I need help!!

I know messages like this have probably been posted on here numerous times but I really need some advice here cos this is killing me. First I want to say hello to everyone since I am new here.... so HELLO! Second, I'll tell you a little bit about myself. I'm a Cancer w/Aries rising. I have Cancer in Mars & Venus and my Moon is in Pisces =) Here is my dilemma. I'm in love with a Pisces.....no, I'm OBSESSED with a Pisces!! This is someone I work with (but we don't see each other everyday) he is also younger than me (9yrs) but, that doesn't much matter to me since I am very young for my age. This whole thing (thing...thats what I call it) started about 3 years ago LOL! 3 YEARS!!! Anyway, at that point in my life, I was just coming off a very long relationship with a Scorpio (most intense relationship I have ever had!!) and it left me devastated and broken. Then along came the cutest fish in the sea! There was an instant attraction. He made me laugh and liked to escape (like me) so we formed a bond and started hanging out. I developed a major crush on him and it appeared he had one on me as well (kinda like one of those schoolyard crushes) time went on and I liked him one day and then hated him the next - you know how it goes.... This went on for like a year. Then, last July something strange happened one night when we were watching fireworks together (one of my all time favorite things to do). Things between us felt 'different' I noticed him looking at me while I was looking away. Being a cancer, I have that inner intuition. I just knew something was up between us. A few weeks had passed and we went out, ended up drinking a bit too much and he asked me to go home with him. Now, normally I would NEVER do such a thing. I am a TYPICAL cancer! But, I was/am so COMFORTABLE with him that he really didn't have to twist my arm too much. We share such an emotional bond, it's hard to describe. I can look at him and know what he's thinking. I see the pain in his eyes and it makes my heart melt. Our night together was MAGICAL to say the least. Storybook romance.... I tried of course to not get too emotional over the whole thing and acted like it was no big deal since I didn't want to freak him out but, it was all an act. When he dropped me off the next day, I asked him to call me. He never called me...I WAS DEVASTATED! I never thought he would do something like that to me. I got very angry since I felt hurt and rejected and so I lashed out at him when I had to talk to him on the phone about work related stuff. Then I sent him an e-mail which I think only made him swim farther away. After that, things were strained between us but, I made them better by baking him cookies LOL! SO TYPICAL CANCER! I also gave him tons of space (but kept contact with him by text messaging or e-mailing him every once in a while - just to make sure he didn't think I forgot about him) sometimes he would answer, sometimes he wouldn't. Our friendship is continuing. We still talk and it's way better now than it was - it seems like he is back to the way he was before the 'night'

So...it comes to this, did I ruin EVERYTHING by going home with him? Do I have a chance to make it work him? Do I need to be patient? I can't seem to get him off my mind. I think about him always. If anyone can give me some advice or pointers into Pisces male - what I should be doing or saying or NOT DOING OR SAYING. I want to make him swim to me not away from me.

Thanx to anyone who read this whole thing! I can talk and talk for days!

ps....he is a Pisces sun, Cancer moon, Aqua Mars and Aries Venus (don't know his rising)

Hey Moonmaiden,

Welcome to our crazy world. This is very similar to a situation I found my self in a couple of years ago. I worked with a woman who like yourself was older (7years). From the day we met we got along like a house on fire (lot's of flirting) and over time became incredibly attracted to one another. We hung out all the time until one drunken night it happened. We declared our feelings and it all felt right but over the next couple of days reality set in. The reality in my case was that it was the game I was attracted to. The flirting, the chase and the anticipation, once that was gone reality seemed kinda boring. I felt like a kid on Xmas night when it's all over.
That's sounds horrible I know but I couldn't help it. Hurting her was the last thing I wanted to do so even though (like a true Pisces) I wanted to avoid her and pretend it never happened, I came straight and told her how I was feeling.


Of course I don't expect your story to be the same but I reckon if you just ask this guy how he feels about it all, he should come correct and tell you where he's at.
You've got nothing to lose and even if he doesn't want to be with you he will probably start acting a little more normal once he gets some stuff off his chest.


