I know we all face problems in our lives. But why whine? Why not just take some information source and fix the problem. Isn't that how it deals?
Why people whine so much?
For what?
Haffo,
A lot of the times, the "real" problem isn't even known, and THAT is the problem.
When you say why don't whinners take information given and then fix the problem .. what exactly IS the problem?
They don't know what the real problem is .. that's why they aren't happy and still whinning.
The real problem is that they don't know what the problem is .. therefore all and any help can be no solution, for the help comes to the immediate issue at hand ONLY.
If you don't know, what you don't know .. there can be no help.
Once you know, that you know .. solid information can be given that will guide you because you then know what questions to ask.
What's the real problem then? If you notice, people whine about everything that belongs to ouside forces .. they don't whine about themselves and that's because they don't realize that it's to themselves where the problem AND solution lies.
I mean, seriously, how many people walk around saying, "I'm so sick of myself, why did I do that, fuck myself, I'm gonna kick my ass, wa, wa, wa". They whine about others, because they erronesously believe that the problem lies outside of themself .. when it doens't.
We are responsibile for our own lives .. problems and solutions. If something is screwed up, then we have to look inward for the answer .. not outward.
A lot of the times, the "real" problem isn't even known, and THAT is the problem.
When you say why don't whinners take information given and then fix the problem .. what exactly IS the problem?
They don't know what the real problem is .. that's why they aren't happy and still whinning.
The real problem is that they don't know what the problem is .. therefore all and any help can be no solution, for the help comes to the immediate issue at hand ONLY.
If you don't know, what you don't know .. there can be no help.
Once you know, that you know .. solid information can be given that will guide you because you then know what questions to ask.
What's the real problem then? If you notice, people whine about everything that belongs to ouside forces .. they don't whine about themselves and that's because they don't realize that it's to themselves where the problem AND solution lies.
I mean, seriously, how many people walk around saying, "I'm so sick of myself, why did I do that, fuck myself, I'm gonna kick my ass, wa, wa, wa". They whine about others, because they erronesously believe that the problem lies outside of themself .. when it doens't.
We are responsibile for our own lives .. problems and solutions. If something is screwed up, then we have to look inward for the answer .. not outward.
P-Angel's got the right idea.
But, I think that a lot of people do know what the problem is, atleast subconsciously, they just would rather blame it on outside forces rather than actually put in the work to change and be the kind of person they want to be and change their lives to the lives they want fully.
Why do people do this? I believe it is because of fear, because of the fact that it takes work to live a life one values, because it's easier to complain about something that they can't control rather than take responsibility and live the way they wish to live to be happiest. Because it takes a great deal of humility to accept that most issues you have with life stem from yourself, rather than others.
But, I think that a lot of people do know what the problem is, atleast subconsciously, they just would rather blame it on outside forces rather than actually put in the work to change and be the kind of person they want to be and change their lives to the lives they want fully.
Why do people do this? I believe it is because of fear, because of the fact that it takes work to live a life one values, because it's easier to complain about something that they can't control rather than take responsibility and live the way they wish to live to be happiest. Because it takes a great deal of humility to accept that most issues you have with life stem from yourself, rather than others.
"I mean, seriously, how many people walk around saying, "I'm so sick of myself, why did I do that, fuck myself, I'm gonna kick my ass, wa, wa, wa". They whine about others, because they erronesously believe that the problem lies outside of themself .. when it doens't."
This is an interesting situation. Most people perhaps does not want their ego die. But what really matters here? We could allow our false ego to drive our lives with constant screw ups, or we could allow the truth to come out. Fighting for the truth is really what matters and worth the most. At the end, we could end sufferings and be helpful for ourselves. But it seems like people choose ego for the most of time and everything goes on. Perhaps people who make drama, are people with biggest egos? That why they seek answers elsewhere rather than inside.
This is an interesting situation. Most people perhaps does not want their ego die. But what really matters here? We could allow our false ego to drive our lives with constant screw ups, or we could allow the truth to come out. Fighting for the truth is really what matters and worth the most. At the end, we could end sufferings and be helpful for ourselves. But it seems like people choose ego for the most of time and everything goes on. Perhaps people who make drama, are people with biggest egos? That why they seek answers elsewhere rather than inside.
"Why do people do this? I believe it is because of fear, because of the fact that it takes work to live a life one values, because it's easier to complain about something that they can't control rather than take responsibility and live the way they wish to live to be happiest. Because it takes a great deal of humility to accept that most issues you have with life stem from yourself, rather than others."
I think it's because of Approval Instinct. We all do try to seek approval of others, sometimes for the cost of truth. Why I think like that? Because people for the most of time would accept anything if it's not seen on public.
I think it's because of Approval Instinct. We all do try to seek approval of others, sometimes for the cost of truth. Why I think like that? Because people for the most of time would accept anything if it's not seen on public.
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