Dealing with an Aquarius...help

I've been seeing this guy (Aquarius with moon in Taurus) for 3 months, and I'm confused. When we hang out, we get along great - never had an argument yet. We're both busy in our careers, and I give/ get a lot of space. In the beginning he was texting me every day, and that declined with in the first month. He's disappeared a few times (8 days or so) only to reappear as if nothing's happened. I don't text him at all if he does this. When he reappears, he's always happy to see me.

Lately, I've started to feel as if he's not into it. I reached out the last time he disappeared, only to have him be happy to hear from me. My question is, is this normal behavior for an aquarius male, or is he just not into me? Maybe he's playing the field?

Any insight here totally appreciated 🙂

Have you tried to post this directly on Aqua board... maybe more insight there **~**

He may be playing he field, he may just be doing his own thing (which could include, but not be limited to, playing the field). Have you discussed being exclusive? He still likes you and enjoys your company.

If he's losing interest, he'll just stop contacting you. He may pop up again after he gets tired of being around other friends. Aquas tend to rotate groups of friends, so when they keep you as a "central point" and you start seeing different friends come, go, and return but you're a constant, that's when it's getting more serious.

Always consider your Aqua love interest as a friend first and act appropriately, as if he were a just a good friend. Doesn't matter how much sex you have, until you get the commitment you're a good friend.

I don't see any indication that he's lost interest at this point.

I haven't discussed being exclusive with him because of all of the mixed signals! Trying to take it slow - I'm not sure how he feels. Broke my rule last night and texted him a quick "hey how are you?". He did reply, 5 hours later, that he was exhausted, and had an event that day, but didn't inquire as to how I've been doing. It was the first time we had made contact in 8 days, so I was hoping for more. Didn't get it. I guess a short reply is better than no reply...

Starlover...hahaha I love your point! I'm not sure. I've had a relationship with an Aquarius last over two years, but typically I do find them to be elusive. Might be the draw for me 😉.

Also, I find that the moment I'm over them, that's when they reappear...

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Posted by Kittenfish
Starlover...hahaha I love your point! I'm not sure. I've had a relationship with an Aquarius last over two years, but typically I do find them to be elusive. Might be the draw for me 😉.

Also, I find that the moment I'm over them, that's when they reappear...

I had r.ships with two...........the push and pull was monumental

Never again!


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As you know, over 20 years here. Takes YEARS of patience before you really ge5r comfortable knowing they're truly committed to you.

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I haven't discussed being exclusive with him because of all of the mixed signals! Trying to take it slow - I'm not sure how he feels. Broke my rule last night and texted him a quick "hey how are you?". He did reply, 5 hours later, that he was exhausted, and had an event that day, but didn't inquire as to how I've been doing. It was the first time we had made contact in 8 days, so I was hoping for more. Didn't get it. I guess a short reply is better than no reply...

I wouldnt text an aquarius man a hey how are you? you never get something meaningful for this text....... I think its positive, he answered at all, you know what I mean? reaching out should be more inventive........ I know this "text culture" is preventing rather than helping communication, but if you reach out next time, maybe try something more personal or original?

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I wouldnt text an aquarius man a hey how are you? you never get something meaningful for this text....... I think its positive, he answered at all, you know what I mean? reaching out should be more inventive........ I know this "text culture" is preventing rather than helping communication, but if you reach out next time, maybe try something more personal or original?



Good point! Yeah the quickest reply was after I texted him "...gee, that's fascinating..." Out of the blue, after three days of silence. He texted me 30 sec later telling me to come over. They're quirky for sure.

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Starlover...hahaha I love your point! I'm not sure. I've had a relationship with an Aquarius last over two years, but typically I do find them to be elusive. Might be the draw for me 😉.

Also, I find that the moment I'm over them, that's when they reappear...

I had r.ships with two...........the push and pull was monumental

Never again!


Lol

As you know, over 20 years here. Takes YEARS of patience before you really ge5r comfortable knowing they're truly committed to you.

I take my hat off to you lady!!!

Couldn't do it myself



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It tries the patience for sure. But the payoff is pretty sweet. Plenty of trust, freedom, and emotional support. It's different than what you'd expect if you're an emotional person, but it's definitely solid.You have to be OK with being 2 separate peoole living your lives in parallel, not tandem.

You have to text something interesting to intrigue them enough to want to text back.

"Hey" - not worth responding to . I'll answer "hey". That's it until they intrigue me.
"How was your day" - Answer: Fine, and yours?
"Whatcha doing" - Answer watching TV, and you?

