Pisces male doomed by Gemini lovers. what u think

This topic was created in the Gemini forum by Szostak on Sunday, April 20, 2014 and has 18 replies.

Understanding Gemini Women's Communication Patterns

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@Szostak
12 YearsPisces

Hello mates! It seems i've got a problem with Gemini girls.
Fell in love with one at work, she gave me attention only if I talk to her, else NONE! When she found out I liked her, she wouldn't look at my face, so I forgot her.

Months later, I started chatting a girl on Whatsapp, we talked to much for a few weeks, seemed the love of my life... I always wanted to take a trip, then I gone to her state, wich I always wanted to visit (2 birds, 1 stone). But suddenly our fire gone away. Still I gone and met her 2 months after first talking to her.

We met along with one of her friends. The girl was fun and interested in conversation. But my Gemini (whom I traveled for) was fun, cute, making charm (which I didn't realize at then...).
The night was settling when we said goodbye and farewells.
I called her back to give her something to remind me. I gave her that, said some romantic words... She smiled, and huged me. Stared at me. And I (arghhhhhh) did give her a lip kiss (to initiate the tongue one) but she did turn her face, stared again and said she adored me and I was nice, so I asked for another kiss, and she did the same thing...

For the 3rd time in 2 months she started a conversation. Asking if I already left the city.... And I was out already. (blehhhhh)

Now we talk only a bit. She takes ages (hours or days, or no answer at all).
When I confronted her to find out why she does that. She said she liked me, gave me some excuses. But I don't feel it was the real thing... She was hiding something.
Well. 3 months of friendship and 3-4 times I tried to break up our "friendship" and she said I was nice, and was scaried.( thinking that I had blocked her.)

Why won't she tell the truth? Today I confront her again. That I missed when she answered me faster.... And instead of explaining.. She just replied the previous message. Like nothing happened... Argh.

So.... Am I too needy for attention? Or am I friggin confused about why she is playing me? I need view from Gemini.

Why won't she say the truth?!

Try.

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@Aquariusgirluk
13 Years

You're probably too gullible and trusting for a Gemini woman - metaphorically speaking she'll 'chew you up and spit you out'.

Move on I'm sure you can meet someone who'll treat you better

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@Szostak
12 YearsPisces

Ye. They look those people on movies. Where you are traveling, meet them in a plane or whatever, have a wonderful night and then that's it, that strong feeling goes away, but in this case she didn't make it clear for me. I can't even man up and delete all of her traces in my life like whatsapp, fb, instagram and shit.
She pm'ed me a week ago and I gone insane, I snapped at her. All of that going online and offline 10 times and not answering your messages makes me crazy. Just tell me I'm boring.
I used to like her when she actually answered the messages at the same hour... Our day.

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@Szostak
12 YearsPisces

I guess its more like short and random answers... But most of The times she does answer as a short phrase, but doesn't seem to keep up on the subject or whatever.. She used to though.. We used to talk 4h in a row, everyday in a week.

I don't mind if she is busy or if she doesn't get online and do not answer me. What really grind my gears is that she comes up online and won't answer it!

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@Whimsy
15 Years1,000+ Posts

I'm sorry, but everyone is right. She's not interested and doesn't want to hurt you by telling you so. Gem ladies don't like to see people hurt, and especially don't want to be the one doing the hurting. She's trying to back away little by little and hoping you'll give up, in my opinion. I've done the very same thing many times.

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@Szostak
12 YearsPisces

Ye. Guess I'll just tell her that I know she doesn't like me anymore and I'm backing off my self. That thing about her not telling she is not interested is draining me.
Better to suffer for a while than living with this cancer in my heart.

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@Whimsy
15 Years1,000+ Posts

Ok, but if you must say that to her, I would caution you to not say it in a way that makes it feel like a guilt trip. That will piss her off. At least, it would piss me off. From her point of view, she's actually being kind to you by not coming right out and saying she's not interested (even though it feels just the opposite to you). To keep her as a friend, just back off gracefully.

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@Szostak
12 YearsPisces

So, i was backing up gracefully. Almost a month without talking to her.
She came up and said "hi, how's life going?".
Then we I said only "hi" and she didn't answer. Next morning I said how my life was. And she started chatting, all day,lots of stuff, real fast answers, 20min max, this time I was waiting like 20-40min before answering...
Then something came up as me saying if my studies fail I would become a priest (church) so I would have where to live. And she said:
"No Don't become a priest" and answered the rest about how biomedical engineering name was scary.
Then I asked her. Why shouldn't I become a priest. And she said: "Because you are such a good man, you would be a Great boyfriend and husband, that would be a complete waste becoming a priest".

Then I said: oh, but you don't see me as someone to have a thing.

