@pisceschica
21 Years
No emotion
didn't have enough characters left so here is the rest of paragrah 1:
of 15 years I would just sever all ties w/ them and never speak to them again; again this was just an example.
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relationships with people. The way I see it there are 6 billion people in the world. Whats the point of me reconciling this relationship w/ this ONE person when I can just move on and find somone else. Whether I am able to find that other person or not does not bother me. I'm just not one to regret the severence of ties whether it was over soemting trivial or very serious. Like I said its VERY VERY easy for me to "dump" someone friend or lover and never regret it.
And lastly I'm not close to anyone nor is anyone close to me. I just feel that allowing someone to know everything there is about you will leave you vulnerable to being hurt. We all know how childish some people act when relationship ends. Sometimes you have the lover that goes and starts seriously dating a woman who he knows you despise and dislike your arch enemy. Or you'll have that once close friend who is now bitter go and tell everyone your most intimate secrets and details just to make them feel better. The thing is this is not something that I PURPOSELY do. Its just me. I think it would be safe to say noone in my family knows me even half as well as I know myself or as well as I THINK I know myself. They could tell you only the basics about me. Overall my immediate family is not very close at all. There are no " I love yous", hugs or kisses. Its just hi bye, I neeed this you do this. WE're a family but we don't really interact as a family. I mean we fit the text book definition of a family but we're that kind of warm cozy peachy keen kind of family.
Anyones analization of my situation would be helpful.In addition to that do any of you see some of yourself in me? All questions comments good or bad are welcomed just be mature in your response.
of 15 years I would just sever all ties w/ them and never speak to them again; again this was just an example.
Last paragrah:
relationships with people. The way I see it there are 6 billion people in the world. Whats the point of me reconciling this relationship w/ this ONE person when I can just move on and find somone else. Whether I am able to find that other person or not does not bother me. I'm just not one to regret the severence of ties whether it was over soemting trivial or very serious. Like I said its VERY VERY easy for me to "dump" someone friend or lover and never regret it.
And lastly I'm not close to anyone nor is anyone close to me. I just feel that allowing someone to know everything there is about you will leave you vulnerable to being hurt. We all know how childish some people act when relationship ends. Sometimes you have the lover that goes and starts seriously dating a woman who he knows you despise and dislike your arch enemy. Or you'll have that once close friend who is now bitter go and tell everyone your most intimate secrets and details just to make them feel better. The thing is this is not something that I PURPOSELY do. Its just me. I think it would be safe to say noone in my family knows me even half as well as I know myself or as well as I THINK I know myself. They could tell you only the basics about me. Overall my immediate family is not very close at all. There are no " I love yous", hugs or kisses. Its just hi bye, I neeed this you do this. WE're a family but we don't really interact as a family. I mean we fit the text book definition of a family but we're that kind of warm cozy peachy keen kind of family.
Anyones analization of my situation would be helpful.In addition to that do any of you see some of yourself in me? All questions comments good or bad are welcomed just be mature in your response.
yay !. I'm the 1st to respond 😄...alright, basically, what I've learnt...is, its not all dependant on your sun sign, that dtermines your character..which I learned recently, but your moon soon ultimately determines who you are
And it looks like to me, you might have a air sign, for your moon sign, thats why you don't really feel much...lucky you 😢 lol
I wouldn't mind being a Pisces in gemini still...or even Aquarius
And it looks like to me, you might have a air sign, for your moon sign, thats why you don't really feel much...lucky you 😢 lol
I wouldn't mind being a Pisces in gemini still...or even Aquarius
im that way too, and im a triple pisces.
but having capricorn venus means i keep my emotions under control especially in relationships.
But i would describe myself as hard to surprise, and uncaring alot of the time.
If somone tells me somthing sad i didnt actually witness, im Fully unmoved and unemotional.
but having capricorn venus means i keep my emotions under control especially in relationships.
But i would describe myself as hard to surprise, and uncaring alot of the time.
If somone tells me somthing sad i didnt actually witness, im Fully unmoved and unemotional.
Its just me.
If somone tells me somthing sad i didnt actually witness, im Fully unmoved and unemotional.