B-O-R-I-N-G

"I found the most fascinating restaurant today" - Now that's intriguing.
"I got into some trouble today" - Who wouldn't put their curiosity aside to answer that?
"I've got a confession" - NO ONE would resist answering that text.
"What demands an answer but asks no questions?" - He won't be able to wait to find out the answer. (a telephone, by the way)

If you text someone, be interesting. Stand out from everyone else. Make where they want to respond to you.

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You have to text something interesting to intrigue them enough to want to text back.

"Hey" - not worth responding to . I'll answer "hey". That's it until they intrigue me.
"How was your day" - Answer: Fine, and yours?
"Whatcha doing" - Answer watching TV, and you?

B-O-R-I-N-G

"I found the most fascinating restaurant today" - Now that's intriguing.
"I got into some trouble today" - Who wouldn't put their curiosity aside to answer that?
"I've got a confession" - NO ONE would resist answering that text.
"What demands an answer but asks no questions?" - He won't be able to wait to find out the answer. (a telephone, by the way)

If you text someone, be interesting. Stand out from everyone else. Make where they want to respond to you.

This is all true ESPECIALLY for an aquarius. Be different than everyone else - they like that.

I'm using some of these in the future.... Love "I've got a confession"

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You have to text something interesting to intrigue them enough to want to text back.

"Hey" - not worth responding to . I'll answer "hey". That's it until they intrigue me.
"How was your day" - Answer: Fine, and yours?
"Whatcha doing" - Answer watching TV, and you?

B-O-R-I-N-G

"I found the most fascinating restaurant today" - Now that's intriguing.
"I got into some trouble today" - Who wouldn't put their curiosity aside to answer that?
"I've got a confession" - NO ONE would resist answering that text.
"What demands an answer but asks no questions?" - He won't be able to wait to find out the answer. (a telephone, by the way)

If you text someone, be interesting. Stand out from everyone else. Make where they want to respond to you.

This is all true ESPECIALLY for an aquarius. Be different than everyone else - they like that.

It is always better to be yourself though?


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Yep. I'll do that in flirt mode though. But too much and mine gets pissy and wants me out with it. But we don't talk on the phone and never text so that might make a difference.

He hated it when I played coy. Just get to the point, don't beat around the bush.

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You have to text something interesting to intrigue them enough to want to text back.

"Hey" - not worth responding to . I'll answer "hey". That's it until they intrigue me.
"How was your day" - Answer: Fine, and yours?
"Whatcha doing" - Answer watching TV, and you?

B-O-R-I-N-G

"I found the most fascinating restaurant today" - Now that's intriguing.
"I got into some trouble today" - Who wouldn't put their curiosity aside to answer that?
"I've got a confession" - NO ONE would resist answering that text.
"What demands an answer but asks no questions?" - He won't be able to wait to find out the answer. (a telephone, by the way)

If you text someone, be interesting. Stand out from everyone else. Make where they want to respond to you.

This is all true ESPECIALLY for an aquarius. Be different than everyone else - they like that.

It is always better to be yourself though?


🙂

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Nothing fake about it. It's all about approach and having something interesting to talk about. Why text if you have nothing fun to say?

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You have to text something interesting to intrigue them enough to want to text back.

"Hey" - not worth responding to . I'll answer "hey". That's it until they intrigue me.
"How was your day" - Answer: Fine, and yours?
"Whatcha doing" - Answer watching TV, and you?

B-O-R-I-N-G

"I found the most fascinating restaurant today" - Now that's intriguing.
"I got into some trouble today" - Who wouldn't put their curiosity aside to answer that?
"I've got a confession" - NO ONE would resist answering that text.
"What demands an answer but asks no questions?" - He won't be able to wait to find out the answer. (a telephone, by the way)

If you text someone, be interesting. Stand out from everyone else. Make where they want to respond to you.

This is all true ESPECIALLY for an aquarius. Be different than everyone else - they like that.

It is always better to be yourself though?


🙂

Yep. I'll do that in flirt mode though. But too much and mine gets pissy and wants me out with it. But we don't talk on the phone and never text so that might make a difference.

He hated it when I played coy. Just get to the point, don't beat around the bush.

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I wasn't intending that to have someone play coy or secretive.

The trouble one is setting yourself up to tell a fun story.
The confession one sets it up to tell them something sweet or something naughty or that you broke your diet and ate a cookie.
A fascinating movie, restaurant, TV show, observation, etc is always worth hearing about.
And the riddles are just pure fun.

Everyone has something happen in their day that is worth telling. I work at home, I have to really find something fun to tell about. We've actually had this conversation:
Me "almost had an accident on my way to work this morning"
Him "what are you talking about, you were at home"
Me "I tripped over the cat in the hallway"
Him "ha ha, you had me going there for a minute.

