Pisces man Pisces girl and a silent break up...

Hello guys,
I could really need some help with my pisces man.
Well I am a pisces girl (Aries rising, scorpio moon)and I have been with this guy for a little over 3 month now.He is a pisces too (capricorn moon).
I am 20 and he is 26 years old. We have known each other since february and started to date in Mai.
Since June we have been a couple. Unfortunately, due to summer holidays we have been in different cities over the summer and had no opportunity to meet each other. But it was okay. At least in the beginning. He was nice, sweet, caring, totally in love. He said he was serious, that he wanted to marry me, that he loved me...
Then, after 2 month he started to change all of a sudden. He acted distant and cold and ignored me. We didn't talk for a week (i had no idea why) and then he explained to me that he had some family issues right NOW and needed some time to figure them out. He told me he loved me, that I was important for him and that he wouldn't ever leave me.
This went on for another 3 weeks. He would ignore me, than come and say how much he loved me and that it would all be good again soon.
Then finally the holidays where over and we met. Everything was okay, he was nice and sweet. In the evening of the day we met he told me he had problems to commit to someone and just couldn't do this. I was devastated, heartbroken, hurt, angry... I cried for days.
I asked him, I begged him to meet one last time so we could talk about it and he said okay but he would never call me back. So I just accepted it and got used to the thought that our relationship was just over.
But I always had the feeling inside me that this couldn't be the end, there had to be something more.
A week ago, he called me and asked if we could meet. We met in the evening, we sat at the beach, talked a lot. He told me about his commitment issues, that it was hard for him etc.
He said he doesn't want to end our relationship, he wants to start all over again. And I said okay. He told me he was still having feelings for me, that he would still marry me right now if he could. I went home with him that night, we kissed and hug ed (nothing really important happened but even this small thing were important for me)
and he slept next to me, he hug ed me and kissed me and told me he was serious about me, how cute I was and a lot of other nice things.
Then in the morning he went to work, and I went home. He didn't call me since then. Why?
Please can anyone help me?

not only wasnt he calling me but he didnt answer any of my text.
For 5 days. We only talked 2 min.
I was really hurt and I sent him a text 3 days ago after I tried to call him and he didnt pick up.
Telling him he was hurting me again, and that I was sad.
Why he was acting like this. And that I was tired and hurt.,

He didnt answer.

I think thats it?
I dont know if I am too impatient or if he doesnt want me?
I really dont understand.

@88pisces
Do you still think he will back...
I dont want to loose him but I feel like I have lost him...

I see a few red flags here and time is working against you.
1) You didn't see each other for over 2 months, after he was filled with love and marriage ideas for you. Pisces is an emotional sign and we can overflow -mean it too in the moment we say it- with happy feelings. I believe he meant what he said when he said it, but you gave it all time to cool off. A Pisces man doesn't need non stop needy clinging, but we DO need a frequent reminder we're on your mind. Choose your way of communicating and score points for originality as you can shock us to make us think: hey I had no idea she would do this to show she thinks of me. That keeps us on our toes and the spark alive. As you gave him a lot of time alone, feelings weren't replied with seeing you/touching you. It's hard to not make our minds wander around then. It's nothing personal but that need for affection can run deep with some of us, and he might have found other ways to fill that void. See next point
2) Taking on family problems as your own, hello good guy Pisces stereotype. This is his current project to give him satisfaction, that you -sorry- cannot provide currently. He's wrapping himself in that problem fully to give his mind something to think about. Doesn't mean he stopped caring full stop about you, but when the choice came between maintaining a loose long distance contact or helping family.. we'll chose family. Nothing you can do to change this.
3) Going on holiday, not contacting you and then saying he loves you? Seriously man.. show some consistency! If he doesn't care enough to think about you on his holiday and send a darn text, you're low on the list of important things. He isn't scared to commit, he got bored with you because those love feelings got time to cool off.
4) I didn't even had to read on to knew what was coming next haha. He gave you the elusive 'second chance' at a dating reset. Sure have him hide behind the classic commitment issues, but he just wanted a valid reason to call it a quits should you not spark interest like you did the first time.


As a fellow Pisces male I see these as small red flags that something is wrong. Easily fixed too but you better be ready for some small drama and strange feelings as you try to settle again in your previous routine of being in love.

What you should do is forget everything that happened before, clean slate and seduce him all over again like you did the first time. DO NOT bring up all the 'you didn't call/text me' crap, c

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DO NOT bring up all the 'you didn't call/text me' crap, cause if he's a good pisces he'll know what he did wrong.
He won't want to be confronted with it cause he feels bad about it already if he still likes you.

Should you bring it up, he'll be tossed right back into that state of 'I felt bad and you weren't there'.
You do NOT want that right?

Seduce him all over again, I'm sure you can do it again as you did before.
Good luck.

If you really want to see what will happen, don't text him or call him. Wait for him. If my significant other kept sending me over dramatic texts/lots of calls, I would probably be a little annoyed. I can barely deal with my emotions let alone someone else's swings/break downs. On the other hand, though, unless I was extremely busy/stressed or hanging out with friends, I would respond. If I cared enough about you. Staying in contact with the person I care about is something I take importance to.
Honestly, I think there are two important parts in what you said. He has committment issues and he doesn't take enough care in keeping contact with you. It would seem to me he's just not ready enough to be in a relationship with anyone at this point. Caring too much about his situations and too little about yours.

