leo man longing for his pisce lady to come back

im a leo man who just dated his first pisces lady. she broke things off after 4 months. i wanted to see if any body could help me get the love of my life back. so heres the story.

we met 4 years ago at a party i was throwing. we hit it off right away. hung out pretty exclusivly all night talking about the shitty relationship we were in. and just life in general. both developed a huge crush and infatuation with each other. shortly there after we lost touch bc i was moving to the west coast to help with fam. we talked a couple of times during the year i was gone. just small talk. well i moved back and ran into her at a party on night. i was to shy and hammerd to say anything. so another yr goes by i try to hit her up on face book no response. so i moved on. now 2 yrs later i get a text from her out of the blue. she ran into a mutual friend who said she saw me. so she got all gitty and we went on our first dat a couple days later. it was magical like the 4 years apart never happend. all that we both never forgot the other. the first 2 months were simply amazing always having fun and talking. never awkward. after about a month and a half i opened up and told her i love her. she seemed kinda spooked by it. a year or so previous she had been in emotionally abusive relationship. so i kinda figured it was to fast to soon. so i stopped telling her and kinda backed off a bit. still kissed her and held her hand and such. after a while she started to seem a bit distant. knew she was stressed from moving and a new job. so i strted to give her so space. we stopped holding hands for a while and then the intimacy stopped and she stopped kissing me and looking at me in the blissful way she would. the last month was rough she was really distant. work took over her life and such. i knew she was stressed so i tried to give her space. but she wasnt opening up and talking to me. so i pushed a little to get her to vent and she did but i always felt she wasnt telling me everything. al this time i was still being supportive and got her some of her fav flowers and a nice journal to start her poetry again. then my will power died so and i got impatient one night and we had the break up talk. she told me she was afraid that the resentment she felt was to much. bc i was putting my energy into us and she wasnt. and she was afraid things would turn out like they did with the last couple of guys she dated. is there anything i can do to win her back and give us a chance?

i hate you.

you know how to push "enter." you did it once. and yet, you decided to run-on the rest of the OP. fuck you. i'm not reading that. arrogant bastard. that's why she left you know?

Look im not bad mouthing you pisceans. so far as this leo is concerned pisceans are what im looking for in a lover. i didnt know how sensitive you guys are. like i said shes my first. i know i screwed up. ive never felt guilt like this. i know i got pushy and was weak. i was afraid if i got to close and didnt slow things down she would feel pressured. didnt want that knowing her last relationship was screwed up. and it deeply hurt and affected her. ive appologized and writen two long letters to her telling her how i feel about her, how she makes me feel, i love her, and appologizing for my actions and letting her i know why she ended things. that i understand. i just wanted somee advice on what i can do. let her go or wait and give her time and space to figure out her feelings and thoughts.

The resentment she told me was bc she was working so much and felt like she didnt have the energy to put into our relationship. i told her it was ok with me if she wanted to focus on work more. and i would be by her side through thick and thin. i wanted to see her achieve her goals even if that ment we wouldnt see each other as much. i guess i was to late on figuring out that she just really needed her alone time to do her thing and she wasnt going to let me in on all her feelings. sry these are long just got to get it out.

"The resentment she told me was bc she was working so much and felt like she didnt have the energy to put into our relationship. i told her it was ok with me if she wanted to focus on work more. and i would be by her side through thick and thin."

Hi, mducati25 -

Your post above raised the biggest red flag for me.. Speaking from experience, i'm about one of the hardest working people out there (both my Sag and I - yet wild horses would NEVER stop us from spending valuable time together-every single day, because we want to, we LOVE each other, we have the energy and we make it happen. We will always be busy, always* need to work, but truly it's our special people, our "Ones", that MAKE it all worth it in the first place.

Whether it's an exuse or not, or her exuse, (bottom-line), if her work is more front and center, it probably always will be, to a certain extent. But, of course, my gut tells me, there is more to it, even besides her past heartbreak.. At the end of the day, you took a step back, apologized and gave her space without much for results. You've done all you could; she knows how you feel - so the ball is in her court. But through her actions alone, (they do speak louder than words), it appears her feelings for you have waned, otherwise she would* find a way. I would think about moving on to someone who truly wants* to be with you. I've never been heartbroken myself, not even close; my wonderful Sag has ever been my only true Love, so i can't speak for another's mistrust. But i also believe in "fate" and no matter what, if it was meant to be, it would happen and it will for you (someday). Fate truly works in mysterious ways (sometimes certain doors have to close, so others more suitable for you CAN open, despite how aweful it can feel at the moment.) I knew from the second time i was with my Archer, we would be together forever, i was 1000% sure. It's really not cliche-believe me, when someone is THE ONE for you, it's hard to describe; it's not even something you ponder or think, you just KNOW.

