Pisces guys and needy women? (Page 2)

I am not trying to be a bitch. I am just trying to point out that no matter how much one lies to themselves... it doesn't change reality when other people are involved.

if we lived in our own bubble... self delusion would work perfectly.

but on the converse side I do understand the emotion of it, and that you don't get things, until you do; in a generalized manner.

my motive is point out what I see from an objective standpoint. and yes I get a little crusty when it isn't heard.

Posted by deezie
and that is fine dimey... but when she is claiming that he doesn't want her because he only wants needy women...

I think IS has things battened down in here 🙂

Of course you are right deez, 99% of the time your assessment is on point. Hahaha. But that 1% is a muthaf (shut your mouth there now..) True, she did mislead with her title and she is back and forth and kinda all over the place but she believes she is in love so her perception is off kilter. Lets cut her some slack. She is hopelessly in love.

But Scorp maybe right. This maybe a case of wanting what you can't have. Hmmmmm.

hahah dimes. some may be here for slack giving. I am not. that is not my purpose in being here. it doesn't mean I don't get it, because I surely do.

I offer what it is that I feel is valuable. and it may be very different from those who find compassion valuable. compassion is a form of enablement to those who seek answers but don't want to hear the truth. compassion retards the progression of things. some is fine but incessant coddling isn't my style .

cold ass bitch? yup. probably. lol

Posted by TaurusAngel

I was just going to send the odd text now.and again so he doesn't forget me. Is that best for a pisces ir should I just disappear too.

That's a hard question to answer because if you do that you greatly limit your chances of knowing for yourself how he truly feels about you and if he indeed does miss you. Sometimes people, even Pisces when they don't love you, will take kindness for weakness and use it to their advantage. Let's say he is between jobs and needs money. He never really was thinking about you but you cross his mind because of you texting him and he remembers, oh yeah she likes me and may give me some money. He might play on your emotions and use you for sex or money or both and once it becomes inconvenient again, *Poof* he disappears and you are right back to where you started, except now you love him more, your bank account is $ 1000 lighter and you're pregnant. What is your 'end game'?

Posted by IrresistableScorp
Should you be on your best behavior or should you be on your best authentic behavior on a first date? If being on your best behavior results in presenting what you think the other person wants then somewhere down the line when Ms Authentic shows up, something's not going add up.

Just a thought.

True I was a bit messed up when I met him. Still nursing heart break. My ex from last year (gemini) was evil when we broke up. I made it clear how much I loved him, I never failed to tell him how much I liked him, made it clear I wanted to spend time with him and when we broke up, he threw it all in my face. He called me needy, unattractive, & tore apart everything I was. so when I met pisces guy I was on guard at what my ex had said. I was quite shy and nervous and not demonstrative with my feelings or affection. I got over it in a couple of dates and we were ok I thought. I was very demonstrative then. but then he went funny when he started his job.

My behaviour was a bit different at the start as my gemini ex told me it was unattractive.

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Posted by TaurusAngel

I was just going to send the odd text now.and again so he doesn't forget me. Is that best for a pisces ir should I just disappear too.

That's a hard question to answer because if you do that you greatly limit your chances of knowing for yourself how he truly feels about you and if he indeed does miss you. Sometimes people, even Pisces when they don't love you, will take kindness for weakness and use it to their advantage. Let's say he is between jobs and needs money. He never really was thinking about you but you cross his mind because of you texting him and he remembers, oh yeah she likes me and may give me some money. He might play on your emotions and use you for sex or money or both and once it becomes inconvenient again, *Poof* he disappears and you are right back to where you started, except now you love him more, your bank account is $ 1000 lighter and you're pregnant. What is your 'end game'?

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I can quite honestly say I know him well enough to say he would not do that.

I met him when he was between jobs. He was worried about money and even so he wouldn't let me pay for things. He took me for drinks, paid for dinner nearly.every time, made me dinner, bought wine and stuff for me at home with him.

He was kind and generous when he wasn't working and always footed the bill.even though I offered.

@TaurusAngel. Ok. I understand why you love him so much and you miss him like crazy. He is kinda like your rebound guy. You needed someone to pick up the pieces that your ex shattered. The Pisces started your healing process and gave you reassurance that the Gemini ex was wrong about you. Now you have that void again. Not as big as before but still a void that isn't filled nevertheless.

He is the first guy, that you were attracted to, to come along and make you feel special and wanted. No wonder you miss him so much. Wow. I understand completely. I went through something similar after my divorce. I fell in love with a rebound chic but didn't see her as that. It started out good but it slowly got worse and we broke up and because I associated my validation with her, I tried to hold on to her for 3 years while she took advantage of my love and loyalty for her. I am kind of outraged now as I look back on it and see how foolish I was and how I put up with so much negativity and selfishness.

I realised he was amuch better match for me than gemini guy. I fell for gemini hard and all the way along little things came out that made me realise it wouldn't work.

