Is it possible to erase or minimize your traits?

Im trying to work on some of my weaknesses. I know in general this probably isn't just pisces related, its just me related. However, I noticed some of my natural traits hinder my life and it is annoying because I feel like there is another person that wants to leap out, but cant. I have been going to counseling for it, but Im wondering if I should just accept my traits and live with them, knowing my weaknesses. Or should I put in the energy to eliminate them or reduce them to the point that they are no longer an issue.

What do you think?

A few of my weaknesses:

Nervousness
Self-doubt
Low Confidence (been working on this succesfully, but still needs work)
Procrastination
Laziness
Emotional (I hate this trait with a passion)
Etc.

Im pretty much like eeyore at times if you know what I mean.

There is more, but I dont feel like giving you the whole laundry list. I started working on some of my issues, mainly low confidence since a lot of other issues stem from that. I lost 12 pounds, planning to lose another 5 and I should be at my ideal weight. I have been working on spiffing up my wardrobe so I look nicer. Been putting more time into my looks, been trying to change my train of thought to more positive feelings. Been trying to go out with friends more (I usually am very happy when I am with friends). Been applying for an extra job and will be living on my own soon. Been focusing on my dreams and trying to make them a reality and becoming an independent woman.

I dont know if this is enough effort because sometimes I feel like reverting back. But can I successfully eliminate my bad traits over time? I hope so because Im personally scared to go backwards.

Hypnosis


I read someone recommend it on another board. Some swear by it.

Emotional (I hate this trait with a passion) omg - was going to start a thread on this - too many water signs I see latently complain about this.

why is this a prob? i mean who persecutes you for being emotional?

procrastination is also one of traits I can do without.

I dont know if this is enough effort because sometimes I feel like reverting back. But can I successfully eliminate my bad traits over time? I hope so because Im personally scared to go backwards.

Don't go back lovable_pisces, what you are doing is a good start, even if you don't fully eliminate your bad traits, you will have a better sense of who you are by trying to reach those goals, perharps you will change your goals eventually down the road or learn some other things along the way 🙂

hi lovely_pisces

find a guy with the opposite traits, preferrably a virgo, preferably one who is tall, medium built, with a warm smile, weird sense of humour and big eyes ....

then interact with him extensively and you will see how these traits are implemented in real life, with time you will have these traits implemented in your circuitry.

hypnosis works but only to give you a push every now and then, at the end it is competence which creates confidence and practice which makes perfect.

it will be hard but life is hard.

good luck 🙂

Wow, I appreciate the great response and encouragement from everyone. I actually was with a virgo for a while, but it didnt work out and not because we weren't compatible, but for other reasons.

I never considered hypnosis because I never thought it could work on me, but it might be worth it to look into it any way. I came about this need for change out of a tarot reading actually. It revealed a lot of things about me I was going through and what I needed to do and for some reason that flipped a switch inside of me. I started realizing I was wasting so much time and I had problems that I never resolved. So I started taking control of my life. I felt that in order for me to start feeling better, I needed to become more independent and have a stronger sense of self.

zenalchemy - Its not a persecution, its a personal observation. I am actually a bit more emotional than most people. It is sometimes good in love because I am very loving and considerate, but it can be a total hazard to my life. I have what I called Triggered Emotions. I sometimes become easily offended/upset by certain triggers like being called immature or incompetent is one of my biggest triggers. I tend to think I am very intelligent and mature for my age. Im not totally mature, but Im fairly young and know that will fix itself with time. However, I know for a fact that Im still young and inexperienced in certain aspects of my life. That will also work itself out as I grow older and more experienced.

I do tend to have to control my emotions more and it can be a struggle at times. I dont want to be teary eyed about everything that goes wrong or annoyed about minor things. I have to usually find ways to calm down and get over it. I use to cling onto the anger, now I try my best to brush it off. I have had better control of it with age, but I still feel that it makes me look weak or irrational. I grew up in a pretty negative based home and I was always being put down and controlled. So I tend to be quick to defend myself before I am hurt as a need for self-protection. I would like to sever myself from my past and my emotional triggers so I can become a more balanced and happier person. I think at this point, its time for me to just let go and be the person I was meant to be, not the person I ended up becoming through negative experiences.

But I still would like to limit some of my more negative traits. I think a lot stems from low-confidence, which is why Im working on that first.

