I have a first date with a 10 pisces female Fri.

night. I am a 33 aquarius male born in 78 and she was born mid march but I dont know what year. I think she is 36 or so.

Please give me any advice or tips on how to treat her. I know she likes guys that take charge and that's how I got her to go out with me, but on a date how far does taking charge go and how can I make her want me? Please help. thanks!

I was born January 28th. I already picked to restaurant.

I was thinking when I meet her there a hug and then take her by the hand into the restaurant and choose where we sit?

and should I go scruffy or smooth?

Take charge- love a MAN that takes charge.
But be a gentleman- none of that sly bs.
Roses-Get her some.
Take charge + a gentleman + thoughtful= were getting somewhere.
Conversation- anything deep. unusal to the norm.
Shave- manscape. I mean really. This is your first date.

Note: aqua's are known to be emotionally detatched & also like to play games.

Pisces: fall hard.

Don't say things you dont mean.

GOD.... piranhaparadiise8

THAT MAN IS AMAZING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

OMG.... LOVE MEN LIKE HIM.

Well, it's great that you ladies appreciate those things. I have always wanted a woman who does but it goes mostly un-appreciated.

Prediction: You're going to "hold back, unsure" for three or four months, like you did with Miss Aries.. and you're going to think it's juuuuust fiiiine that you have to "make sure" before you invest your emotions (which it is, truly)... and Miss Pisces will be like Miss Aries, only even moreso.. she'll try over and over to give you her heart (as Pisces do - we fall hard and fast!).. and then, when you FINALLY decide to "start calling her girlfriend" and start saying "I love you too" instead of NOTHING or "You too".. Miss Pisces is ALSO going to pull back emotionally, "swimming away" to put some distance.. cuz then SHE'LL want/need to re-evaluate things... just like YOU needed to "be certain" for a few months, now it's HER turn... problem is, YOU don't seem to like or understand or think it's fine for HER to do what YOU did.. and in THAT.. you're WRONG. It's fine, it's perfectly normal and justified... and you'll be a fool again to get mad that she needs time and space to decide, like you did in the beginning with Miss Aries and probably will with Miss Pisces.

Pisces women are soooo loving.. but when they've been poked at and wounded too many times (like you do, the first few months, with your holding back and keeping things casual, and acting barely interested).. when you finally decide to let her in.. she won't trust it, won't believe it.. she'll need to pull back and figure things out. And a Pisces woman swimming away will seem colder and more detached than even YOU, Aqua man. And if you push her, or "try to make her jealous" or play mind-fuck emotional games with her cuz you're pissed she suddenly needs the space only YOU feel entitled to have.. your adorable little Goldfish will disconnect and swim away, OR turn into a SHARK and eat you alive, NOM NOM NOM.

This does not bode well, Aqua man. :/

Nefer- LOL. Go easy on me. : ) I realize that what I did wasnt right and if I lost her forever it is because of what I didn't do. I am taking responsibility for it and think I have finally learned my lesson. i don't want this to happen again. It has happened before the same exact way. If I don't change it will keep happening and you are right. She won't even talk to me but I did leave her a message taking ALL the blame for screwing up the dynamic of the relationship. And still nothing. The thing that bothers me is she says we have amazing chemistry...in my opinion that is the hardest thing to find with someone. We can work on the other stuff and I told her I was willing, but crickets...

BTW my date went really well and she was cool and likes me.

Yay! Any time someone's willing to learn from their past, I'm more than willing to cut them a little slack!

But for the record, I wasn't trying to be harsh with you.. it's not that you were doing anything WRONG, per se (cuz a Gem or Libra girl for example.. probably wouldn't have NEARLY the same issues with your aloof detachment that the warm and giving Pisces and Pisces-saturated chicks you seem to be attracted to do)... Well, not wrong except for being a freaking-out, foot-stomping grumpass when SHE needed space -- you were griping all over the Aries Board, all "Oh, NOW she called me? Well, HA.. I might just ignore her now - take that! Maybe go out with someone else and blow her off. That'll teach her to pull away from me when I'm ready to get close!") I was trying to (gently? albeit bluntly) point out that she was only needing some space, cuz when an Air finally lets someone in, it can feel really confusing and send us poor women into a tailspin wondering why the sudden change. And SPACE is something YOU should understand. *grin*

Sorry that you lost such a great girl.. story of an Aqua man's life right there haha (prob Gems and Libras too.. you damn Airs haha) but it's GOOD that you see the pattern and realize that all it takes is some open communication to smooth out the getting there, a little, "Hey, I really like you sweetie, and I love being with you.. just trying to take it slow so we both make sure this is what we want!" goes a long way!

Oh, and gotta watch the Pisces chicks.. they have a way of getting under your skin when you least expect it, and you'll never be the same again haha