Much, much better approach than How was your day?

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You have to text something interesting to intrigue them enough to want to text back.

"Hey" - not worth responding to . I'll answer "hey". That's it until they intrigue me.
"How was your day" - Answer: Fine, and yours?
"Whatcha doing" - Answer watching TV, and you?

B-O-R-I-N-G

"I found the most fascinating restaurant today" - Now that's intriguing.
"I got into some trouble today" - Who wouldn't put their curiosity aside to answer that?
"I've got a confession" - NO ONE would resist answering that text.
"What demands an answer but asks no questions?" - He won't be able to wait to find out the answer. (a telephone, by the way)

If you text someone, be interesting. Stand out from everyone else. Make where they want to respond to you.

This is all true ESPECIALLY for an aquarius. Be different than everyone else - they like that.

It is always better to be yourself though?


🙂

Yep. I'll do that in flirt mode though. But too much and mine gets pissy and wants me out with it. But we don't talk on the phone and never text so that might make a difference.

He hated it when I played coy. Just get to the point, don't beat around the bush.

I wasn't intending that to have someone play coy or secretive.

The trouble one is setting yourself up to tell a fun story.
The confession one sets it up to tell them something sweet or something naughty or that you broke your diet and ate a cookie.
A fascinating movie, restaurant, TV show, observation, etc is always worth hearing about.
And the riddles are just pure fun.

Everyone has something happen in their day that is worth telling. I work at home, I have to really find something fun to tell about. We've actually had this conversation:
Me "almost had an accident on my way to work this morning"
Him "what are you talking about, you were at home"
Me "I tripped over the cat in the hallway"
Him "ha ha, you had me going there for a minute.

Much, much better approach than How was your day?

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Yes, to all this! I have to continue in another message, its getting cut off

TrueCap, this is exactly what is working! you gave perfect examples

someobody asked, if its thou better to be yourself? the point is, that you are beeing yourself (who has it in their personality, they are beeing genuine, its not role-playing, but expressing yourself) so if you have it in yourself, bring it on...... if you think its a ploy, a strategy only, than dont try it, because you wont feel it...

I am the the happiest when these kind of messages are running throu and forth, just everyday things with humor...... the other thing which is working is something like: Just imagine, this and this happened to me and this person (collegue/friend/some stranger) said this and this, and I think its like this and this..... what do you think? (or tell me what you would do, before I chop their head off..... or something like this🙂 )

I think the OP would be herself, its not roleplaying, she has a scorpio rising and is a leo 🙂 it will feel natural and its natural (not for everybody, I admit, but if you have this kind of mindset, then bring it on and more importanty, show it! but normally, no drama)

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You have to text something interesting to intrigue them enough to want to text back.

"Hey" - not worth responding to . I'll answer "hey". That's it until they intrigue me.
"How was your day" - Answer: Fine, and yours?
"Whatcha doing" - Answer watching TV, and you?

B-O-R-I-N-G

"I found the most fascinating restaurant today" - Now that's intriguing.
"I got into some trouble today" - Who wouldn't put their curiosity aside to answer that?
"I've got a confession" - NO ONE would resist answering that text.
"What demands an answer but asks no questions?" - He won't be able to wait to find out the answer. (a telephone, by the way)

If you text someone, be interesting. Stand out from everyone else. Make where they want to respond to you.

This is all true ESPECIALLY for an aquarius. Be different than everyone else - they like that.

It is always better to be yourself though?


🙂

Yep. I'll do that in flirt mode though. But too much and mine gets pissy and wants me out with it. But we don't talk on the phone and never text so that might make a difference.

He hated it when I played coy. Just get to the point, don't beat around the bush.

I wasn't intending that to have someone play coy or secretive.

The trouble one is setting yourself up to tell a fun story.
The confession one sets it up to tell them something sweet or something naughty or that you broke your diet and ate a cookie.
A fascinating movie, restaurant, TV show, observation, etc is always worth hearing about.
And the riddles are just pure fun.

Everyone has something happen in their day that is worth telling. I work at home, I have to really find something fun to tell about. We've actually had this conversation:
Me "almost had an accident on my way to work this morning"
Him "what are you talking about, you were at home"
Me "I tripped over the cat in the hallway"
Him "ha ha, you had me going there for a minute.

Much, much better approach than How was your day?

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Oh...we don't do that.

That actually irritates mine. But I do see how it could be engaging.

Maybe we used to, I don't know.