Maybe a better word is "sensitive" I think Im overly sensitive. Thats something I would like to tone down.

Im not sure, how do I find that out?

Sun in Pisces, Moon in Aquarius

My ascendent is in scorpio...I have no idea if that makes any difference

29th of feb. crazy leap year baby.

Mars in the Twelfth House
Moon in the Third House
Venus in the Third House
Sun in the Fourth House
Mars Conjunct Ascendant
Saturn in the Twelfth House

You mean like this? I got this from personal portrait.

Planetary positions
planet sign degree motion
Sun Pisces 9?50'45 in house 4 direct
Moon Aquarius 12?28'06 in house 3 direct
Mercury Pisces 2?38'45 end of house 3 direct
Venus Aquarius 12?23'29 in house 3 direct
Mars Scorpio 21?37'25 in house 12 direct
Jupiter Capricorn 7?43'19 in house 2 direct
Saturn Scorpio 16?21'56 in house 12 stationary (R)
Uranus Sagittarius 13?25'10 in house 1 direct
Neptune Capricorn 1?06'58 in house 2 direct
Pluto Scorpio 1?57'13 end of house 11 retrograde
True Node Gemini 11?40'58 in house 7 retrograde
Planets at the end of a house are interpreted in the next house.

I use to have anger issues. Ive gotten past a lot of it since I moved away from my mom, which was a huge trigger for me. We just dont get along. I only have 3 types of anger: snappiness, biting sarcasm, and then explosion. People dont want to hit explosion phase because that's way past the I don't give a shit point of no return. lol. Ive only went to explosion perhaps once in my life and it was completely justified. I never strike anyone though. Thats a big no no for me. I havent been like that for a long time, that was mostly angry late teens. The funny thing was, I was not a naturally angry teen. Every where else I was totally fine, when I was with my mom, it was like nuclear meltdown.

I do suppress it until I feel its justified for me to be angry most of the time. I have mellowed out on and have become more tolerant over the years. I no longer put emphasis on minor BS like I use to. I also get angry when I feel Im being taken advantage of in some way or Im being disrespected. I generally try to curb my temper the majority of the time, because I do enjoy being more cooperative, understanding and nice. However it does come out in some way in small spurts. My anger use to linger, now I tend to try to drop it and move on. Ive gotten way better at that, thank God.

Astrology can give more self-awareness, cause, motivation of certain traits. The good and the challenging. Hence, if the desire is really there inside of you, certain negative traits can be slowly worked on, imo. Knowledge & awareness really is power.. However, one must recognize there are also more hardcore* traits in all of us, it's what makes us, us and we should also celebrate. Nobody is perfect, but yes there are certain things you can work on. i also find astrology gives a certain important tolerance & understanding towards other's, as well. i believe this to be one of Astrology's greatest gifts.

I think it's possible for any person to grow, evolve.

However, my line of questioning here would take a different route, as it pertains to motivation for a person to do so.


If you feel like you need to do this to make yourself a better person for you to live with yourself ... then this motivation appears to be in perfect alignment. However, if this is coming from a desire to fit in, or to seek approvals of others, for the purpose of being a better person for another ... then this motivation is unbalanced.


I guess the only reason why I even had this thought is because you mentioned that you lost wieght, and are spiffing up your wardrobe .. and so, the thought popped in my mind as to what is motivating you to want to change yourself.

A typical Pisces adores their uniqueness, ordinarily, and is quite content to dress within their own style , even if it's weird.

Where is this coming from? That would be my first question asked of myself within this, rather than is it possible to do.

I would ask myself ... am I doing this for me to feel better about me? Or, am I doing this because I want to feel accepted by other people.

I wanted to lose weight because Ive been complaining about my weight for a while. I was just not happy with where I was at. I didnt feel comfortable with my body and I felt that was part of my self-esteem issues. I felt myself just bobbing up and down on the scale and never getting anywhere. I really want to look in the mirror and think I look nice and feel attractive. It was something I was never motivated to do much before and it feels good to be fit and not out of breath going up stairs. That to me is important. My wardrobe is the same thing, Ive had the same wardrobe since high school. That was several years ago. Im tired of it, it doesnt even fit very well anymore. I really want it to look nicer and more aligned with who I am now. I still dress in the way I want to dress and not the current style . I just want my wardrobe to be updated and more mature. Some of it was falling apart and looked awful.