. He needs to respect your decisions and views, too. If he can't do that, it would probably end up causing a lot of arguments later down the road.
I think he truely sees something with you, if even a few more months, and he doesn't see anything wrong with going your own ways until you get back. I'd say it's a step up that he's at least talking to you about it, rather than saying 'yeah, we're exclusive' and then go sleep around when you're gone.
If you just talk it over with your man, you might be able to come up with better conditions for when you're away. Two months isn't long, so it's not like he's going to die without physical contact or whatever during that time. Ask him why he wants to do that, but don't get angry/defensive about it.

Honestly as a pisces I must say that you being in a different country will be the kiss of death. Pisces needs to be in constant contact with the object of their affection. Seriously we do. Even if you have the best intentions on both of your part and you talk and skype whatever everyday our feelings will fade after a while if there is no physical contact. He will long to be near you and you both can't and that will kill him and eventually he will have to shut down that part of his self because it will hurt too damn much. Which in a way will hurt the way he feels about you. So slowly but surely his intense feelings for you will fade. Pisces need direct contact fo fuel us, let me restate direct contact with the object of our affections.

We could be totally into a person but if you add space into that equation it will equal loss of affection, want and desire for that person and we will end up in the shoulder shrug section when we think of you. Sorry tis how it works.

I will say one thing at least he was open and honest about him wanting to get some luvings while you were gone. Some guys would say I'll never do anything all the while keeping his eyes open for his latest conquest.

2 months, honestly, isn't the longest time to be with someone and relocate and expect them to wait for ya...sorry but just being open, honest and blunt. A year yeah I can see that but wholly molly! Is your move temporary or permanent. If it's the latter due let him go for both of your sake.

He basically told you want he wants....to handle his biz while you are gone. You can either accept the terms of the agreement as P-Angel calls this or just tell him you don't accept either throw up th double deuces and leave or let the ball fall into his court.

But for the love of everything holy don't say you agree then get jealous and get in his arse when you find out he's being handling his biz. If you do this it will piss him off, confuse him and he will think you're a liar. So be truthful and honest with yourself. Think about what you can handle and go from there.

Good luck.

Oops I thought the 2 months were for how long you were together not how long the internship is.

I dunno 2 months with no vajayjay for some guys is asking for the world...so I dunno. In my eyes 2 months with no physical contact will hurt the relationship in a way. If you both agree and want to keep things moving along when you get back he will have to introduce himself with you...plus you will have to deal with that whole did he do the do with someone and is just not telling me.

So again good luck.

He's not into you yet. He's still analyzing but there's no doubt he likes you.
It just that he's not sure either you like him as well. Pisces like to be nourished and pampered
by their loves one. Continue being yourself and show how much you care about him.

Many love from Pisces..

Nothing confusing .. I hate it when women use that term to mean >>> they want the man to vow undying love for them, but, he doesn't do that because he doesn't feel it.


You two barely know each other ... get a grip

all of the points above may very well be true, whatmaycome... but he could also be testing you to see how serious you are about staying loyal to him during those two months.

Don't expect him to put his emotions on the line or any great outpourings of sentiment, when it is YOU who is going away. It is not his job to make you feel secure in the relationship when it is YOUR choice to leave.

If you want to stay exclusive and want to continue this relationship when you come back... tell him how you feel without expectations of his response.

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finally, the voice of reason enters

Thanks everyone, some really sound advice here.

He wanted to continue seeing each other during the short time I have left and he seemed pretty bummed when I said I wasn't sure if I could do that. I think I'm just going to gather my thoughts and have another conversation with him... lay it all out before making any decisions. Thanks again, all 🙂

He definitely likes you, but being apart for 2 months is a big deal in such a new relationship. It's not even necessarily physical (though sometimes it is), but from your case it seems more like he's afraid of the pain of withdrawl. After all, falling for someone is kinda like a drug, and 2 months is a long time without a fix. I'm sure he wouldn't say that to you though, because as a Pisces he doesn't want to hold you back from your dreams and ambitions.

It's a tough choice, but if you can promise him that nothing will change and there will be nothing better than being back together, he may go for it. Just don't force it, because if it's not a choice from his heart then 2 months later you'll be finding out he cheated on you behind your back and you'll be back on DXP wondering what the heck happened.

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Hes being a bit testy its his way of lashing out in a way he know doesnt resonate with you. Its not uncommon for us to have you imagine your greatest fear in place of our own to get our point across. What i feel is that he likes you a lot and really doesnt want you far away. But he will stick it out.

It seems so simple to us in our heads the thing we want from our partner. Yet so difficult to attain. Grab his heart with your claws and pinch it tight and he will stop being so foolishly deceptive. He played hard ball then retreated. Hes jsut feeling vulnerable and doesnt know how to express that without feeling weak.

If you want him love and validate him. If you dont, go. But what he says doesnt really mean anything. Its his touch expressions and gestures that are the true indication of his emotional waves. So either surf them and swim them or you will drown and never recover.