my lovely pisces is getting self-destructive

ever since i moved away from my hometown it's been difficult for me and my piscean best friend - we spent literally every day together for years, attached at the hip with a very, very intense friendship. ever since i left she's been shrinking away from all our mutual friends and has been making new ones with people who are way older than her and who share some particularly malicious drug habits. the thing is, we both used to have drug problems back in the day and kind of used each other as "sober buddies" as an escape from the drugs we'd take, and now that i'm gone i really feel as though she's slipping, and i'm really concerned.

whenever she brings it up i tell her that it's not good, express my concern etc, and she just laughs it off like it's no big deal...and on some level i can tell that she actually likes the drama and instability it causes her. i know there's nothing i can do (been through the whole 12 step thing) but it still hurts to see her this way.

i love her a lot, and for the past year there's been a little bit of a romantic subtext to our relationship (ever since i've moved away and gotten a girlfriend, she's been a little hostile towards me.) i just don't know what to do anymore. i have faith that she'll find her way, but i have a feeling she'll have to go through hell to do it, as is what she seems to be set on. anyone have similar experiences?

"(ever since i've moved away and gotten a girlfriend, she's been a little hostile towards me.)"

Well......DUH!!!!!!!!! 😛

I think she's attention-seeking, SW. But at any rate, everyone has to learn their own lessons. And nothing teaches them better than "the hard way," unfortunately.

for some reason, i felt compelled to share this...

sometimes a piscean might deem a certain (or preferred) 'self-destructive behaviour' as necessary 'treatment' for whatever it is that they may be feeling at that particular point in time in which things became unbearable...

sorry,
jack

yellow, i understand. i used to think self-medicating with drugs to deal with my anxiety, self-loathing and sensitivity was doing me good, too. but then reality bit me in the ass 😉

meh, i know i have to let her do her own thing.

Another thing, SW ...

Often times, when Fish are uncertain, or directionless .. we flounder aimlessly .... and during this flapping around like a fish out of water, a Pisces often submerges their brains into drugs and alcohol to escape the self-awareness.

It's funny because other people fog their brains over to forget about problems ... we don't really fear problems, we fear being alone without direction. It's so hard to explain because we don't really need to be guided, we don't need a person to give us direction, or control us ... however, just being partnered IS our direction.

We are born to give to the wo/man we love, to wrap our world around this person .... this is our direction. Without it, we're lost.

Then, once a Pisces gets a little older and has more life-experiences, we begin to swim upstream during times of being single, instead of downstream ... for our direction turns inwards, to ourselves.

It's possible that your lovely is feeling lost because she is alone in this world, there isn't anybody in which she can care for or fulfill. And this will definitely cause a Pisces to go into a drug induced fog.

We HAVE to care for somebody .. HAVE TO. Many a Pisceans life has been saved by having children. Once Fish bears a child, we then have direction in which to give everything we have.

that makes a lot of sense, P. it particularly shines some light on her behavior as of late, what with dating guys she shouldn't really be dating. but that's her, always looking for love in the wrong places. 😉