Yeah true, Cept if I feel it
Yeah true, Cept if I feel it
It is certainly possible to detatch yourself from them.
I had to learn to do that, because otherwise my 'feelings' stood to overload me.
I had to learn to do that, because otherwise my 'feelings' stood to overload me.
Its not so much that I keep my emotions "under control" its that I eally dont feel any. Im just passive about everything whether it affects me directly or indirectly.
shiit,I wish my planets were aligned like yours lol - I have venus in capicorn too, so I keep my feelings under manners in a relationship too
lol Evo, my ascendant is Gemini, my moon is Aquarius, my sun is Pisces and 80% of my chart is dominated by air sign.
Pisceschica, like Branh said, all people have emotion but it depends whether you can express it or hiding it. In your case, it seems because you're scared of being hurt that's why you put a distance with other people, that's why you numb your feeling.
People will hurt other people, that's reality. Keeping yourself away from people won't guarantee you free of pain. If you have no emotion, then why do you marry? How can you start a relationship when you don't feel anything to your husband? But then again, you know yourself best. If you think you have no emotion, then so be it 😉 So what if other people say you're aloof, that's what YOU ARE!
I'm the same like you in one way and the other but I know that I do have emotion except that I'm not good at expressing them. I hardly whinge or complain, when I have problem, I'll try to solve it myself. If I'm hurt, I usually cry alone in my room.
At the end, we'll always be alone. The road we walk on are too narrow for two people to walk together. If you fall, it is UP TO YOU to pick yourself up. Friends and family can give you lots of advices but as long as you don't do something about it, nothing will change. They can only extend their hand to you but it's up to you to grab their hands or not.
Well, that's just my opinion 🙂
Pisceschica, like Branh said, all people have emotion but it depends whether you can express it or hiding it. In your case, it seems because you're scared of being hurt that's why you put a distance with other people, that's why you numb your feeling.
People will hurt other people, that's reality. Keeping yourself away from people won't guarantee you free of pain. If you have no emotion, then why do you marry? How can you start a relationship when you don't feel anything to your husband? But then again, you know yourself best. If you think you have no emotion, then so be it 😉 So what if other people say you're aloof, that's what YOU ARE!
I'm the same like you in one way and the other but I know that I do have emotion except that I'm not good at expressing them. I hardly whinge or complain, when I have problem, I'll try to solve it myself. If I'm hurt, I usually cry alone in my room.
At the end, we'll always be alone. The road we walk on are too narrow for two people to walk together. If you fall, it is UP TO YOU to pick yourself up. Friends and family can give you lots of advices but as long as you don't do something about it, nothing will change. They can only extend their hand to you but it's up to you to grab their hands or not.
Well, that's just my opinion 🙂
Depends on who and why it is for my aloftness when it comes to death.If say the family member or friend whatever was old,close to the "end of thier days" and died naturally I wouldn't feel much.However my 2 year old cousin died unnaturally(seizure pills and medical accident with the tubing ruptured her lung when doing the stomach pump) and was upset with that one.
Otherwise wiitnessed too much to stop for every little "drama" in life...but I also have a taurus moon so maybe that has somethin to do with it.After seeing and knowing certain things so much you don't feel anything anymore.I have witnessed really "sad" or disturbing things happen right in front of me and don't flinch too much if at all over it.I think I was maybe 7 watching cops and crackheads shooting each other in front of my house.Christmas night in a ghetto area of Detroit,the crackheads had just broke into our house and was using the dumpster as a bullet sheild,remeber it fine but wasn't affected too much by it cause it happened every christmas...kinda routine at that point in time.:/
Otherwise wiitnessed too much to stop for every little "drama" in life...but I also have a taurus moon so maybe that has somethin to do with it.After seeing and knowing certain things so much you don't feel anything anymore.I have witnessed really "sad" or disturbing things happen right in front of me and don't flinch too much if at all over it.I think I was maybe 7 watching cops and crackheads shooting each other in front of my house.Christmas night in a ghetto area of Detroit,the crackheads had just broke into our house and was using the dumpster as a bullet sheild,remeber it fine but wasn't affected too much by it cause it happened every christmas...kinda routine at that point in time.:/
I think my taurus mars capricorn venus, Cancer/gemini acendant give me my good posture love of tophats and unmovable calm demeanor.
