how do u handle urself after someone betrays u?

how do u handle urself after someone betrays u?

Nobody betrays me, so I wouldn't know.

just curious!!

if you somehow manage to trust someone to a certain extent only to be deceived.. how do you handle yourself.. have you ever been in such a situation.. if so how have you handled yourself

P-Angel.. nobody betrayed you or you never allowed anyone to betray you 🙂

i've been betrayed....it depends on what kind of betrayal.....

say in love!

i think its easier to comeout of betrayals that deal with financial losses (as long as they do not break you 😉 )
but it might be a bit difficult if one trusts someone emotionally...

I guess it's all in the way I look at it. Nothing is forever, and if a love relationship is approached that way, then when it's over, and it will end, then a person hasn't been betrayed in this situation.

We keep nothing forever, not cars, jobs, our pets, our parents, our clothes, even our kids go their own way - so, why would we want to suffocate an intimate partner by telling them they can never have another piece of ass again? You have to sleep with me FOREVER? wow

With that mind set, I guess a lot of people feel betrayed, or decieved when the relationship runs its course and is ready to end. I don't feel that way because I comprehend that when its done, its done.

I'd rather look at the moments we shared together and cherish them, than feel defeated and rejected because more moments weren't there until I died. If the love is over, then its over, embrace the goodness of the love while it lasted.

So, I guess its like you said, I won't let anyone betray me because I'll let go when they are ready to go. I won't force anyone to love me.

P-Angel .. now thats not betrayal is it..

i am talking about a general condition that should be viewed as betrayal by most...

like say someone pretends to be in love with you.. and makes every move to make you believe that they are.. but actually they have something else in mind 😉

how would you deal with it.. by simply forgetting that person?

i can handle it various ways. one, i can slam the door shut in my brain, and man, they better not even look at me, or, two, i can use the velvet glove technique, meaning be so enlightened, friendly, and above it all, because i know that karma will get them, and then it's almost funny. actually, i think it depends how intimately involved i am with the person, or what the betrayal is.

Piscesboy, I'm sorry, but, this can't apply to me. That's never happened to me. A person can't pretend to me. Wish I could give you the kind of input you want, but, I've never experienced this before. People just know that they should be silent rather than try and play me. It's just the vibes I give off, the manner in which I communicate. I've just never been in the situation before.

Sorry!!!!! I'll think on it. Maybe there is something that I'm forgetting.

But, if this did happen and I caught someone trying to "pretend" that they loved me when in fact, they wanted something else - I'd destroy them. Exploitation normally works well, humiliation works too.

I don't know, maybe it would take me off guard and I'd run away like a little girl and go hide somewhere crying - but, I doubt it. Being weak isn't in my character. Even putting someone on ignore doesn't offer much satisfaction, I wouldn't think.

Did someone do this to you? Is that why you ask?

ahhhhh no one ever betrayed me sooooo uuummh.. cant say much 🙂

If this did happen to me, I think I would have a completely different reaction. Most likely, I would walk away and instead of spending my time upset about my injury, my thoughts would be about: how did I let it happen, how did I not see this coming, what were the moves so in the future I can recognize them, where in my shielding is the weak spot that this person found, etc.

one might be graceful in exiting.. make them feel who has the class.. and shut them out completely and just carry on with your life...

how does it sound!

I would probally throw things and i also would write about in my diary

The strangest thing for me is that I always know wether a person going to betray to me someday or not. I have that weird sense. I just keep up my guard and control my behaviour. I have never lost anything so far to any betrayer. They always lost. They lost me. They lost my abilities. They gained nothing.

After the betrayal has passed and fact is in hand, I never forget and forgive it. I just wait for my right hour and situation then strike them down fast and swiftly. They usually get alot of damage from this and feel the pain very deeply. This is the point of my satisfaction and peace. Must be Scorpio rising thing.

But then I feel sorry for them. It bothers me. I dont know how to handle it yet. Must be another way. A better way...