Gemin female crisis with Aries male

Gi guys!

Need some help here. I met this guy. He is an Aries and I am a gemini. I don't know if he is interested in me and cannot tell. He is very sweet and he makes cute comments, but one day he is very close to me and the other is completely cold. He will call me to see how my week goes, when we haven't talked and will be using "my" this and that when describing me, but the next day he could be like nothing happened. We work together, so that does not help the sitiation either..We went out 3 weeks ago. A night out that I initiated. We went out with friends. We sat by ourselves and talked and he was constantly looking at me to the point that he made me feel uncomfortable..He was a gentleman. There are times that he wil call my cell or text and times that he will not even ackowledge my existence or respond to my text messages. He is very charming and irresistible and of course every girl is surrounding him, added that he is going to make sure that he gets the attention that he wants. I will be nice to him and sweet, but not over the top and I also keep some distance. He looks at me and at times he wil touch my hand, my arm or something. He has not asked me on a date and the way it goes I don't know if he ever will. What do I do?Any advise on how

to handle this?It moves so slow that it feels like nothing is happening. He told me that he is not with someone and he is looking for someone to settle down and staff, but he is not showing me much of determination and whether he actually wants to be with me. He gives me hints, but enough to understand. Help Help!

I guess you are right!I have not being myself since I met him.It is like I am in a different body...He makes me feel so uncomfortable!Crazy!I feel like I am in the 6th grade still..

Hi Vassilia-

GF is spot on with her wisdomfilled words to you. Just be you and let go of the outcome. Know within yourself that if it is meant to be, it will happen and without force or pressure but rather in a natural easy way.

One thing men do not care for and that is to feel pressured to be in a relationship or anything for that matter.

PS...I am an Aries female who is currently involved with a Gemini man and he chases me around like a cat after a mouse! 😉

Thank you freebird and geminifox!I don't know what is the best way to handle him but maybe by being myself-I can see some light..Trying not to get depressed!I am in a phase right now that I am either completely aggravated at him or completely melting...And this hot and cold situation is really bothering me and it feels like I basically have to go by his own rules..which a part of me despises that to the point that I just feel like letting go..and the other part of me says-take it easy, maybe this is actually a good one--I am confused..and I hate games altogether...

Geminifox--
That's a cute perspective!I guess I should keep smiling at him...when he is cold and abnoxious...because after all in the end of the day, he is just a vulnerable soal that needs to be understood by a woman more than anything..and he is craving for the one that will complete him..In the meantime he doesn't even see his own nose because his ego is in in the way!Lets see how we can surpass that part first..Love, V.

Problems!problems and then some more...It has been a week now that my Aries man opened up a little more...messages, phonecalls, smiles, constant looking at each other-trying to be discreet since we are working at the same place..All very very cute..In a way trying to make sure that both of us are ok; that we are eating properly and taking care of each other..not so much with actions but with words..So we have constant talking and melting for a week...We go out for lunch with a couple of friends and he basically asks in front of everyone else "What is your plans for the weekend?".I don't lose my "cool" and I just say "Too early for plans..don't have any." He is still very sweet and when we are finished with lunch; everyone seems to go up front and his guyfriend says to him "there is your girl."And my guy says "Let me see my girl for a little!"I am all kind of ..—not knowing how to react to that and just let it be..Then we walk to the office and as I am walking I can hear him making "his little comments..." and then his friend says to me "Hey nice pants!"so basically, they were looking at my buttocks..nice..Saturday-we start sending message sto each other-we decide to go out for drinks-Great!But we meet there..he is late..We start with the drinks..we dance a little and we kiss for the first time!Wonderful..then he starts a conversation of what will happen if we get together and that someone already knows that we went out and what am I going to say if that person asks me..

I say that it is no-one's business and I can't believe tat he actually shared with someone that we would go out!He said that it was pretty innocent, which I believe, but I know that usually women on th eother side are not that innocent-especially when they like him and just have their own "little motives!"Anyway, I told him that whatever we do and say should remain between us because it is also a way to protect ourselves and any potential relationship..He says that he will protect me but he is still scatred of the "work thing". Then he says to me "what if things don't work out with us?Are you going to get crazy on me if I start dating someone else from the office-hypothetically speaking?"I was about to brake his head. I said "goodninght" to him and said that it would be better if we continued the discussion tomorrow..He called me 4 times.I told him that I really got amgry with him.That if his prafctice is to be flirtatious; go out with a bunch of girls at the same time-it is a greta attitude and he should keep doing that since it makes him feel so great, but I can't applaud and I can't be one of these girls. I told him that I am the kind of person that wants to be with one man only and that he would not like either if I told him that I am going to date him but also date 3 different guys at the same time. I told him that I am content, confident and know what I want. I am patient and sweet and non-confronational but not complacent, weak or compromising!I asked him if he has to say anything to me and he said that he is not ready to date, sinec he is moving, the new job and all and he has to put everything in order..I said that he jsut told me the most honest thing up to this point..and we promised not to hold grudges..he then send me messages that his stomach hurts and I told him it is because he is having a withdrawal syndrome from me..he agreed and then I told him that it it ok to feel this way and I feel rejected, which is actually better than being kissed by him 100 times but when he is not ready for me..After that he was sweet the next two days coming by me looking at me and asking how I am and for 3 days now-absolutely nothing...And of course I am crying my eys out..What's going on?Can someone tell me?Help please...

Aw, I'm so sorry darlin (kicks all the Aries men in the head) 😉 You did the right thing and you should be happy that you stood up to him and told him what you're about. The ball is in his court now so be cool and try to be happy (at least around him). Time will tell whether or not he'll come around. Until then, be strong and be open to meeting men who will truly appreciate you and be ready to have the same kind of relationship you want.

Thanks mistery!I really appreciate the support..You are right-around him I should be all happy and gracious..