Not a good sign, right?

Long story short:

We've been out on a couple of dates
Pisces went on vacation
Said we'd keep in touch before he left
Pisces is back from vacation (obvious in an update of a picture)
No message.

Before he was eager to tell me about the vacation, saying I helped to inspire him to go and to explore and travel etc. He said he would keep in touch when he got back and that we'd talk all about it. Nothing yet. He's been back for two-three days from what I can tell, the update was last night. I know he is super busy but still. I don't want to message him and nag, and to be honest I'd almost expect for someone who went on vacation to message me because I don't magically know when they're back (I guess I do now, but the principle is still there).

This is probably not a very good sign, is it?

A couple dates doesn't constitute you being as priviledged as you expect to be.

That is barely scratching the surface.

And now you are expecting him to regard you higher?



I remember your other thread about "chasing" him .. and the thing is, you have pisces all wrong. I've no clue who was telling you to "play" games of chase, however it was should be duct taped.

YOu don't play games of chase with a Fish .. you don't catch us.

If you want us, you have to shed all that ego bullshit off that you have going on.

Well in all honest I have seen people make excuses only to be hurt. The see the actions of the other person through rose coloured glasses, they convince themselves to keep trying and then in the end they were just pushing themselves further into something the other person CLEARLY wasn't into.

I think that is what is giving me this outlook. I guess I'm worried of being that person, the one who keeps trying when the other person is clearly not interested. I'm taking his lack of communication as a hint towards that.

Just my thought process. P-A you always make me feel guilty for thinking this way about Pisces, as you should. As blunt as you are I thank you for your honesty.

Every is guilty of not being accountible to thierselves, and owning up to being the one who makes their life.

Unfortunately, people would live an entire existence never even acknowledging that they are accountible for themselves .. and would live that entire time believe life is happening TO them, not BY them.

You should feel guilty for everything you have done ... otherwise, how are you going to realize you are the director of your life?


The Pisces person is a complete paradox in that what we stand for, is what we protest .. our convictions that stand up for to others are our very inequities .... we are two fish swimming in opposite directions.

We defy ourselves ... that is the fish.


Pisces doesn't need you ... like you need us.

Don't forget that ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^

I won't. I just don't want to push towards something that isn't willing to receive.

I'd ask him to tell me about his trip over coffee but...gah. I don't know.

He's probably waiting for you to show him you are glad he's back and that you want to see him again. If you wait for him to contact you, it shows you don't care that much. Just casually say.... I see you are back, I hope you had a good time. And now the ball is in his court again. It's give and take.

Yeah I'm going to message him. Hell, if he doesn't want to talk he will make that very obvious. I can't keep deducing hints from the silliest things. I'm going to do it right now.

So we had a conversation about his trip, when I said I had to get going he said thanks for the message and told me to have a good night. Nothing super long, not too short, just a very surface conversation and stuff. He asked a few questions, we made a few quips/jokes. I don't know how I feel about it.

There was one thing that did kind of rub me the wrong way.

"Thats awesome though, it must be a little depressing to come back to (insert town here)."
"babblebabblebabble yeah it is but I honestly only have 2 and a bit more months here, I can do it."

I kind of just realized that he's leaving soon. Sigh.

Hmmm yeah. Maybe that's why things seem to be slow moving. Maybe he's not wanting to invest in someone if he knows he is leaving. I don't know much about what's been going on lately with you two, not enough to give much of my thoughts. Just be on friendly terms and wish him the best if he's leaving. Nothing more you can do if he has to go.

Exactly, I am kind of assured now. I will continue to be open to his conversation and such but I should probably start thinking along the lines of a friend. I know I wouldn't get emotionally attached to someone I knew I was leaving (not saying thats what he is doing, and I'm not saying thats going to happen, this is just a general reflection). Right now all I have is his friendship, and seeing as how he is such a wonderful soul I am happy with that.

He also didn't have to add that into the conversation. I feel as if he's explaining himself in a way, or just hinting at it to let me know. Or maybe I'm just crazy. Hahah.

Posted by transcendentbull
Exactly, I am kind of assured now. I will continue to be open to his conversation and such but I should probably start thinking along the lines of a friend. I know I wouldn't get emotionally attached to someone I knew I was leaving (not saying thats what he is doing, and I'm not saying thats going to happen, this is just a general reflection). Right now all I have is his friendship, and seeing as how he is such a wonderful soul I am happy with that.

