How to make ur pisces girl to open up after probs

Hi,
My pisces girl seems to be so scared to speak with me on certain things that no matter how good I try,nothing seems to work. We had some trust issues, in our relationship due to her past and for that matter I had confronted her twice and had very long at times difficult discussions and were on the verge of breaking off. she dint admit nething at that time, however later admitted that she had lied to me about her past, but to save relationship as she loves me so much and dint want to lose me.

Now we are fine with everything and the day she admitted her lying i had been extremely patient and had not been aggressive at all. However at times i feel she is still reluctant to talk to me about not only her past but certain things which she says she will only be able to once she is comfortable with me and once i fully trust her. I have done all to make her feel comfortable but at times i feel i run into a wall. When asked she says that the discussion and my talk of breaking off haunts her despite me fully trusting her she isnt comfortable to open up.

What should i do so that we can get rid of this fear from our reln and she can totally be honest and transparent to me about everything including her past.

Btw m a libra guy.

Hers the deal dude. Our past is our past. If you pry she will never open up. You need to just let her be her. Pisces arent adverse to lying because really we may believe that is actually the truth or the truth we are geared towards whether by dream or directon. My girlfriends a pisces and she tells stories sometimes. But fuck it she makes me happy and i love her anyway. As long as shes not cheating on me and shes happy I dont care.

Her past may not be what she told you. But in all reality her past is before she met you. She may have made bad choices or wrong ones. But all in all shes with you and loves yah. Let it go bud. We never open up by force. In fact we close up. Pisces are secret keepers. My pisces girlfriend doesnt tell me everything about her past and i dont need to know.

I accept whats behind her is just that. Knowing isnt always necessary your with her now so its all good. Love her and live with that. Youve got to make her feel safe and secure completely protected to win her completely. Time is of no value or substance for her it just happens when it does. So if you cant be so patient that you realize you may never get to that point, you never will make it there.

She will pick up on your distress and close up. This is one of those times in life when you think "Fuck it, ive got a great gal so ill deal, i dont need to know." Pop that through your head a few times and it will be true. Actually say fuck it tho. It accesses a different section of your brain. Who thought swearing could make you smarter? go figure>.

It's HARD for a Pisces to let someone in. Only time and patience will open her up. I'm sure you've noticed the Piscean tendency to remain as deep and unfathomable as an ocean... you can see the surface for miles around, and a bit deeper as you get closer... but the really really deepest depths of a Pisces, a lot of that is unknowable even to the Pisces. Libra so craves that open and transparent connection, can't understand the Pisces need for keeping all of this stuff private and almost secret. (Most of it won't seem important or urgent to you when you finally hear it. But to us, it is. It's part of us that we don't share easily, though what we really want is that kind of connection with our partner.) Every Pisces has their own time frame for opening up, it usually takes months, but could take years. It's all very individual - when she feels comfortable and supported and accepted enough, she will slowly open more and more to let you inside. There is no way to rush this or speed it up at all, none. If you push, you will make her lock down and more stubborn on this.

I'm a Pisces woman with a fabulous Libra man, and he too wants to be privy to my every thought, feeling, experience - and I don't know that he ever will. It's just not my nature, and I hold so much deep inside. It took me about six months to even start opening. A year to open enough that he stopped complaining about it. But interestingly enough, there are still parts I don't or haven't shared. We'll talk about something (like from my past), and months later, it's mentioned again, and I might give more detail the second time during the course of discussion... and he HAS called it "lying"... but I DON'T lie. I don't even intentionally keep details from him like "white lies".. but as more detail comes out, he's sometimes felt like the details were kept from him. And upset that I'd "let" him assume *whatever* and not explained openly, fully transparent. But as a Pisces, I only give detail I feel open enough to give.. and if you make an erroneous assumption, that's on you. Ask the right questions, but accept it if I don't answer, esp not as "fully" as you wanted/hoped for. I won't lie, but I might refuse to discuss something yet, and most of the time I won't blather on and on about details I consider insignificant or unimportant at the time. And once you hear those details later on, DON'T call me a liar because I didn't tell you them before.

haha nefer what i meant by lies or white lies. Is that some people interpret our lack of detail when talking about ourselves as an incomplete truth. Or rather a story that isnt completely correct. I tell the truth but i dont divulge everything because i dont feel that it really is relevant or needed. But yet when you leave out or blank out things they call it dishonesty and withholding things.

I was only trying to explain it in non piscean terms for him. I dont consider her stories lies. Just incomplete. I think she feels the same about me. Its taken me about 10 months now to get her to open up. Im just on the cusp of whats to come. Patience and understanding is key. i love my pisces shes a gem and i know it. I dated a few libras in the past and ill say they did want to know every single thought i had in my head. Drove me mad.

I think pisces only open when they know that you have no expectation of it. Once the expectation is gone so is any anxiety that accompanied it.

GL

I sooo agree with both Nefer and The Fish!!! Point on! It takes an undetermined amount of time for a Pisces to open up espedially coming from the femail perspective. I know I have to really know someone very intimately (friendship or relationship) to disclose certain things about myself. Now most things I am an open book and maybe that is why it can make it even more frustrating b/c a man could think I will tell them everything right away b/c I do disclose a lot. We are a very deep people especially about our emotions. Take your time with her. Is there a big rush? Do you love her enough to wait? If so try to relax and let things flow on their own. :-)

Hi Friends,
Point taken. Its not that I dont love her or do not have patience, may be its my own trait that made me believe, that once we are into a relationship, it has to be based on honesty and transparency and thats why I confronted her after knowing her past. may be that fear is still haunting her and she feels insecure to open up to me. My only reason to put forth the question here was that I do not understand pisces well and wanted some pisces ppl or ppl who know pisces well to advise.

Thanks a lot.

I know this post is from 7 years ago but just wanted to say that you're both flawlessy spot on (the fish and nefer) and I would add that we do it bc:

1) we're afraid that you won't understand us cause we're not on your same wavelength (and that actually could be a big problem);

2) we're scared as hell (in general) that you won't like our darkest side;

All of that because we don't have the guts to be transparent from the start (or maybe it's not our nature, being a double, mutable sign? I don't think it's a good motivation though), I would say more like scorpio, even though also scorpio tend to hide things, but you sense that dark secrets from the start, instead we like to come off as laid back and cheerful people, after all, unlike scorpio we wish for the good in this life.

Coming back to you, Idk if you're still together (I hope for you and I hope you overcame your problems together) but don't give up on this match, I think it's very interesting and romantic, even if you seem so different (but then as you may know you have to look on your whole charts to say so) I think you could be a winning pair (I even met a libra guy recently and I'm startimg to revaluating this sign :')

Sorry for my bad english.

I don't see what her past has to do with you(no disrespect) its gone, finished. History, never can it be changed. What on earth is the point??

I mean are you insecure, there's things I would not tell people about my past, that's my business, perhaps when we've been together a while yes, but not in the beginning, its not important at all ?? Unless prositution or prison for serious crime is involved, who cares seriously

Please explain why you are concerned x