TaurusAngel
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Posted by TaurusAngel
Is there any merit to the assertion that the men seem to like needy women or those with problems?
I've read about it before. the guy that dumped me recently was quite gloomy, had a negative outlook at a lot of things and he had been on one long term abusive relationship & one with a woman who was depressed. He stayed with these women long term even though they had trouble having normal relationships.
I am fairly stable with no real issues and am happy and positive, made him laugh a lot and he just bailed on me after very little time.

Posted by TaurusAngel
Is there any merit to the assertion that the men seem to like needy women or those with problems?
I've read about it before. the guy that dumped me recently was quite gloomy, had a negative outlook at a lot of things and he had been on one long term abusive relationship & one with a woman who was depressed. He stayed with these women long term even though they had trouble having normal relationships.
I am fairly stable with no real issues and am happy and positive, made him laugh a lot and he just bailed on me after very little time.



Posted by djbuck1
" . . . and so I changed my behaviour to what I thought he wanted."
Why would you do this?
From what you have written, this sounds like a very one-sided realtionship. If these are the facts, then you dodged a bullet.

Posted by 3dimes2nickels1penny0sense
Pisces are not an earth sign so we don't think or value material things quite the way earth signs do. To a Pisces a lot of times its more than just how much money we make so we can go buy things. Its more about how the job makes us feel. Do they appreciate us there? The same with relationships. We need security from our significant other. We need validation. Love and understanding. Without that we won't form a spiritual connection to you and we won't fall in love with you.
Pisces tend to be more spiritual which has little to nothing to do with materialistic things that earth signs tend to base their importance or worth. Notice how you saw his exes as needy and undesirable according to what your value system is. So you couldn't understand why he stayed with them so long because by YOUR value system, you are so much better for him than they were but he bailed on you because you never tried to understand HIS value system. Which is completely different from yours.
Posted by prettypisceanPosted by 3dimes2nickels1penny0sense
Pisces are not an earth sign so we don't think or value material things quite the way earth signs do. To a Pisces a lot of times its more than just how much money we make so we can go buy things. Its more about how the job makes us feel. Do they appreciate us there? The same with relationships. We need security from our significant other. We need validation. Love and understanding. Without that we won't form a spiritual connection to you and we won't fall in love with you.
Pisces tend to be more spiritual which has little to nothing to do with materialistic things that earth signs tend to base their importance or worth. Notice how you saw his exes as needy and undesirable according to what your value system is. So you couldn't understand why he stayed with them so long because by YOUR value system, you are so much better for him than they were but he bailed on you because you never tried to understand HIS value system. Which is completely different from yours.
i applaud u for this.. very well said.. +100000000 🙂click to expand
Posted by Nemesis
he probably has a virgo moon or something lol.






Posted by TaurusAngel
So no point. Totally done for ok.
So there's no C pisces guys then lol?!
Maybe he'll come back I'm seen so many threads saying they do after a while.
I guess by the time they do its probably too late.
Posted by 3dimes2nickels1penny0sensePosted by TaurusAngel
So no point. Totally done for ok.
So there's no C pisces guys then lol?!
Maybe he'll come back I'm seen so many threads saying they do after a while.
I guess by the time they do its probably too late.
Dam I hate my Gemini moon and all this air in my chart. I just have ask WHY? Why do you love this man so much? Please don't get me wrong, I'm not saying that you shouldn't love him. I'm just asking why? How long were you involved with him? I'm just really trying to understand why you love him so much and you are willing take him back.click to expand


Posted by TaurusAngel
It's been about 3 weeks. I got a bit upset and told him so. that was when my needy side came out and I sure showed him how much I valued him. he was ok with me though and said he was in a bad place and didn't want to waste my time when I'm such a great person.
Then I calmed down and a few days later I said sorry by text. but he didn't reply. he was working 13 hour shifts nearly every day. he said he wasn't in the mood to contact anyone when we were breaking up. he'd been liberating
I guess its been about 3 weeks.
Posted by 3dimes2nickels1penny0sensePosted by TaurusAngel
It's been about 3 weeks. I got a bit upset and told him so. that was when my needy side came out and I sure showed him how much I valued him. he was ok with me though and said he was in a bad place and didn't want to waste my time when I'm such a great person.
Then I calmed down and a few days later I said sorry by text. but he didn't reply. he was working 13 hour shifts nearly every day. he said he wasn't in the mood to contact anyone when we were breaking up. he'd been liberating
I guess its been about 3 weeks.
This maybe hard to do but I think you should not contact him and give him time to process everything. If he cares about you he will call you. Just be patient and you may just get what you want.click to expand

Posted by TaurusAngel
Its one of those totally illogical things. I just feel it for him. I shouldn't....logic dictated that I shouldn't. but I do.
Ps it should say hibernating above not liberating.