He also didn't have to add that into the conversation. I feel as if he's explaining himself in a way, or just hinting at it to let me know. Or maybe I'm just crazy. Hahah.

He could have added it to see your reaction. It's hard to say what was going through his mind when he wrote it. It's easy to learn their characteristics (at least for me I know the pattern) but it's hard to know what they are thinking.

I think that leaving in two months comment has made it easier to detach. As a Taurus I find that I attach myself to the IDEA of something. The idea of a person, the idea of conversations, dates, etc. I live in my head and I got a little carried away as I always do. Now that I've been knocked on the head I still think he is a wonderful person, but I'm less attached to the idea of there ever being anything because realistically that hasn't happened yet, nor will it ever happen given the circumstances. Its crazy how quickly a situational feeling can change.

Nothing has been said since. I think I get the hint. Sigh.

Dang you Pisces! 🙂

Posted by transcendentbull
Long story short:

We've been out on a couple of dates
Pisces went on vacation
Said we'd keep in touch before he left
Pisces is back from vacation (obvious in an update of a picture)
No message.

Before he was eager to tell me about the vacation, saying I helped to inspire him to go and to explore and travel etc. He said he would keep in touch when he got back and that we'd talk all about it. Nothing yet. He's been back for two-three days from what I can tell, the update was last night. I know he is super busy but still. I don't want to message him and nag, and to be honest I'd almost expect for someone who went on vacation to message me because I don't magically know when they're back (I guess I do now, but the principle is still there).

This is probably not a very good sign, is it?

Trans, as a pieces we put love more than anything. WE do love being chased, but dont over do it or else the pieces will pull back until we think it's safe now to swim again. It should be balance, you chase me and in return I chase you back.

Pieces is a romantic person. They put love on the top list. Hence, if he really likes you, he will cherished you like princess. Even if he was on vacation, he will texted you, telling you what he did and what he saw. Sometimes we event email pictures just to show how excited we are and really want to share it with you.

If he told you he was excited to share but did not sharing at all, he was just think that you are not important enough in his life. If you really likes him, make him jelaous a bit. Show to him that you can live wihtout him. Pieces surely likes attention. Try it. If it still didnt work, its time to move on. Either he has met other woman during the vacation or he's not interested at all.

p/s : we're delicate creature. We really hate hurting others feeling and that cause us give excuses to run away *I really hate when I do this bc when I do that, i will just hurt them more. But believe me, we dont have that intention at all to run away like that. Mybe it's our typical pieces...

Posted by transcendentbull

As a Taurus I find that I attach myself to the IDEA of something. The idea of a person, the idea of conversations, dates, etc. I live in my head and I got a little carried away as I always do.

It's more of a woman thing, then a Bull thing.

Women, in general, tend to overemphasize the smallest gesture a man makes, and making it into some tremendous emotional intention towards wanting a loving relationship built around everything she has ever put in her head.

It's common for women to do this. Within a week of meeting a man, she has spun this fantasy so large that she's scribbling down the names of their children.

It's the #1 reason why women continue to fail in relationships = they don't let it take its natural course to run and instead attempts to force the relationship into commitment.



What I find hilarious these days as I read all these threads ... women can't handle rejection. For as long as humans have been alive, men have had to deal with it, and he better deal with it gracefully or the woman would accuse him of all kinds of horrible things ... but, let her be rejected by a guy and the world is ending.

How dare him !!!


Funny shit .....

Haha, I don't think it was an attachment like that (in terms of scribbling our names together and all of that stuff.) I just told myself he was different, and he was! I got enthralled in that reality and kind of got a little carried away with wanting to make things work (not in an aggressive manner, as you can tell because you have constantly helped me in my threads aha) but just in a way where I started over analyzing everything as I do when I like someone.

He hasn't said anything. He has uploaded a few photos of his vacation, he has replied to people's comments and so forth, so he won't message me. I'm fine with that though, it would have been nice to get to know him better because he was a great conversationalist, but if I'm not the girl for him then he shouldn't waste his time on me. And he didn't! So now we can both find someone to make up happy. Cheesy but eh. I respect him, and wish him well.

Thanks for your help P-Angel, you've pulled my head out of the gutter many times. They may have been very blunt, swift kicks to the psyche, but they were very necessary. Hahaha.

Posted by DeadRingerr
So funny how she claims the poster should shed herself of all ego, yet thats all I see from every Pisces that has posted. Hyprocrits. Don't shed anything for anyone, just be yourself if he doesn't want you than find someone who does. This Rat over here is full of herself and full of shit.

True story