Great Piscies Man Messed up Ex and Forgiveness

This topic was created in the Pisces forum by butterkup on Tuesday, January 31, 2012 and has 19 replies.

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@butterkup
14 Years

I met a piscies man while out singing at a bar one Saturday night. He was singing when I walked in and when I was up singing he was blown away and approached me and told me he thought I was pretty talented. He then told me he had a stalking ex girlfriend and asked me about my life. All in all a big click happened especially when we both were singers which i thought5 was awesome.
We then spend most of the next week together and eventually this turned into a relationship.
He contacted me via text regularly one day 8 hours of text6ing back and forth. He took me out of town to where he used to live and introduced me to all his old friends and everyone liked me and he was just beaming. Anyway when I picked him up for this holiday as we decided to use my car his ex girlfriend was in front of him walking backward trying to get his attention block his every movement. I was concerned abotu this and he appeared shaken by it too. I told a friend this friend took it upon themselves to report this behavior to her employer as she was in a work vehicle at the time and was in a work uniform.
Her employer proceeded with disciplinary action. After that she called him a narc and ran him off the road on his way to work.
The following Tuesday her employer contacted me asking for details. I said no way im not talking about this as i felt this was not a wise move. I then rang him and said what had happened he became very angry and said how could you tell anyone about this its not a big issue I can deal with this you had no right. Later that night he text me and said he wast ready for a relationship and that he felt i had behind his back in a way that he wasn't comfortable with. he felt my actions had caused him to get hurt.
Part two to follow!
Later that night I rang his ex and asked what all this was about ( as he had told me that she had put his dog to sleep stolen his car reported him to the police one) as it all seemed so extreme. She basically told me I was better off without him and couldn't understand how I had feelings for him.
The next Thursday he changed his phone number but contacted me with it and we text each other for a while. The next night I decided to text him and said hey lets go out tomorrow night and have a good time. After three hours i got no reply.

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@butterkup
14 Years

I then text him and said oh screw this is this a series of games. He then text back later on a said jesus get some patience i wanted to go out with you but you did this I had left my phone in my locker and couldn't get to it as it was raining last night and I didn't want to risk taking the phone with me ( he rides a mountain bike to work as she has the car)

That was the last I heard from him until Sunday he then text me and told me his ex was looking for me and was going to assault me. I went to the police and told him I had done this as I needed protection as i lived alone. He said i was being dramatic and over the top. And that this was making it worse.

The next monday I text him and asked what he expected I should do. He said withdra the complain lay low and eventually it will blow over. I followed hi9s advice he text me later in the day and said he would contact the ex on her landline and try and diffuse the situation and make it clear to her that i had done nothing.

Later that night I contacted him and asked is it done am I safe— he replied ive lost her number I said cut the crapp its in the white pages and gave it to him. the next day he contacted me and said that he wasnt being all bullshit and that he had written her a letter and did his best.

Later on she contacted me and said nothing would happen to him. I then text him and he said great it worked.

So what now I love him to bits hes everything i ever wanted can this progress — do piscies forgive

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@butterkup
14 Years

he is pisces sun cancer moon sagittarian ascendant venus in aeries

where as I am sun sagittarius capricorn ascendant moon aeries and venus in scorpio

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@butterkup
14 Years

Im fairly convinced it wont after the letter i got from her she opened up big time she has given up and moved on to a new guy.

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@paranormalbadgirl
15 Years

oh, wow! That's too bad. Freakin ex has control of the whole situation. He needs to be the one to put her in her place, otherwise you two wont be happy. He has to be the one to fix this, and get the ex out of his life. If he values you, he will do it. Don't tear yourself apart for this guy. Keep away from him, and hopefully he will fix this so you guys can have a relationship.

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@butterkup
14 Years

The ex messaged me on facebook nd said she would leave me alone because she told me a whole bunch of stuff that he had supposedly done and she basically said I was welcome to him and that he would do the same things to me that he had done to her. And that she had found a new man. At the moment he doesnt reply to my texts or anything he seems to have just shut down.

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@P-Angel
21 Years25,000+ PostsPisces

Posted by butterkup

So what now I love him to bits hes everything i ever wanted can this progress —

You ramble on for two 2500 character posts which describe to us how much of an emotional dickhead he is ... and then end with proclaiming he's your everything?

Seriously ... the only person who is bat-shit crazy is you.

I don't get it, and this seems to be most of the threads in here .... women talking about the man being an asshole to her, and then her saying she loves him and wants him.

dude, if he's your everything ... then stfu and lie in your bed.

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@butterkup
14 Years

Well thats a greatly constructive response to the issue at hand i dont think its rambing to include the detail as if I had left the detail out it would not have given a good representation of the situation would.

