pisces man

Hey everybody,
I am new to this forum and i hope i will get some help from you!
Pisces men! I have never ever knew a pisces man and i am not sure what's going on with this one.

I met this person almost a year ago. We were meeting occasionally at friends' events etc. We had casual talks and that would be it. None of us ever showed any interest what so ever. Until recently, out of nowhere at a party we just start flirting, very subtle but clear. I was surprised as i thought i am not sending any signals. We went on a date the day after and it turned out to be the best date i have ever had in my life ( i am 35 so quite a lot) He was all caring and doing absolutely everything possible to make sure i am having a good time. The day after we were exchanging text messages back and forth. The following day we went on a second date when he was absolutely amazing again and now we are going away for the weekend. I mean he does everything to the smallest detail someone would do if he has serious intentions. But here is the trick and i am a Sag who tends to miss the gist or end up completely confused very often. We both are unavailable. He is married ( to a wonderful woman) and i am seeing someone. None of us was planning that, it just happened but i don't know how to read his action or to understand what's going on...
Whatever thoughts you might have are welcome 🙂
Thank you!

If he's married and you're seeing someone, why are you dating and going away for the weekend? I don't mean to be blunt but...neither of you are "available"

Posted by Leostrong
If he's married and you're seeing someone, why are you dating and going away for the weekend? I don't mean to be blunt but...neither of you are "available"

I know 😢 but for some reason we just clicked and we really, really like each other...

I'm not trying to "judge" you. But you will only have questions and heartbreak. It's the old saying, when you play with fire, you get burned. I'm not preaching, just saying. It's a lot to think about.

Well we didn't have the talk about the situation yet, we just made it clear it's a secret, which means none of us is even thinking of making it obvious. Surprisingly enough i am much more distant and considerate, but i was curious how to read his intentions... that's all. Aside from that i guess you are right ...

Posted by IrresistableScorp
My saggie friend went from soulmate to dumping in a month with a Pisces guy. I wouldn't take your amazing feelings too serious at this point.

I'm also confused why if he is married he's taking you away for a weekend. What's the deal with his marriage?

Also are you happy in your relationship?

Kind of just sounds like a bit o fun on the side but you are making it sound like a real connection. Which is it?

I have no idea what is it, that's why i am confused...🙂 It's way more intense for just fun and far too new for real connection. Honestly his marriage seems fine, my relationship too... i am not unhappy!

lol see, real mess 🙂

Posted by ProphetaAzteca
stop while you're ahead.You are in dangerous territory.it is a connection that is not supposed to exist,the fact that it has started means it needs to end.

be realistic of the situation.

emotions cloud logical reasoning.

but if you want to tear off the top of pandora's box,by all means,go ahead.Lessons not learned in blood are soon forgotten.

Do....not...proceed.

seriously.

heeeeey what's with the blood 🙂 it's not so dramatic

Posted by IrresistableScorp
Fantasy =/= mess.

Fantasy = not real.

simple and clear haha true
btw i know that saggs are not a very good example of steady emotions🙂

Posted by ProphetaAzteca
stop while you're ahead.You are in dangerous territory.it is a connection that is not supposed to exist,the fact that it has started means it needs to end.

be realistic of the situation.

emotions cloud logical reasoning.

but if you want to tear off the top of pandora's box,by all means,go ahead.Lessons not learned in blood are soon forgotten.

Do....not...proceed.

seriously.

Listen to ProphetaAzteca. Instead of wondering why he's stepping out on his wife, you should be wondering how she feels being betrayed by the man who promised to love and cherish her. Just because you didn't make those vows doesn't exonerate you from the consequences b/c you knew from day one he was married. All relationships are fragile. You either caught him at a down point or he's a dog looking to step out. Furthermore, he's already shown you he's willing to deceive his wife, which means you can never trust what he tells you. The only question in my mind is who will end this first and how long you'll beat yourself up for violating your own moral code and better judgment. Moral of the story: you don't win anything worth having when it comes at the expense of another. Either try to repair the damage you've done to your boyfriend or get out. You're hurting him too and he deserves better than that. Live, learn and make smarter choices in the future.

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Posted by Leostrong
If he's married and you're seeing someone, why are you dating and going away for the weekend? I don't mean to be blunt but...neither of you are "available"

I smell "the burning rubber of error" here!

This is DXP Leostrong. Adultery and spouse stealing are not only condoned here, they are enabled, "rationalized," and "justified."

You are coming perilously close to judging someone, and one of the operating maxims of DXP is: "Only someone who is perfect can judge another person; as no one is perfect, no one may judge."

Now, go stand in the corner.

No wait. That's a consequence attendant to a judgment, and there can't be consequences either so . . . um . . . hmmmm.

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LOL

damned if you do, damned if you don't.