But all the pisces, in my mind i rather eccentric, hence the tophat.
But all the pisces, in my mind i rather eccentric, hence the tophat.
Aloof? Maybe that is the word I'm looking for to describe it. My life is in pretty much a similar state. My family is exactly the same as you describe yours. It's odd really, I can be somewhat affectionate towards them, but the good feeling goes away pretty fast. I found out last week that my dad is sick and had to go for major surgery. I noted that fact, then let it slip away when I started to focus on other things.
I've thought about it a lot and I think I realized I have a different concept of friendship than it seems like most people have. My "friends" are just people I see and speak too on a regular basis. I'm polite and friendly towards everyone I meet/know, but when they aren't around I don't think about them at all. One person is pretty much interchangeable with the other. If someone speaks to me, I talk with them, but I don't seek out people. I was never that great at collecting close friends, but not having any came so easily it shocked me. But then I started to wonder, if I did have any close friends, what I would do with them? How is whatever that is any better than what I'm doing now.
I think the source of the problem is too much introspection. I tried to deal with it by trying to concentrate on doing things and to spend as little time thinking about things as I can. I've actually been trying to be nicer and friendlier. I've given more gifts in the last few months than I had ever given before. I joined an exercise class and I'm trying to see if I can find a craft to learn (this one hasn't been as easy as you'd think it would be in the Internet Age). I enrolled in school to get a new degree.
And even with all that, I'm still pretty much ambivalent about things. Someone suggested that I need to touch and be touch by other people more often. I'm trying to see if it helps.
I've thought about it a lot and I think I realized I have a different concept of friendship than it seems like most people have. My "friends" are just people I see and speak too on a regular basis. I'm polite and friendly towards everyone I meet/know, but when they aren't around I don't think about them at all. One person is pretty much interchangeable with the other. If someone speaks to me, I talk with them, but I don't seek out people. I was never that great at collecting close friends, but not having any came so easily it shocked me. But then I started to wonder, if I did have any close friends, what I would do with them? How is whatever that is any better than what I'm doing now.
I think the source of the problem is too much introspection. I tried to deal with it by trying to concentrate on doing things and to spend as little time thinking about things as I can. I've actually been trying to be nicer and friendlier. I've given more gifts in the last few months than I had ever given before. I joined an exercise class and I'm trying to see if I can find a craft to learn (this one hasn't been as easy as you'd think it would be in the Internet Age). I enrolled in school to get a new degree.
And even with all that, I'm still pretty much ambivalent about things. Someone suggested that I need to touch and be touch by other people more often. I'm trying to see if it helps.
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In addition to that I'm just like very aloof from everyone and the world. Ever since I graduated from high school 2 years ago I have yet to really visit or speak to any of my friends. I don't consider them close or anything but friends. And the thing is its not like they live 3 hours away most of them are w/in 5-20 minutes from where I live. I guess it would be safe to say that I dont have any friends and this really does not bother me. I tell people this and they feel sorry for me but it really truly does not bother me. I don't know if its just me but I don't see the purpose of friends or having any type of romantic relationship. I just see them as a potential risk to my well being. For example hurting my feelings, spreading rumours, being vengful if the friendship should end. Im just not that great w/ people and realize this.
To go into further detail on my people skills and inability to keep in contact with friends I just enjoy being alone maybe a little too muc. I'm not even close w/ anyone in my family intermediate or otherwise. This might come as a shock to some people (and some might consider me a non human) but if a family member of mine died I wouldn't be sad nor would I show any outward emotion and that would probably have some people wondering about me. Its not that I don't care about any of them or that any of them has been bad to me but its just that its just another part of life to me and that id have to move on.
To elaborate further its really really easy for me to let a relationship go and never look back (except family members; for example even if i'm a really serious relationship w/ someone and they cheat on me or i just one day feel like i don't want to be with them anymore I will leave and NEVER look back. I'm not into reconciling, working things out, or triyng to rekindle any flames. I hope I don't shock anyone but I see people as indispensible, I really cant think of a better way to word it. But I guess I'm saying (especially pertaining to romantic relationships) I don't see the point in reconciling