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@Mistery
19 Years500+ Posts

He is still so involved in ex drama and now his ex is on your facebook? How did she get that - why did you give it to her? She threatened your life recently and that's not a big deal? And why are you asking a virtual stranger (the guy you 'love') with a fucked up relationship on what you should do about your personal protection? You don't love him because you hardly know this dude. He's not done with her either. And why ask for him to forgive you? Only be with someone who is free and clear. You should've called 'done' from the very first sign of trouble.

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@butterkup
14 Years

I live in a small city in New Zealand turned out i used to work with this girl when i was younger its one of those places you cant go potty without the whole town knowing where you been she just looked up my name on facebook and messaged me i read her speil for a while then put it on block and that was pretty much it.

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@ventibreeze
14 Years

Sounds like trouble to me, you may think that you are in love with this man, but, it sounds to me like he has way too much baggage, his nutty ex for one and quite frankly he doesn't sound all the ticket, do you realy need all this stress in your life?
I would pull back and let him get on with his life for a while and sort out his own crap.

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@tbird
14 Years1,000+ PostsPisces

Holy hell...there is just so much going on here. First off all as a mermaid if the dude I was interested in got ran off the road by his ex and his ex is going after me and he said don't file a complaint with the cops it's not a big deal. I would be SO highly pissed off. He's leaving you in danger he saying if you call the cops which reporting this crazy broad is the right thing to do is you making it worse then throwing a pissy party about it. A complete WTF?!

What I got out of this whole scenerio is

1) This ex is fucking bonkers
2) He's fueling it by letting her get away with it and not reporting her behavior. So she has a free license to do as she pleases
3) His behavior makes me think on some level he enjoys her tenacity
4) This makes me feel like he's fucking bonkers as well
5) He doesn't give 2 shites about either of your safety
6) You and his ex have WAY too much contact with each other. Especially when you're not friends and she trying to hurt both of you.
7) She knows WAY too much about you and can hurt you at anytime. For fucks sake she killed his dog and tried to kill him. Fatal Attraction anyone. This broad is Glenn Close dude and if you didn't see that movie she won't stop.
8) Run, run fast from the both of them. You're going to end up being on the 6 o'clock news for someone finding you're body at some random place

9) No man no matter how wonderful isn't worth you getting killed esp when he's not trying to help you or thinking your blowing shite out of proportion
10) I have a feeling both of you either like this drama or used to it so you won't get away a toxic relationship such as this.

Good luck and write out a will. Pick out your burial dress and a plot you want to be buried at. You need to secure this stuff if you're going to continue seeing this guy. My god...

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@P-Angel
21 Years25,000+ PostsPisces

Posted by butterkup

So what now I love him to bits hes everything i ever wanted can this progress — do piscies forgive

You got responses from people .. but, none of them supported you. Instead, they told you the opposite of what you asked. Funny how that works, isn't it?

YOu want to know how to keep him .. not how to leave him.

He's your everything, you want his love and forgiveness .. it looks like people want to tell you how to not love him and leave him.

::: shakes head :::

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@ninalove
14 Years

@Butterkup

Your fish has a similar chart to my fish though he has Gemini rising like me. You and I have Venus in Scorpio...sounds like you've been dickmatized! Easy to happen with Venus in Scorpio. We love intensely...as you get older and recognize this more you will have better control and clarity over the way you handle yourself in relationships.

These guys appear to have a need for "fans" and are quite secretive.

I am curious to know what his ex said he did to her that will happen to you?

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@butterkup
14 Years

That he has three good weeks in the month where hes fun and happy and nice to be around and one week a month where he turns into a veritable depressed angry female dog and then leaves usually to screw around and then come home a week later looking for forgiveness

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@tbird
14 Years1,000+ PostsPisces

Hmm...if he's cheating on you on top of everything else...why in the earth are you wanting to keep this man? Seriously hun...think about if your friend was in your situation what would you tell her. I'm sure it wouldn't be stick it out. Leave this man alone.

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@ventibreeze
14 Years

Sounds to me like you have the potential to become the future "raving loony ex"!! Is that what you realy want for your future? Get out while you can,and be glad you did.

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@P-Angel
21 Years25,000+ PostsPisces

Of course it's what she wants .. what's wrong with you people .. can't you read?

She spent an entire 2 2500 character long posts to describe his character, so we would "get" the idea of how much of a chucklefuck he is, and then ended it with ... he's her everything, and how should she go about being the one who is victorius in scoring him?

Well, those are my words .. but, that's what it means.

Do people even really "get" other people because it seems like people respond according to how they feel about a situation, and not according to what the creator feels about a situation.