Posted by Nemesis
people get what they ask for.

that's the one.
even the ones that whine about it saying they didn't ask for it..... that's the one righhhhhht.......









.....there.

Probably for the best Nem. I wish my rage upon reading, and impulsive responses would rest a minute so I didn't waste finger or mental energy.

It just happens. lol

I want to revive Piss & Vinegar.... and then have a "Coddle & Enable" thread - that redirects to the board with all the novennas.

And then I wish we could flag threads such as this.... to be sent to the C & E thread 😄

Posted by JennGem
Is this person for real?? Call me judgmental, I don't care, KARMA!!! I have been cheated on while married. You sound like a troll, you are so nonchalant about this. I feel like you are here to stir something up.

LOL, she's as nonchalant as only a Sag could be. If she wants to stir up something, she's on the wrong forum. The Capricorns would have kicked her to death by now (see milly over there).

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Posted by JennGem
Is this person for real?? Call me judgmental, I don't care, KARMA!!! I have been cheated on while married. You sound like a troll, you are so nonchalant about this. I feel like you are here to stir something up.

LOL, she's as nonchalant as only a Sag could be. If she wants to stir up something, she's on the wrong forum. The Capricorns would have kicked her to death by now (see milly over there).

We had a Gemini on the Cap board, also intent on carrying on an affair with a married guy (cap)... just as nonchalant, to the point of feeling completely smugly entitled about it... and you could NOT tell her she wasn't 100% right to pursue it. I picked up one of my personal little collection of DXP trolls by daring to object to that. Sometimes we do a pretty good job of explaining reality to them, and sometimes we sadly don't.

I've got no help or warm fuzzies for entitled cheaters.

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Maybe we help them already by reading their story and interacting with them. They have to keep the affair secret, so they try to vent it anonymously.

It's like sharing a secret which still remains a secret. Having your cake and eating it.

This thread thread reminds me of when Nefer was here... and the Pisces blasted people's asses they way they do it best.

Hey, IS... fuck off with your JUDGEMENT on how people should talk to others. Not everybody responds to the same types of expression. It's pretty stupid how you're coming on to the PIsces board lecturing them on how they should respond.

I think they're being too nice to you

If this isnt a troll, I am sure the reason it was her best date is because she is feeling the excitement of doing something so wrong.

Any hope of something good coming from this is quite retarded.

Everyone else already said what I was going to say so good job.

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Posted by shellshocker
This thread thread reminds me of when Nefer was here... and the Pisces blasted people's asses they way they do it best.

Hey, IS... fuck off with your JUDGEMENT on how people should talk to others. Not everybody responds to the same types of expression. It's pretty stupid how you're coming on to the PIsces board lecturing them on how they should respond.

I think they're being too nice to you

Whoa. IS can call my ass on the carpet any day. She's one of my besties, and if she thinks I'm wrong, she can say it and I'll listen.

Even though I'm right in this case. 😉

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Just like I can express my opinion of her opinion in the way that comes natural to me 😉

This is where we all can disagree... semantics are a dangerous thing. I know you guys are all "besties" and probably have formed a subconscious code on how you talk and interact with each other. no problem...

But trying to say that people need to hear a message in a specific way.. is sheep herding in my opinion. Political correctness is bullshit.

Now, you guys are saying that the OP deserves to hear the truth in the way you want to deliver it. But, IS doesn't "deserve" hearing my opinion the way I wish to express it because she is your friend?

hypocrisy all around, folks...

I dont understand why this was even a debate. The OP deserves scorn.

no.

Come on, life is not black and white. Sometimes people in relationship find each other. Dont know if this is the case here, only time will tell. If 2 people feel a strong and real connection, nothing can separe them, even if 1 or both or them are married. It is sad that all these moral apostels scare away real people with real stories... these 20 threads on this board "Pisces, what did you eat for breakfast today" are so boring.
OP, stay true to yourself., and come back.

My experience with a married pisces guy who was hitting on me has shown that if they create a strong emotional bond with you, something is wrong in their marriage. These ones I have known are all good family men and are not cheaters.

Yep, afternoon delight🙂 good work

I'm just gonna bite my tongue and let the chicks who go after married guys perplex their own lives.

well it was obvious that was the only reason you coined in on the its ok to go after married guys because i do it myself train.

Not to justify myself, but sometimes people just connect. I have no had any date with this married Pisces, we have not been physical in any way, we dont meet, only in the objective circumstances that draw us together. But the connection is still there after one year and evolving. Now I know (from outside sources, not him) that his marriage was unhappy already before hitting on me. It is probably not going well, but we never talk about it, just about the topics that brought us together. We are both past the age of mind games.
Im not comfortable with the OP going on a date with this guy, but I would not dare to call her (nor myself) a slut. Life is the best teacher. Ok, Im out.