Looking for the elusive Pisces input...

Ok, it's been a while since I've really mentioned my Mr. Pisces. Things are going fairly smooth although we have our moments but I think those moments are going a little better these days. I've put my foot down and permanently kicked him out of his kitchen when I'm cooking (except breakfast which we tend to make together - but I let him take the lead) and he swears he'll do all the driving from now on - easy compromises 🙂.

But, some things he has said recently have been weighing on my mind and I wondered what everyone else thought.

The last couple of days he's been telling me that I have a lot more to offer 'someone' than he has to offer me... the first time was on the heels of "you will make someone a good wife" (he has said that before). He also said he would help me find someone. (although last weekend he jokingly asked me to marry him after we were snowed in together for the whole weekend and that men in my past were idiots for not staying with me - but, that was prompted by my cooking.)

I tried to address how it made me feel when he said things like that (which is not typical of me) and somewhere along the line he said something to the effect of 'You wouldn't want to be tied down. That way you could just pack up and go when you wanted' - projecting the way he feels maybe? I responded in typical me fashion, with a question 'why would I want to pack up and go anywhere?' His reply, 'You never know, you might.'

But, then, he woke up in the middle of the night last night, put his arms around me and pulled me close to him and thanked me for being me.

Once again this morning, he made the I have a lot more to offer than he does comment and that he would help me find someone.

I'm not sure what to make of any of it, I'm viewing it from multiple perspectives - I'm not sure if he is on the fence, (gently) trying to push me away or feeling me out for fear of putting too much on the line. Then again, maybe I'm over analyzing the situation all together and he is 'just joking' as he says, but, honestly, I think there is more to it than that. What to you all think?

...is he testing?...

"The last couple of days he's been telling me that I have a lot more to offer 'someone' than he has to offer me... the first time was on the heels of "you will make someone a good wife" (he has said that before)."




When someone tells you something like that, you should listen to them.

BC, I'm leaning toward #1 if anything... he still talks about he and I and us in future (but, then again Pisces don't seem to live in the present so I can't read too much into that). I got a little irritated with something he said the other day and (of course) he said he was only joking and he only teases me because he loves me. I swear, some guys never grow up (wait none of them ever grow up)!

Maybe I'm just too serious of a person at times, and I try to process everything. He tells me I dwell too much on things he says joking around - like when he said "Since we're not in a real relationship..." What's up with that? I wasn't going to let it go, he told me to lighten up, he was just joking. NOT FUNNY!

IDK, maybe he is just looking for that reassurance and/or my reaction. He's gonna start getting a reaction all right!

Hes testing you. Hes looking for a reaction and its actually a pretty direct reaction. Hes looking to hear you talk about the future and make a suggestion hes not brave enough to. Hes not joking... hes being slightly playful in directing you to what he wants. Sounds like hes actually quite in love with you and considers you forever material.

My pisces lady recently was "joking" about how she "didnt have anywhere to put her overnight stuff" at my place. How "a girl would be really lucky if she got to live with me." I cleaned out two drawers in one of my dressers and gave her a key for my place. I understood the want she was conveying because i would have done something similar.

Anyhow hes looking for more and gauging you. It could go either way. If your responses show that you are pretty cold to the idea or you arent responding how he hopes. He will just kind of disappear one day. Be playful back but dont completely give in. Itll drive him batty but he will like it. Talk about the future briefly if you think its a possibility with him. If you dont just act cold and he will take off pretty soon.

Its really up to you. We arent really hard to figure out. Hes thinking of you long term and doing his best not to get hurt telling you that. Your call!

Joke back, like when he said he wanted to marry me (in response to a meal I cooked) and I jokingly asked back, how long have you thought that and he said the first time you cooked for me. My response: "Is that so?" He chuckled and said yeah but he couldn't tell me that so soon after he started dating me. I didn't play into it, I just let it be... maybe he wanted more, IDK, he has asked me outright if I wanted to get married again someday so it's not like he doesn't know where I stand on the topic. Of course, he drives me nuts with his statement (joke) that "there are some girls that DON'T have to cook and there are some girls that HAVE to cook"... but, since that night, now "there are some girls that CAN cook". Not sure if I'm fortunate or unfortunate to be in that last category as opposed to the first... he keeps eluding that he wants a girl who doesn't have to cook.