lost my pisces

she finally left me and wants to continue her life without me in the picture. why i ask? because she feels that the relationship is not worth working on anymore, due to my personal problems. ive put her through so much unintentionally and now i feel that shes had enough and she means it. says that its too late to try and fix things even though i have learned through all of it. when i talk to her i can hear in her voice the distance and coldness, like the trust is lost and i feel like it would take a lot to regain the trust and wonder myself if it would be worth it, but above all we are bestfriends and thats why i feel it worth to try and improve the relationship, but she says that without me she feels alot more calm i guess because she isnt scared of what i might do. i feel horrible and deep down i know that i wont find anything like this for the rest of my life. she isnt one to run off and start new relationships as soon as one is done, she even said she doesnt want relationship at all even with me. says she is still interested in my life and wants to know how i am all that which is really nice but it would be easy to act like a friend towards someone like that only if i found a better relationship, but until then i couldnt be buddy buddy with her like she says she wants to be. i just dont see her that way. im more of a all or nothing. just had to vent. i asked her how she feels and shell reply "idk if i knew i would tell you", then five minutes later she says exactly what she wants (to move on witohut me in the picture but still remain friends), she did the same thing before, one week i asked her what would make her happy and she said to take me back, then the next week it changed to a break . idk. i tried so hard to explain that i wanted it to work which is why i improved on the things that hurt her but i guess its not enough. such a good girl. . i feel so bad.

Here is what I know. When a Pisces gal decides to end things, at least from my own experience love isn't lost for that person, but other emotions valuable to a relationship are like trust and a belief that things will be better in the future. Its a confusing time, often wrought with ideas of going back because its comfortable but then logic kicks in and you go "nope, I meant to do this" because of XYZ and what ever reasons that caused you to want to leave. What you often get a confused fish just trying to stick with a decision, chances are if they are a Pisces similar to me the decision to leave was hard enough, and now we're left with the pros and cons of that decision. Often making us say things like lets get back together, wait no, lets take a break, uh no lets just be friends. Figuring out this stage is hard especially to the inexperienced. I wish you luck man. It seems you have the right idea, you admit you need space from her until you've moved on which in my opinion is the only reasonable course of action. Such fickleness is the product of a confused Pisces heart just trying to cope with their decisions.

Best wishes

thank you all for condolensces

i am at a two way road with a decision, i am almost sure that the reason why she doesnt want to do it anymore is because she is afraid of what im going to do but i have showed her that i will not put her through the things i did before because i finally understood what it put her through when she broke up with me the first time, i realized i never thought about her feelings when i told her things that were on my mind and they really hurt her, and i did it multiple times but i have come to learn that the things im telling her ar enot her problems or her concerns but just mine, and to work them out myself, because ive never had a relatonship like this one where the feeling wasnt instantaneous or full compassion love, it was something that i grew into and has been the best relationship ive ever had because of our friendship, and at times i would worry that i didnt really love her because i would compare the way i felt towards her and the way i felt towards other girls, and i want to plead mycase one last time for her to give me one last shot, and i know it may be useless but i want her to know that if i do something like that again than to never have anything to do with me, but at the sametime i want to make a decision based on love, and that would be to just let her go, because i dont want her to make a decision that she doesnt want to do.


dk what to do

let her do what she want and let her free. if that saying about letting people go and then coming back if they really loved you is true, ill let you guys know 😉

Posted by Lex
Here is what I know. When a Pisces gal decides to end things, at least from my own experience love isn't lost for that person, but other emotions valuable to a relationship are like trust and a belief that things will be better in the future. Its a confusing time, often wrought with ideas of going back because its comfortable but then logic kicks in and you go "nope, I meant to do this" because of XYZ and what ever reasons that caused you to want to leave. What you often get a confused fish just trying to stick with a decision, chances are if they are a Pisces similar to me the decision to leave was hard enough, and now we're left with the pros and cons of that decision. Often making us say things like lets get back together, wait no, lets take a break, uh no lets just be friends. Figuring out this stage is hard especially to the inexperienced. I wish you luck man. It seems you have the right idea, you admit you need space from her until you've moved on which in my opinion is the only reasonable course of action. Such fickleness is the product of a confused Pisces heart just trying to cope with their decisions.

Best wishes

Woah, this is exactly what I'm going through right now. True stuff right here.

Man!..... Pisces always go back. My twin dated this Pisces, and they been on and off for years! It's always her doing the break up, but the next thing she wants him back and POOF they are back. Pisces give in to their emotions way to easily, and perhaps over time you might find this a weak trait. Then again.... I don't know what you did to her, so this may not apply. Everything happens for a reason, take time to reflect, and work on things to improve on your self. You'll feel better, and be a better person. Hey, we all go through this, your not alone.

Just try to be a better man. Let her heal her wounds of your past mishaps. When she sees you're okay and you can be dependable again, maybe she'll come back. But that's not always the case.

My advice is to make yourself a better man, for your own good.

thanks guys. i appreciate all the support and advice and will heed it all. thank you for the insight Lex, i know thats exactly waht shes going through right now and im just going to give her what she wants and try to remain and reestablish our friendship in the meantime. i really do hope things work out.

I know it sounds a bit harsh to say this right now, but I think you should just forget about her and start moving on. Too much has happened between you two and to try now once again and force something would be pointless for the long term even if it does work temporarily, I think the most probable bigger picture here is that there is a reason there has been so much conflict between you two and that reason is that.. you two simply are not a good fit at this point in time. You can never say never, you and her will change a lot in the coming 5 or 10 years so time will either make sure to make even more clear that you are too different OR it will pull you together. Dont hope for anything though, if its meant to happen, it will, trust me.

Posted by EusiveSoulll
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Same as you, at the time of separation, my ex-partner could never imagine just being friends with me, however, I am happy to say that he overcame his —selfishness?? ( as he so cals it ), and year after the breack-up, he found the courage to reach out. As started earlier, we are still in touch and I will always care for him dearly??_.but in a different way.


Anyhooo??_.as the rest of on here??_I wish you all the best and do plz keep us posted

this is exactly what i dont wish to happen, which is why im struggling so hard to contain myself from calling her again and telling her everything i wish her to understand. i have told her lots of things that i wish not to repeat, and now that i think about it i wonder how or why she stayed with me after i told her those things. . . .


the thing is that i have 'left' her multiple times and came back to her after realizing that what i felt wasnt true or just felt the urge to talk to her. . .she has stuck with me through it all, she is a very strong woman when she needs to be but ultimately shes my babe.

thanks shaka. i trust you bro. and thank you veyr much elusivesoul, god i hope what happened to your man doesnt happen here, but i gotta ask are you happier without him?

hey p angel, remember all the times i was mean to you and my attitude towards you was as if you were some vile creature? yea, im sorry for that, so if you could look at my situation and give me your honest opinion that'd be great, thanks. 😄

just want to let you guys know i appreciate all the advice and concern.

I know your pain man. After hearing your story, I just wanted to pass along my Sag optimism. Maybe, in time after you both have healed, you can begin things anew with her. In these times, maybe it is best that you two separate and gain a new perspective. If its true love, you two will be back together.