Is it ok if your significant others friends are mostly of the opposite sex? Would you have a problem if this was the case with your boyfriend or girlfriend? And does anyones significant other have this going on out there right now? If yours does..interested too know what sign they are.
well if ur lova is an aqua/ gemini/leo/virgo.. EXPECT him/her to still have TONzzz of opposite sex friendz... but da matter is about trustin' da person... if u trust him/her it doesnt matter if he has all those good Gal friendz... i mean itz natural for a guy to have more gal friendz n for a gal 2 have more guy friendz...
i mean itz up 2 u 2 to discuss wen itz too much... like my BF made it clear that my havin bunch of guy friendz hurtz him... so if it botherz u ...u betta talk about it... if it doesnt n u trust ur lova.. then itz fyne 🙂
I have been talking to a few people about it & I have been told you can be friends as long as the following: - dated/slept with that person (Gotten that bit out of the way) - Known the guy/girl since childhood - the guy/girl is your bf's/gf's hubby's/wife's mate or girl friends boyfriends friend
Random guys/girls you meet are suspect when it comes to a stricktly friendly relationship.
A couple of other observations - it's a sort of generation gap - people born until 1980's generally don't have many opposite sex friendships but people born after this stage see no problem with it. My 18 year old sister has many male friendships that are strictly friends but my 27 - 30+ year old friends see it in an old fashioned way of 'if you are getting to know someone' of the opposite sex - you are courting them.
I took this study to the next level. My bf has allot of female friends. Things have proven now thou that allot of them wanted more - He said he doesn't speak to them anymore because they ended up wanting sex. This does not stop him from meeting random girls (Aqua board has all my woes regarding this) so I decided to meet random boys & see if for myself. I now have one very good male friend who calls me his drinking/dancing buddy - My bf knows about it & I also have kept my other male friends who are friends of friends & am still in touch with my ex's - This seams to be going fine. If I do meet any guys while out I tell them I have a man & if they want to be friends I have no problem with that. There u go
Excellent feedback ladies....very interesting too hear how other people deal with the same scenarios....What would you consider crossing the line with the opposite sex friend?
I think you can tell when you or the other person wants 'more'. If I was really atracted to someone & couldn't get past it then I would have to end the friendhip because its not worth it. However if you can move on from the 'you're a boy, I'm a girl we could get it on' mentality then u can have a great friendship! If they are ugly it helps 🙂 When u meet someone of the opposite sex u always run the risk of crossing the line with that person because u could end up falling in love with them.
Well - I did say I have a bf so that comment was in regards to someone who does have a partner & is making friends with the opposite sex - of course if I was single & I couldn't get it on with someone I wouldn't end the friendship. I do think its risky business for most when u are in a relationship to be off making friends with the opposite sex. Pisceans are friendly people 🙂 We like making friends with everyone - me personally I see no difference between male or female because I am bi - acctually have been having more problems with the girls trying to get it on with me than the boys - and no I am not butch 😉
Well, since I'm a tomboy I tend to have more male friends then females. Do I think of my guy friends on a platonic level? YES DEFINATELY. If I were to think of them in a "I'm a boy, you're a girl, we should get it on" way then it does damage to the actual rapport. However, I do think about the future and one of my males friends could ery well be a potential significant other -- but I'm not EXPECTING that to happening.
Most of the Pisces I know have tons of friends that are the opposite sex. In fact, its kinda their flirtatious demeanor that allows this. The Pisces I know don't admit it, but they kind of pride themselves for having tons of opposite sex's friend. So, asking them to get rid of themselves is not only out of the question, but if you press it too much, they might end up getting rid of you.
Capricorns don't usually have friends in the opposite sex. If we are friends of the opposite sex, its because of one of three reasons: 1. Because we want them sexually and is willing to take time to get them 2. Because we want to build a relationship with them and is willing to take time to get them 3. Because that person can raise our social or financial status
I've never dated a guy who had "close" female friends. Knowing females and being "friends" with them are two different things. I would never date a guy with "close" female friends and on that note I wouldnt expect a guy to WANT to date me if I had "close" male friends. Its just not ladylike to me. Sorry folks.
So what if the Male or Female in the relationship has a predominant amount of opposite sex friends? What does that say about them? Are they attention seekers needing many friends of the opposite sex to validate that who they are sexually? Or could it be who they feel comfortable with or perhaps both?
'..So what if the Male or Female in the relationship has a predominant amount of opposite sex friends? What does that say about them? Are they attention seekers needing many friends of the opposite sex to validate that who they are sexually? Or could it be who they feel comfortable with or perhaps both?...'
well judah i think it dependz on an individual...some people r more open n feel more comfortable wid those of da opposite sex... i mean personally i have alwayz had more guy friendz than galz not ' to validate who i am sexually' but coz they make better friendz.. guyz dont compete wid ya n give u honest opinions n advice.. i have alwayz felt more comforatble wid guy friendz but itz sad how itz hard for guyz to jus be ' friendz' 😢 alwayz want more n u end up loosin' such a good friend 😢....
but N E wayz.... so as i was sayin sum might b attention seekerz.. otherz jus feel comforatble.. i think u can just tell by lookin at a guy wid a bunch of gal friendz in wat category he fitz best...
I know that this may seem a ridiculus quest...but would you allow you signif other to go to a movie, restaurant, or anywhere with opposite sex friend knowingly.....and if you did how would they have to justify themselves for doing so?
look chill if she into u then she is, end of, if u into her then end of, dont play games. it will end up like all other things .........dead. and thats cool love aint a game, the only thing that aint.
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