Gemini was really uptight. he reacted to the smallest things. he had strongly held.views. he hated any kind of swear word. two of best friends were gay and he wasn't comfortable with them being openly gay. he made comments about racial groups until I told him to stop. he was way too close to his family: little boy in a mans body. I have a twisted sense of humour he did not.

When I met pisces guy. wow. he was more flawed than my ex. he was open liberal, non judgmental, had a sense of humour like mine, I could be myself (after I got past the first couple of dates) & not have to worry what I said in case I offended him. He was so much easier to be with.

I miss him a lot. If I.did text him some time in a few weeks (not now) what should I say?

Posted by TaurusAngel
I realised he was amuch better match for me than gemini guy. I fell for gemini hard and all the way along little things came out that made me realise it wouldn't work.

Gemini was really uptight. he reacted to the smallest things. he had strongly held.views. he hated any kind of swear word. two of best friends were gay and he wasn't comfortable with them being openly gay. he made comments about racial groups until I told him to stop. he was way too close to his family: little boy in a mans body. I have a twisted sense of humour he did not.

When I met pisces guy. wow. he was more flawed than my ex. he was open liberal, non judgmental, had a sense of humour like mine, I could be myself (after I got past the first couple of dates) & not have to worry what I said in case I offended him. He was so much easier to be with.

I miss him a lot. If I.did text him some time in a few weeks (not now) what should I say?

Keep it simple. Just say "Hi" or " How are you?" See how he responds then act accordingly.

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Posted by TaurusAngel
I realised he was amuch better match for me than gemini guy. I fell for gemini hard and all the way along little things came out that made me realise it wouldn't work.

Gemini was really uptight. he reacted to the smallest things. he had strongly held.views. he hated any kind of swear word. two of best friends were gay and he wasn't comfortable with them being openly gay. he made comments about racial groups until I told him to stop. he was way too close to his family: little boy in a mans body. I have a twisted sense of humour he did not.

When I met pisces guy. wow. he was more flawed than my ex. he was open liberal, non judgmental, had a sense of humour like mine, I could be myself (after I got past the first couple of dates) & not have to worry what I said in case I offended him. He was so much easier to be with.

I miss him a lot. If I.did text him some time in a few weeks (not now) what should I say?

Keep it simple. Just say "Hi" or " How are you?" See how he responds then act accordingly.

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ok. I wont do it for a few weeks and I'm back online dating in the meantime. maybe ill forget about him by then.

I saw loads of threads on this site which said that pisces always seem to resurface later. how true is that?

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Posted by JennGem


You know if you are special to that man if he opens up his heart you, becomes vulnerable. Shares his life that he doesn't share with anyone else, even talks to you differently then everyone else. If you see that side of any man, that's when you know.

I have to say I disagree. I can do this with many people. Different strokes for different folks, I guess.

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come to think of it, it isn't true.

My last bf never opened up to me about his deep issues and feelings & we were very much in love. He told his family, his friends his issues but not me. Some men are prideful...they don't like appearing vulnerable to their partner.

@tiziani that's exactly right. you don't have to let it all hang out and display every vulnerability to the person you're with. being strong for your partner is underated. especially when you've just met.there is no need to air your laundry to someone.

I'm not sure how similar Pisces males and females are but we can sense right away if someone is very into us and it always turns me off of someone. Especially if they straight up tell me they like me a lot. I think it is too much too soon. I like someone who has a life and doesn't change themselves at all for me unless there is an issue that needs addressing and compromise. That type of change is ok.

I also feel you dodged a bullet. I would not bother trying to text or contact him. Find someone more worth your time.

Posted by PiscesSteph
I'm not sure how similar Pisces males and females are but we can sense right away if someone is very into us and it always turns me off of someone. Especially if they straight up tell me they like me a lot. I think it is too much too soon. I like someone who has a life and doesn't change themselves at all for me unless there is an issue that needs addressing and compromise. That type of change is ok.

I also feel you dodged a bullet. I would not bother trying to text or contact him. Find someone more worth your time.

See that's interesting. I wasn't sure about him at all when I met him. He was all over me.. he laid it on, you're so lovely, your eyes are beautiful, ditto nails hair clothes etc. texts me after the date to say he was just thinking about me and how lovely it was to meet me.

I didn't start feeling it for him until.date 3. I didn't lay it on thick. I don't know if he sensed that I had begun to like him.I certainly have a life, I'm in a learned profession as is he and see friends and go to sports. I didn't change things for him. Just was on my best behaviour at the beginning as everyone is dating.

I can totally see that it would not work to get involved with him with so many problems. I just wish I could have met this nice guy at a better time in his life but its never that simple.

Not totally selfish. I have a saviour mentality with relationships. I want to look after him. I did when we were together a little bit.

His ex he was with for 4 years but they'd had one or two break ups already. it was not a.match made in heaven.

He cheated on his first love.

I like looking after people and making them happy. I certainly made him laugh a lot. But you're right he's got too much going on.

Annoyingly though I've had job problems for over a year. I am in a bad place with work and have been for a year. do I take it out on anyone or let it screw up my life. Nope. I leave it at the office. he brought it all home with him and let it spoil his weekends.