But i do know, feelings and actions can't be forced or convinced of (otherwise).. what worth does that put on love? And certainly that chemistry felt between you has to be (mutually) felt, anchored & stabilized further for the longterm. Her signals seem pretty clear and she herself is very aware of them, despite* your own deep longings.

At any rate, however it unfolds, g/luck to you..

Thanks to everyone for your input. so ive written her a letter its long 6 pages. telling her that i understand that she doesnt want to drag me into the mess thats going on. and that i know shes afraid of whats happend in the past will happen to us. then it goes into opening up and admitting to her what i feel i had done wrong. and into how i feel about her and how she makes me.

im in the process of another letter that is just me opening up to her. telling her how i feel about her, what she makes me feel, expressing my love and affection and adoration to her and some stuff about me that i dont share with ppl and how its made me who i am today and that im proud and confident from it. just wanting to open up and show her the real true me. any advice on what to put in or not put in the letter?

so we broke up a week ago last tuesday. on wendsday i brought all of her stuff that i had back to her and gave her a love letter that a wrote back when i first told her i love her. she had this look of surprise and adoration on her. she looked like she was going to shed a tear. kinda seemed like she has never been given a love letter before. so thursday i asked if we could meet up to talk some more. told me should could perhaps fri or sat. never happend she appologized on sunday saying she could mon evening. never happend. apologized on tuesday. her father came back from a buisness trip and we have a nice fire brewing here in CO. her sister took in some refugees. so we threw some text mesg around talking a bout the fire. later i sent one saying thinking of you and i love you. then apologized for not being more understanding to her alone time. and i hope we can meet up so we can talk some more. then wend came i sent one just to see how she was doing. she said alright kinda bummed. asked why told me just one of those days. so i asked if she would like to go bowling or something to take her mind off of stuff. she said "maybe. i dunno. think i just need sleep" told her i would be home if she wanted to kick it. and wished her a good night and dreams. havent talked since. even since we broke up we havent gone more that a few days with out talking. any take on this?

its one of those things where you just know that there is still a strong connection between us. i just know it in my heart and my gut. no doubts. i was thinking that maybe she ended it so she could just figure things out. figure out her feelings and what going on in her head. without dragging me along. even though i told her i would stand by her through it. just wondering if she is still talking to me because she wants this but needs to figure some stuff out first. and is checking in to see that im still here and interested and in love and wanting to be with her. should i make contact with her or should i give her space and time and see if she contacts me?since we havent spoken in a couple of days. im the kinda guy that i know when its completely over nothing left. and this just doesnt give me that feeling. right now im just giving her some space so she can mull over the letter i have already given and what ive said. we havent talked about the relationship at all this week just some small talk about the fire and me checking in to see how shes doing. just waiting to give her these other two letters. dont know if i should wait to give her them in person or stop by her work and leave them on her windsheild like have in the past as a surprise when she gets off work. any suggestions? could this all be because she sees and feels that she has found someone whos good for her and his just holding on to me because shes not ready?she told me once that i was the first guys she has dated that has ever put her first and was always there for her when she needed me to be. even if i could be there right then i would be there as soon as a could. thank you guys so much for the advice.

So kp your saying since i have already given her one letter expressing my love i should hold on to the other two? im remaining quiet right now no contact. should i break the silence at some point just to let her know im still here by just saying "hi how are you"?

Thought i should add that ive never mistreated her or lost her trust that im aware of. never cheated on her, physically or emotionally abused her, forced or guilted her into doing something she didnt want to do, or manipulated her. from what she has told me of her ex`s they have all done one of these things including not being there for her when she really needed them to be.

So the letter i gave her just expressed my love. one expresses my love further and deeper. and the last expresses my understanding why she left. and me admitting what i feel i did wrong. ie not as understanding to her need of space and alone time, that i pushed to hard and fast and jumped the gun on love. so now im taking it slower givin her space. been 2 days since we talked. if i dont hear from her ill check in just say hi how are you on mon or tuesday. or should i wait longer to do so or sooner to call? then see if she wants to go bowling, mini golf, a hike. keep it low key no pressure. not imply it as a date as you said. take things slow and easy. i just know the connection and feeling are still there.