Would you do the same?

Last Friday night I went out for drinks after work with some workmates. A girl who I have been working with for only a couple of months invited one of her friends along. This girl is gorgeous and we hit it of immediately. We chatted, drank and danced all night (dancing being something I only do when intoxicated or trying to pick up).

Well, as the night went on one thing lead to another, we end up kissing and telling each other how attracted we are. Just when I think things are rolling along pretty well she tells me she feels bad about all this because her friend (the one I work with) has a massive crush on me and because of this she should back off so that she doesn't damage their friendship.

This was all a huge surprise to me but so not fair. I've been with someone I work with before and have sworn never to do it again. Above all I'm not attracted to this other girl at all. I respect this girl's loyalty to her friend (it actually makes me like her even more) but if two peole like each other shouldn't my workmate step aside and let nature take it course. She gave me her number and said she would see how her friend felt about it all.

I called her Sunday night and it turns out my workmate was a little upset about it all. Therefore she couldn't see me again unless her friends feelings change.
So I miss out on a hot chick and I feel uncomfortable at work.

Would you step aside? Most guys I've asked say yes, the girls answers were a little more complicated. Opinions please.......

Yes,at least for the moment.Let her and the workmate figure it out first.

I'd say give them some space to see ifthey work it out and your workmate calms down a little. Its good that you like a girl who can be so loyal to people though and if you don't like your workmate at all then sooner or later she should realise this and be happy for you and her other friend.

Hi BJ,

In answer to your question..Would I step aside? Yup, I would..

I'd be hurt...but it's just a crush.. and I'll get over it.

I wouldn't come between my friend and her chances for happiness.

BJ,

I guess I don't look at things that way everyone else does. This is what I see from your post - your co-worker invites you for some drinks (because she has a crush on you, which you don't find out until later) and while at this pub, you and her friend hit it off and get on all night. Well, first, is your co-worker insipid, or what? Did she not see that you and gorgeous girl were into each other? Or, was that the plan in the first place? I mean, if I wanted to hook up with someone, I sure as heck wouldn't bring some babe with me who is better looking than myself - I sniff a setup here - just to see how you are going to handle yourself. Then, this babe waits until she has gotten you red & hot, just to turn you away blue & bitter - so, what? Your co-worker, sits oblivious in the corner? I think not. If I had a crush on someone, I'd be watching his every move, especially if he is hanging on another woman - it's irrelevant whether that woman is a friend.

So, this is how I would think if I were you. Yes, the co-worker should step aside and let the two of you explore a relationship. That's what people do when they care about each other. Women are really stupid about that BJ. I know I'm female and I should stick up for my own kind, but it's the truth. Women are so into themselves that they can only see what THEY WANT, and that's really sad. Being a good person is about what someone you care about wants and needs. So, if she's really a friend to the babe and you, then she should back off. But, I don't think that was the case here. Look, BJ, women can look at each and recognize if another is better looking than themselves. Your co-worker knew just as well as the true color of her hair that the babe was more attractive, yet she brought her anyway.

That's a no, no, no, no, no, no - and all of us women know this. So, it was intentional. Second, if by some chance your co-worker isn't playing with a full deck and didn't realize this - she certainly did once she saw the two of you. Any single hot-blooded woman would have scooped her friend up and pulled her aside and laid down the rules - BEFORE SHE KISSED ON YOU!!!!!!

Players! If I were you, I'd run as fast as my little feet carried me!

EEK! That's a rough one. As someone else suggested, I'd just give it some time. See if the two of you could maybe email for awhile until the co-worker moves on. Better yet, try and set her up with one of your other work mates. lol

Sounds like just a bunch of high school kid stuff. Adults wouldn't behave that way.

Sounds like just a bunch of high school kid stuff. Adults wouldn't behave that way.

THANK YOU!

God I think I just fell in love with you P-angel.Haha.I was thinking something along those lines but it was the other way around that it was the hot chick toying with him.

Sounds like just a bunch of high school kid stuff. Adults wouldn't behave that way.

Don't know about that. If this was High School I probably would have been laid by now.

What ever happens will happen I guess. I'll just step back and see how it unfolds.

Thanks for your responses!!

BTW- There were no set ups. Neither of these chicks knew I was gonna be there.