July for Pisces ......

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July must be another bad month for pisces ~cappies are having it rough too~

I have a friend and she is a pisces (1st decan). She and I have known each other for years and have been there for each other. However, as we've grown older we see things totally different, such as:

Our approach to life
How we communicate

*** yes, this is the same friend I?ve spoke about in an April thread ***

Anywho, her health has been an issue. I've tried to help her get it back on track. However, she will not make simple life style changes in order to make herself better ... then when she has a relapse she starts the whole "oh woe is me" act. No, I'm not a doctor but I know my stuff, she just keeps making excuse after excuse as to why she cannot stop feeling sorry for herself. Haha, then I?ll get blamed if I stop caring what happens to her.
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Although I understand her (I?m a seagoat, so I have some water too 😉), it's extremely difficult for me to find common ground with her anymore! It's hurtful because I don't like things the way they are but I don't see things changing anytime soon. She can be self-pitying at one moment but I find that she creates her own darn problems the next! Why she does these things is beyond me -- she didn't use to be this way. When I'm asked for my opinions on things, I become some BIG BULLY after I give it to her -- like I am heartless towards what she is going through -- which I am not.

Yes, I am indeed at my wits end, so my solution is time apart. She does her thing and I do mine. There?s no point in staying around watching her self-destruct. Hopefully after some time away, I can better assess how to help her. Maybe this will also give her the swift kick in the butt that is strongly needed.
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It's nice to see that you care about her.

From what I see, she hasn't grown up enough to understand certain things yet. But isn't that what happens to us all? Isn't life is what is all about?

We just need to be patient. Let them find their own way. I know it's hurt to see how she destroys herself. But we need to be patient. Some people need to see the bottom to strat growing.

It's all fine Cappy. Life continues there just like everywhere.
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🙂 Thank you haffo for your insight 🙂 *** you are sweet ***

Yep, I was afraid that it would have to come to that eventually. She is older then me but maybe she and I both need to grow. I definately will keep in contact, I just won't be as assessible as I use to be anymore. See, her major problem is that she knows I'll always be there -- and if she thinks I'm drifting, she find someway to "guilt me" back in -- however, I think leaving her be for a while maybe the best thing I can do.

Being her shoulder to lean and depend on has done more harm then good.