pisces greatest vice...firm decision making

Ive been thinking about this a lot the past few weeks. I think clearly when I am alone, but when forced to make a decision about the fate of hurting some one else, I wobble immediately. I am easily guilted into things I really don't want to do and my problem is wanting to make everyone happy. I should be number 1 when I make decisions, but I feel mentally retarded. I see how it hurts me when I get rejected, so I tend to over think the rejection of others. When people guilt me, I become hostile and upset. Ive been guilted all of my life, and so Im extremely sensitive towards that. Sweetness wrangles me in, until I realized Im being used.

I think its a mixture of low self confidence, not wanting to hurt others and being hated, and needing reassurance that I am doing the right thing. I do this with just about EVERYTHING in my life. From a simple "Hey what kind of cereal do you want?" to "Do you want the job?" I know...not too complicated, short stuff...but it happens. People have surely made more life threatening decisions than that. This especially effects the way I love too and it drives me nuts. I guess I just want to fit a square peg in a round hole when I know that isn't right. I am not stupid at all, but it really makes me wonder how serious am I about my life when I do things against my will. I am really trying to work on this terrible habit. It has already effected my life and I want it to end as soon as possible.

Im kind of tired of this habit. Has anyone been able to overcome this disadvantage? And I truly mean, its a huge disadvantage.

I just went through a situation not just one hour ago with one of my best friends and I talking at a sonic. He's been getting paranoid about this guy who he claims is too perfect its creepy, that he's hiding something and some such stuff I had to listen too. Part way in he already made it clear he wanted to use my intuitiveness to figure out exactly what he was hiding or whats driving him to do all these things hes doing.
This broke two of my morals here in that I'm essentially letting myself be used and that I'm potentially trying to hurt somebody. At the same time he's my friend and I can't get away from trying to make everyone happy.

On an everyday basis, struggled with this type thing every morning. If there's someone that has somehow gotten over this and is also a pisces I want to hear it.

Same here, i am very confident in what i like; my limits, my beliefs and the decisions i make in life (Mars in Leo) & once my mind is made up, i can be very stubborn, willful and self-assured and often hard to budge (taurus rising). Though i am sympathetic, altruistic and fair-minded, i also instintively know what is "not right" for me, and am not afraid to say "no", & do not feel guilty. Common sense, justice, fair-play, being my basic guiding principles.. Remember, if you continually give an inch, a mile or two will be taken.

Like Donald Trump says, it's okay to be a lil selfish, in life.. You see, those who truly care, will not prey on your indecisiveness, no matter how bad, but will give you a LEG-UP, instead. Surround yourself with people who "DO" respect your limits, those you feel comfortable & at ease around, and that you can respect in-return. *Remember that awesome radar and intuition are some of your greatest piscean gifts. Believe in yourself and what feels right for you; your decisions, opinions & needs ARE as important as anyone else's. And don't let the immature emotions of others get to you or guilt you either.. Children do it, adults can do it, too.. Be your own best friend, first..

(Remember, everything starts in the mind FIRST, and so what you 'continually' feed it, it WILL believe.. So keep 'em positive..)

Thanks Mystic Fish, Your words make a lot of sense. I am going to a therapist now to bring back to myself a sense of self. I do realize I am a bit easy to manipulate and I also realize if I use confidence and assertiveness, I end up getting what I want. My upbringing was filled with a lot of guilting and worrying, also madness and stress. So I learned to quickly just move out of people's way or please them so they won't be mad. When I started fighting back for me, everyone would tell me I couldn't do that and I should be more respectful. It confused me a lot. I did it a few times anyway more out of being mad about how unfair I was being treated. My mother is a virgo and my father is a gemini. They are now split up and I have pushed my mother out of my life because she is too domineering and selfish for me. She is only nice when she needs to "use me" and I picked up on that many years ago.

I've been going back and forth about this and I don't want indecisiveness in my life anymore. I am easily discouraged and a people pleaser and I know I need to just "stop it," and be a self-pleaser first.

Prince Pisces, you are lucky to have strong will. I need to still work on mine.