Posted by JennGem
You said it "He worshipped me and my body". They have to worship your heart, your soul, your everything. You know if you are special to that man if he opens up his heart you, becomes vulnerable. Shares his life that he doesn't share with anyone else, even talks to you differently then everyone else. If you see that side of any man, that's when you know.click to expand
+1
Very well put.
Posted by piranhaparadiise
he just got out of a relationship,,,that's the problem right there... it's not hard to decipher that he enjoyed getting his mind off his ex...but it wasn't the same ...
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Posted by piranhaparadiise
pisces can share problems etc it means nothing...actually the fact he shared this very early on is a red flag that he was not ready to date...Pisces want to impress their date not scare them off...
if they dump their laundry very early on...they are looking for a sponge...then they are off...this is for every sign...it's called emotionally unavailable...sure you'll get the issues but not the relationship...unfortunately...

Posted by TaurusAngelPosted by piranhaparadiise
he just got out of a relationship,,,that's the problem right there... it's not hard to decipher that he enjoyed getting his mind off his ex...but it wasn't the same ...
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I was worried when I found that out. I wish id known before I started liking him or I wouldn't have got involved. I doubt he would have wanted it to be the same as his ex.....she was very depressed and was for years before she met him. she forbade him.from.seeing his female friends as she was jealous. they had already broken up once. I don't think he would have wanted it to be the same as his ex with all her problems. she was the can't get out of bed depressed. I wish I had known he was fresh out of a long relationship as I would not have wasted my time and developed feelings for him.
No votes for trying to stay in touch?click to expand



Posted by IrresistableScorp
I can't seem to stay out if this. 🙂
Pisces (and water signs in general) have a way of making people feel like THIS IS THE BEST CONNECTION EVER. After only a few dates. And why is that? Because we appeal and stir up emotions. Pisces has the added benefit of being uber charming which makes it seem like OMG SOULMATE! Lol
Water signs don't do this on purpose.
However and what you are seeing now is that while your fish was just doing his thing, you were being taken in by water magic. 🙂
The key to knowing if the water magic is real is if the connection gets deeper OVER TIME. 3 dates, 6 dates. It doesn't matter. If you find you feel stagnant or a lack of progression, it's not happening and may never happen. Also if you are not being challenged or made to feel uncomfortable emotionally-- it's superficial and not happening.
Water signs present a great peaceful front. But we all know what goes under the surface. If you are not seeing under the surface--it's not happening. It's superficial.
Finally, if someone tells you that they aren't ready for a relationship and then does not contact you-- believe them. Taurus you are under the water magic spell. Try to shake it off.
Disconnect.

Posted by IrresistableScorp
Lol. I know. I know.
Shake it off. Shake it off. 🙂)

Posted by deezie
I guess the link isn't needy women... because she is coming off needy to me 🙂

Posted by deezie
I guess the link isn't needy women... because she is coming off needy to me 🙂

Posted by IrresistableScorp
Hmm. Does she want him? Or dies she want what she can't have? Does she even know him? You're right dimes. She's being stubborn. Who knows? Maybe that will work. Or maybe once she gets him, if she does, she won't want him anymore?
Plus she presented a false front from the beginning. She tried to be his fantasy and he saw through that. Can a person conform to become a fish fantasy or does the fish make up his own mind what his fantasy is? *shrug*
*sips cold coffee*


Posted by TaurusAngelPosted by deezie
I guess the link isn't needy women... because she is coming off needy to me 🙂
yeah. you're right. I know I am.
I held back from.showing him how much I liked him as he made it clear on his.dating profile that he dudnt want a needy woman.
Also I put my year of birth wrong last time I calculated my chart. I put it in right this time and I saw I have loads of.water
placements. You know how nuts water people go when they like someone.....Yup. sorry. I wanted to tell him how much I liked him but I was scared he wouldn't like it.
Oh well. live and learn. ill leave him be.click to expand
Posted by 3dimes2nickels1penny0sensePosted by TaurusAngelPosted by deezie
I guess the link isn't needy women... because she is coming off needy to me 🙂
yeah. you're right. I know I am.
I held back from.showing him how much I liked him as he made it clear on his.dating profile that he dudnt want a needy woman.
Also I put my year of birth wrong last time I calculated my chart. I put it in right this time and I saw I have loads of.water
placements. You know how nuts water people go when they like someone.....Yup. sorry. I wanted to tell him how much I liked him but I was scared he wouldn't like it.
Oh well. live and learn. ill leave him be.
Its all making sense now. (Spotlight shines on Taurus Angel) Question. Have you thought about if you do try to call him, if he ignores you or he tells you he is trying to work things out with his previous ex, how you would actually handle that? Can you handle the truth right now?click to expand
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I've read about it before. the guy that dumped me recently was quite gloomy, had a negative outlook at a lot of things and he had been on one long term abusive relationship & one with a woman who was depressed. He stayed with these women long term even though they had trouble having normal relationships.
I am fairly stable with no real issues and am happy and positive, made him laugh a lot and he just bailed on me after very little time.