What the...

Hello all, I'm new to the board and haven't had much experience with Pisceans at all. I'm a Leo sun, Gemini Moon and would love some insight on Pisces males. I have never dated nor met a Pisces male prior to a recent and confusing encounter with one. I've been reading some of the previous threads here and it seems as if when Pisces men get too close to a potential partner, they end up pushing them away.

Anyway, I started dating a Pisces man recently and we seemed to really hit it off in the beginning. He was attentive, a gentleman, very affectionate and always put in 110% effort when it came to seeing me. He planned ahead a lot with me, buying tickets for us to a concert in July, wanting to meet my parents, wanting to see me and hang out with me all the time, always wanting me to stay over... Things were going pretty fast after only about a month and a half of seeing each other. And then...

I had planned a vacation with one of my girlfriends and I was anxious as to what this would do to the beginnings of our relationship. I figured it was too early to have "the talk" so I left it alone and at the advice of my friends, I contacted him often. Before my vacation, I had spent the night at his place and everything was pretty normal. However, when I was away I noticed he was distancing himself, sometimes not answering me and letting our conversations trail off. Very unlike him since he loved to talk to me all day everyday. I figured maybe he just wanted me to enjoy myself while on holiday so I brushed it off and continue small talk here and there.

I came home just 2 days ago and he initiated the "where do you see this going" talk. I told him I wasn't looking for anything casual and that I wanted to be in a relationship, thinking that by his previous actions he wanted the same thing. To my surprise and dismay he told me that he didn't want to be in a committed relationship because he just wasn't ready. I took it well because I know he was with an extremely controlling and abusive ex for 5 years. However, that relationship had ended 3 years ago. I confronted him about his actions being contradictory. He said he blames himself because he'll think that he's ready, only to realize that he's not. My question is, are Pisces known for this sudden change of heart, or do you think my holiday had something to do with it?

Thank you in advance!

Just because you had unrealistic expectations, doesn't mean his heart changed in any way.

P-Angel you are famous on this board and I was kind of hoping you would respond lol. Love the snarkiness. I don't think my expectations were over the top, but honestly I have never been pursued to the extent that this Pisces had pursued me. I've been reading around more and more on here and apparently Pisces needs time to recharge after being so intensely close to someone. I'm backing off, but we're still friends. There is something about you guys that is terribly endearing. I still see him as a good guy and told him that he will have a lot to offer to someone when he's ready.

Thanks for your response!