Good luck and remember you can't generalize when it comes to starsigns. Your friend may not be as big a Jerk as I am!!

Based on the one I was envolved with for seven years,we didn't break up over anything really just seperated due to life directions,and the male pisces friends I have.The obsessed thing could have been the problem.They don't really like negativety and they can forget things alot too,so it probably was your getting angry that chased him off but sounds like he's forgiven it.Keep the negative emotions in check,don't expect anything and just see what happens is really the only thing I would suggest.

Moonmaiden,

Maybe THIS had something to do with it:

"I tried of course to not get too emotional over the whole thing and acted like it was no big deal since I didn't want to freak him out but, it was all an act."

Maybe 'he was thinking that you were thinking', you know that game? Also remember that pisces are extrememly intuitive as well... or, maybe HE was "acting" like it was no big deal either...

BUT- I'm kinda thinking along the lines of what BJ said... after the thrill of the chase is over, etc...

and BJ, I don't think your a jerk- I think many of us have had similiar experiences- men AND woman alike :-)

MoonMaiden68, (I like the name by the way...even though I am not opposed to 69 )

ANYWAY, I can tell you that my experience with my current is that we were both unable to resist the temptation on the first night. BUT after that...perhaps b/c I was infatuated with Mr. Libra...I didn't call him. I guess I really didn't expect anything to come of it.

The point of saying that is, he told me that he thought it was SOOO hot that I wasn't worried about him calling him back. He is a Pisces, but he is also MALE so I think they are right about the whole game thing.

The good thing about Pisces is that they RARELY cut people off forever and like 4luvofsea said, YOU did act like it was no big deal...Water is a reflection, remember that.

Actually, now that I look back on my words...they are a contradiction of themselves. Now I am confused...I really don't know what to tell you.

Good Luck though, because Pisces Men are GREAT...even with their faults.

Cancerlady

BTW, BJ

I think you are cool too!

Cancerlady

Thank you to all who responded! You helped me ALOT! BJ...what you said is my complete FEAR! I really hope that is not the case with my boy fish because I really feel like we really could have something and I really don't want to end up with another broken heart - the reason I stayed single so long after my last break-up. To 4theluvofsea & Cancerlady...what you said ALSO shed some light on me because you are SO RIGHT about water reflecting water! I'm so into astrology yet, when it comes to myself for some reason, I always forget the basic traits. I think that may have ALOT to do with him & I as well since I am a Cancer Sun/Pisces Moon and he is a Pisces Sun/Cancer Moon - we are so much alike, we mirror each other. He may be feeling the exact same way I am feeling and being like me, is afraid of actually facing the way we feel! I have to keep positive but, I feel that If I don't confront him soon and tell him how I feel, I may lose the chance even if I find out that he never really liked me in the first place and was just "attracted to the game" as BJ put it. Anyway, we are supposed to be going out tomorrow night (not alone..with a bunch of other people) I am assuming that since he is willing to go along and be out with me, he is 'ok' with being with me, right? Does that make sense? I mean, If he didn't like me 'romantically' he wouldn't want to actually be out with me where we could get into a situation of drinking and then having some type of feelings, right? He would try to avoid that, right? Cos I can tell you right now, when I am out having a good time with some drinks in me, I become very flirty and touchy/feely! He is LIKE THAT TOO! I can't imagine that we will be able to restrain ourselves! I guess this could be a test! I'll make sure to update you all!

Moonmaiden, I didn't mean put such a negative spin on everything. Just one view point.

The girls make some good points as far as him reflecting your behaviour. It definately may be the case that he just doesn't know where your at and doesn't want to look like a tosser by thinking there was more to it than you did.

Just be honest with the guy. What's the worst that could happen?

And CANCERLADY (I am not opposed to 69 )it's always about sex with you "I LOVE IT!!"

I know...why am I so horny all of the time?

I am going over to the intellectual boards and spread my wings.......NAH! I like talking about sex...ha ha ha ha

Is it no wonder my sign is 69? It's not my fault, I swear!

MoonMaiden68...That's crazy that you guys signs are opposite like that.