Gemini woman and Pisces man 4 years relationship

Hey everyone,

I have never written on forums before so please do be patient if I'm not really good at this. I am 22 year old (turning 23 in june) gemini monkey and my boyfriend is a pisces rabbit age 28. We have been in a relationship for 4 years and living under the same roof for roughly around 3 years. In the beginning when we first met, things were super amazing. Full of sex, passion, long conversations and we opened up to each other about everything. Yes in the beginning he did have the common pisces men needy traits and me being a gemini, i was really tough on him and i said a lot of things intentionally to hurt him , emotionally. I do this becuase I believe it was my past where i got bullied constantly in school, abandoned by my parents during my teen years when i started mixing with the 'wrong crowd'. but anyhow, he did everything in his power to stay with me. Keep me happy and he gave me everything and i mean everything! he spent most of his money on me, always went out of his way to please me and what did I do? take take take and occasionally give but I was so selfish and didnt really think about what he really wanted/needed from me.

we moved to another country and i ran away from home. this ruined my already damaged relationship with my parents but oh did my pisces man do everything he could to make me happy. our relationship was an emotional roller coaster. we both never really fell in love before and we didnt know how to handle it. All the love and passion changed to world war 200000 between us where we were constantly hurting each other and falling in love again. And me being me, when things got tough, i ran away to my girlfriends place and abandoned him. Until one time he had enough and he refused to talk to me for a month and he humiliated me in front of all his friends and I just broke, i left him and tried to hook up with another guy (but failed and just ended up crying to him about how much i love my man and how i couldnt do this). I blocked him everywhere and he tried contacting me and i ignored him till one day he told my friend that he will burn all my clothes and i called him. I did miss him, i never loved anyone the way I loved him. So eventually we decided to get back together. Things didnt go well from there.

We both do have alcohol and drug habits.. And we were physically fighting a lot. But not so bad until this time he really beat me up. And from that moment our fights ended up with me being beaten

We both do have alcohol and drug habits.. And we were physically fighting a lot. But not so bad until this time he really beat me up. And from that moment our fights ended up with me being beaten up and crying. He started going psycho and he was doing more drugs and alcohol and lots of partying and I was always hurt and abandoned and alone. I always had resentment towards him but what I realised was that he was treating me the way I treated him the first year we met.

So I guess you guys get the general idea. We never broke up before because he still had so much love for me and told me he doesnt know how to live without me. But this year when I finally pulled his last string he decided to completely break up with me. We cried and talked and he said he was making the biggest mistake of his life and that he still wanted to keep in touch but stubborn angry me told him that I couldnt. And it all went down hill from there. I was suffering so much. I lost weight and i couldnt get him out of my head! I randomly turned up at his home. And i admitted my faults and apologised for everything that I did to him. He told me he doesnt know if he could do it and I offered to leave him alone but he invited me to go on a beach vacation with him, which was amazing but we still fought!! Then later he admitted to me that he tried to cheat on me, he imagined that the girl was me but he still couldnt go through with it. Its been the second time he has tried cheating on me but he told me its because he wants to run away from me but he loves me too much.

Things now are very strange. We are closed to each other and we never had this before. I am getting more curious about him and suddenly im super jealous of any girl he looks at, talks to, or even instagrams! My intuition was telling me that hes out looking for love. I checked his SM and found that hes talking to some super slutty chick. What broke my heart was that he told her that we are more like friends, and that im leaving to england soon so he doesnt know. and they are talking almost everyday at midnight. We started arguing about girls on a daily basis and my insecurities were growing stronger and so was my jealosy.

I tried doing less cause he told me i was trying too hard and that it was annoying. So i was just being a friend for him, being there for him and supporting him. Until he started saying I love you, i miss you, i am thinking about you to me daily via text too. i never gave him a res

It's time to end the relationship. He put his hands on you and beat you up, you both indulge in alcohol, you fight all the time, are emotionally abusive to one another, and he's out being a whore. Its going to be hard to move one, but it sounds like the relationship ended along time ago.

You are now emotionally dependant on one another as you are each other first loves (i think i read that right ). You ar simplify holding onto emotions. This union has become toxic. Some love isnt meant to be it just happens. And as painful as it is, it is our responsibility as intelligent human beings to decide when to walk away.

it doesn't have to be like that lostgem. walk away now while you can. like magenta said it is toxic. it will never be what you and him had originally wanted and maybe had. you can love him all you want but love yourself enough to say "enough". i have been in a similar relationship before with a pisces myself and while i still have love for him, we have parted ways finally... and for the best sadly.

sad to look back on i mean. but today i am in a much better place, and happier. sometimes it's hard to do what needs to be done.

i already know this girl is a june gemini because one she is dating a pisces . i dont understand why people get into relationships who've only tapped the surface of their issues and then want to deflect on somebody who is weaker then them . you give what chu get

End the relationship asap before you have a baby from him. Get an Aquarius for a happy ending.

Posted by LittleStar
I think you know that this relationship is obviously toxic.

This isn't an issue of Pisces/Gemini. My husband and I have similarly negative childhoods and yes, we have reactions out of habit that stem from that, but it's still a positive relationship because we talk constantly and when we argue we keep away from trying to hurt each other and focusing on what's actually going on.

I used to lash out at my former partners because I was miserable and never really trusted them. The Pisces was similar to me. We have both been through a lot of therapy to overcome these things and otherwise, our relationship would probably be exactly like the past relationships where we just got hurt and never really came together. But we both trust each other implicitly and there really is a sense of calm and peace.

It doesn't really matter what his behavior is. You can control only yourself. You need to get out of the situation, figure out a plan to get yourself emotionally and mentally healthy and clean if drugs are a crutch for you. Tell him that he must go through the same steps if he wants to be in your life. If he is willing to take the same steps as you, then at the end of both journeys to getting healthy you can evaluate whether or not you guys really have something there. But it's really difficult for most abusers to actually recover.

this is very good advice. it is nice to hear of such a healthy couple when it comes to such difficult upbringings. change is difficult but necessary. and it takes work.