And then she answered: "A thing? Don't disappoint me paulista (equivalent to a new yorker)"

(She either misinterpreted that, or she felt something about our bleh, fail kissing attempt and romantic night we had.)

Then I said... By "a thing" I meant something nice and not a catch followed by abandon.

And she replied:
"Hmmm
Okk then. (More like "it better be!")

If she doesn't like me then.. Wth?
1. She came to talk to me
2. She got offended when I said we had a thing (like have a one night stand and go away), but not offended when I said that she didn't see me as someone to be HER bf.
3. She still didn't answer it straight.
4. Am I dumb for not understanding her signs, if there's any, or am I seeing things that aren't there?

Thanks :s

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@Szostak
12 YearsPisces

I wasnt friendzoned!
Darn... She finally opened up.
Wants to see me again.
I said something about I would never hurt her.. And she said "live too far" and sent a broken heart.
Woot. Let's see how it'll go. She's still bipolar. Let's see what will happen. Thanks.

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@GeminiSparkle
12 Years

She would probably like you if you lived near her, but for a Gemini it is definitely 'Out of sight, out of mind' especially if you haven't had time to form a proper bond yet. Gemini's like to be free of constraints, it is bad enough in a relationship let alone feeling the need to be there for someone that you are not in a relationship with that lives far away. Don't get your hopes up, she is just being friendly.

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@sunchee
12 YearsGemini

I once was with a picses guy. He was perfect but I felt I didn't match his perfect... She may have liked you a lot more than she let on. But I'm agreeing with the pervious comments.

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@Feistypisces777
12 YearsPisces

Hi fellow pisces babe! I'm sorry you're having trouble with a gemini, but in order to keep a flame going you need to keep it exciting, and be constantly present, or else to her you don't exist! Sorry babe! I think you should move on, bc you're wasting your time. There are other more compatible babes in your area! Love, FeistyPisces

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@GeminiVixxen
12 YearsGemini

Posted by Szostak
Hello mates! It seems i've got a problem with Gemini girls.
Fell in love with one at work, she gave me attention only if I talk to her, else NONE! When she found out I liked her, she wouldn't look at my face, so I forgot her.

Months later, I started chatting a girl on Whatsapp, we talked to much for a few weeks, seemed the love of my life... I always wanted to take a trip, then I gone to her state, wich I always wanted to visit (2 birds, 1 stone). But suddenly our fire gone away. Still I gone and met her 2 months after first talking to her.

We met along with one of her friends. The girl was fun and interested in conversation. But my Gemini (whom I traveled for) was fun, cute, making charm (which I didn't realize at then...).
The night was settling when we said goodbye and farewells.
I called her back to give her something to remind me. I gave her that, said some romantic words... She smiled, and huged me. Stared at me. And I (arghhhhhh) did give her a lip kiss (to initiate the tongue one) but she did turn her face, stared again and said she adored me and I was nice, so I asked for another kiss, and she did the same thing...

For the 3rd time in 2 months she started a conversation. Asking if I already left the city.... And I was out already. (blehhhhh)

Now we talk only a bit. She takes ages (hours or days, or no answer at all).
When I confronted her to find out why she does that. She said she liked me, gave me some excuses. But I don't feel it was the real thing... She was hiding something.
Well. 3 months of friendship and 3-4 times I tried to break up our "friendship" and she said I was nice, and was scaried.( thinking that I had blocked her.)

Why won't she tell the truth? Today I confront her again. That I missed when she answered me faster.... And instead of explaining.. She just replied the previous message. Like nothing happened... Argh.

So.... Am I too needy for attention? Or am I friggin confused about why she is playing me? I need view from Gemini.

Why won't she say the truth?!

Try.

When I do this.. it means I'm not interested.. I don't date Pisces.. your better off with a Earth or water sign. I don't do public affection either, not my cup of tea *Virgo riser*

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@Szostak
12 YearsPisces

Thx feisty And everyone.
Ive already move on. And i guess im done getting attracted to this stereotype of cute girls. Im gonna aim on mature women, I mean not milfs, but some years older, its gonna be hard cuz I'm 19 and look like a kid... But my cap Venus is gonna lead me on this one.
Stability and maturity!

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@WateryGem
12 Years1,000+ Posts

Just enjoy finding yourself and living life. What is there to rush? I wouldn't suggest trying to date a Gem or a Pisces this age, they both crave fluidity and movement. It may be a different type of movement but it is needed. Both signs need to be evolved and matured to really come together and make it magical.

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@WateryGem
12 Years1,000+ Posts

Posted by basari
I actually doubt if water and air signs are a good match tho

It really depends on the charts. I do well with someone with a lot of water. Also, there is a study with the signs that stay married to each sign the longest and believe it or not Pisces and Gemini were 2nd, I believe under Scorpio and Pisces.