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TrueCap, this is exactly what is working! you gave perfect examples

someobody asked, if its thou better to be yourself? the point is, that you are beeing yourself (who has it in their personality, they are beeing genuine, its not role-playing, but expressing yourself) so if you have it in yourself, bring it on...... if you think its a ploy, a strategy only, than dont try it, because you wont feel it...

I am the the happiest when these kind of messages are running throu and forth, just everyday things with humor...... the other thing which is working is something like: Just imagine, this and this happened to me and this person (collegue/friend/some stranger) said this and this, and I think its like this and this..... what do you think? (or tell me what you would do, before I chop their head off..... or something like this🙂 )

I think the OP would be herself, its not roleplaying, she has a scorpio rising and is a leo 🙂 it will feel natural and its natural (not for everybody, I admit, but if you have this kind of mindset, then bring it on and more importanty, show it! but normally, no drama)

Yessss....Will have to try out next time. For now I'm ignoring the Aqua.

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That actually irritates mine. But I do see how it could be engaging.

Maybe we used to, I don't know.

Mine works out of town two weeks straight. Home two weeks, works two weeks. Cell service isn't always great on location. All we have is text while he's gone.

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That actually irritates mine. But I do see how it could be engaging.

Maybe we used to, I don't know.

Mine works out of town two weeks straight. Home two weeks, works two weeks. Cell service isn't always great on location. All we have is text while he's gone.

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I can see that then. In my previous job I had business trips frequently and we'd talk on the phone for hours every night. More than we talk in person when I'm home.

I do know that the phase where I feel like I have to be interesting to him is long over. Or maybe it just happens naturally.

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That actually irritates mine. But I do see how it could be engaging.

Maybe we used to, I don't know.

Mine works out of town two weeks straight. Home two weeks, works two weeks. Cell service isn't always great on location. All we have is text while he's gone.

Sounds like the perfect arrangement, cappy ~ too much time together can breed contempt 😛

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You've just got to be able to hold down the fort and take care of business when they're gone. Plumbing busts, it's all on your shoulders for instance.

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Starlover...hahaha I love your point! I'm not sure. I've had a relationship with an Aquarius last over two years, but typically I do find them to be elusive. Might be the draw for me 😉.

Also, I find that the moment I'm over them, that's when they reappear...

Sounds like someone I used to see in CA, exactly, his name isn't Nils is it lol, exactly as soon as I would tell myself I'm done and delete his number he would show up. This went on for years......

If it's not the same man it must be a normal trait for these guys. I don't think they want to settle down with one person especially if they have a broken heart. There career and friends always comes first.

Aquarius is a humanitarian sign.....does well on a global level/in groups/causes

Not always so good with intimacy

Uranus is unpredictable and outrageous


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Nail on head, for sure...haha!

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Starlover...hahaha I love your point! I'm not sure. I've had a relationship with an Aquarius last over two years, but typically I do find them to be elusive. Might be the draw for me 😉.

Also, I find that the moment I'm over them, that's when they reappear...

Sounds like someone I used to see in CA, exactly, his name isn't Nils is it lol, exactly as soon as I would tell myself I'm done and delete his number he would show up. This went on for years......

If it's not the same man it must be a normal trait for these guys. I don't think they want to settle down with one person especially if they have a broken heart. There career and friends always comes first.

Aquarius is a humanitarian sign.....does well on a global level/in groups/causes

Not always so good with intimacy

Uranus is unpredictable and outrageous


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Good to keep you on your tows without dancing 🙂.

They are adorable, though. They are willing to commit if you give them space. Here is how my Aqua is thinking about our future together:


"In this scenario I would see our relationship being one of spending much more time together (every weekend certainly) and the majority of evenings! We would be able to go out more, share experiences such as restaurants, cinema, cycling etc. Of course having you close would be heavenly for me, I still feel there is a lot for me to discover about you!! I know your job is important to you and whatever you do or the decisions you make you would always have my full support! This would give me even more time with you and I would be able to improve my cooking skills and look after you more! € The thing I would look forward too most of all is spending time travelling with you and ticking off all the wonderful places you and I would love to visit!"

BTW, we had a very unusual relationship. Started as FWB, then fallen in love, then broke up after 6 months, when he moved miles away because of his job. We had almost no contact for one year. Then he started driving to my town once a month, to have lunch with me. Strictly as friends, since I was dating a Gem for two years. When Gem had enough of me, Aqua was there to pick up the pieces. Now we are in a LDR, thinking of getting together again, this time living together

Being outrageous could be cute, if done with the right person. For example, I just texted him what I dreamt last night....that I was marrying some young Muslim man, lol! I couldn't have said that to my Gem ex, who would become paranoid, lol.

How long would you go without communication?
In the early stages?