@Ormas

Okay, I understand. OMG I didn everything wrong right? Instead of making the ebst of the second chance I acted like an total idiot.
So what do I do know? Text him? Because the last time I text him he didnt answer like I mentioned before. Do I have to hurry or is it better to wait a bit?
I am confused... I am sure we can make it all work again if we just meet and hang out but since he is avoiding me and not talking to me, how can I do this??

Posted by 4fish
Hello guys,
At least in the beginning. He was nice, sweet, caring, totally in love. He said he was serious, that he wanted to marry me, that he loved me...
Then, after 2 month he started to change all of a sudden.

that sounds like one of us alright...

--Jack

Posted by 4fish
@Ormas

Okay, I understand. OMG I didn everything wrong right? Instead of making the ebst of the second chance I acted like an total idiot.
So what do I do know? Text him? Because the last time I text him he didnt answer like I mentioned before. Do I have to hurry or is it better to wait a bit?
I am confused... I am sure we can make it all work again if we just meet and hang out but since he is avoiding me and not talking to me, how can I do this??

You have to decide if you really want him, cause as you can see it's messy.
You didn't mess up completely, don't worry about that too much.
If you do want to make things work again, just give him some time.

Text him openly and something neutral like: Hey how are you?
Or if you want to take things a little more direct, mention something personal like: I did this or saw that and it reminded me of you. Something that you know he'll remember, so make it something fun you two did together. Make him wonder about that again and how he felt. He'll think about you again, you plant the seed of yourself again.
Then by all means DO NOT send again, until he replies. If you push us then, we'll either come back to mess with you -for sport cause we know we can- or he'll run away cause you're too needy.
Yes pisces ladies, the guys have a limit for the needy factor too.

If he replies, always keep it short and suggest something fun to do. Don't talk about dating/relationships or what went wrong. If it were me I'd think: Hmm i recall having fun with her, why did that stop? I should go out with her again, cause it was fun back then and I can use that again.

That's your moment to be carefree and happy, entertain his thoughts and make that seed grow.
"Why on earth did I ignore her for so long, she's fun to be with".
That's when you get your reset.

I'd be willing to wager that the moment he decides to bestow you with him, you will eargly jump to take whatever morsels he decides to give you .... because that's what women do when they are desperate for someone to want them.


Obviously, you don't know your self worth .. and so you await on a man to decide whether you are worth anything.




::: shakes head :::

Okay,
I finally text him. This morning. Just a part of one of our first conversations that made us both laugh.
I hope it will work, I am scared I am really scared to get hurt and to loose him completely.

So i better dont mention anything emotional right?

@P-Angel
I wish I could be different but right now... I just cant. It sucks right....

Posted by 4fish
Okay,
I finally text him. This morning. Just a part of one of our first conversations that made us both laugh.
I hope it will work, I am scared I am really scared to get hurt and to loose him completely.

So i better dont mention anything emotional right?

@P-Angel
I wish I could be different but right now... I just cant. It sucks right....

Patience and having insider knowledge is your power here.
His mind is all over the place so you just give him some time.
Don't start on the emotional part, because before you know you'll be breaking down emotionally, texting him things you shouldn't say.

Gosh we sound like a Taurus sometimes haha, just don't push him.
And be honest at all times, don't make things up. You know how we see right through the bullshit.
He'll know you still have feelings like a deer caught in the headlights, but showing self control is very much admired.
If you unleash that wave of 'god knows what you've got stored up', he'll run like the wind.

Good luck! 😉

Thanks 🙂)
I am kinda scared. Like really scared. I cant even sleep because I always have him on my mind.
Like "what if he doesnt come back"

But he will right?
Well he hasnt replied yet but I have to wait and give him time. Try again give him time...
I hate being in Love...

Posted by 4fish
Thanks 🙂)
I am kinda scared. Like really scared. I cant even sleep because I always have him on my mind.
Like "what if he doesnt come back"

But he will right?
Well he hasnt replied yet but I have to wait and give him time. Try again give him time...
I hate being in Love...

Love is either sweet agony with a drowsy goosebumps ending, or it's sheer torture with the kiss of death at the end.

You'll get him back if you can control yourself.
The more you run to him, the more he'll run from you.
You suffer a bit now, makes victory all the sweeter 😉

Posted by Ormas

Posted by 4fish
Thanks 🙂)
I am kinda scared. Like really scared. I cant even sleep because I always have him on my mind.
Like "what if he doesnt come back"

But he will right?
Well he hasnt replied yet but I have to wait and give him time. Try again give him time...
I hate being in Love...

Love is either sweet agony with a drowsy goosebumps ending, or it's sheer torture with the kiss of death at the end.

You'll get him back if you can control yourself.
The more you run to him, the more he'll run from you.
You suffer a bit now, makes victory all the sweeter 😉

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haha okay if you say so... I am truting you 100% 😄 😄

Love is either sweet agony with a drowsy goosebumps ending, or it's sheer torture with the kiss of death at the end.

I loved that!!

Posted by Nemesis
i have the feeling - it's the beginning of the end....somebody just did not get the hint.....

what do you mean?