Pisces man and Cancer woman breakup

Ok so i'm the Pisces male and she's the Cancer female and we dated for about a month and broke up yesterday. We had grown attracted to each other years ago in passing but never spoke until this past July when I met a mutual friend at a bar she was at and she was stuck without a ride so i offered her one home. We instantly hit it off and basically begun a relationship that was the most passionate and promising I've probably been in. I'm 30 and she's 23 by the way. We had very few issues and being she's into astrology and all that she believes we were meant to find each other.

Now he's the issue. I get very moody and depressed and have been lately because of my job and debt. She has been a strong backbone for me this whole time, always putting me first and being my support. Her issue came out yesterday that she was bottling up that I never seemed to care about her needs or emotions or feelings and she started to feel insignificant. I tried explaining to her that she's much stronger than me and always has a smile on her face that I never saw her as being at a low point and if I did I would have certainly been there, etc. Now we left off as her saying she needs time to think after I expressed my feelings of wanting something with her always and my true feelings elsewhere of her but she is hardly answering me. My one main issue is I said many times when someone says they "need time" it's just an easy way out and to give me the decency and just say she's done and get it over with but if she answers she only says she needs time.

What do i do? Is she gone for good? I understand everybody is different but we were essentially perfect with each other and everybody we knew noticed it, even within the zodiac we both learned how compatible we both are. I'm really hoping she is just putting up a front and will get over it soon.

Posted by spiritofjosh
Ok so i'm the Pisces male and she's the Cancer female

Now he's the issue. ........... my job and debt.

What do i do?

Get rich or die trying!!!

Cancer women need, stable men with stable incomes. Full Stop!!

Also, volunteer in the Red Cross or some situation that has you working with people whom are deprived of resources.

This will help strengthen you mentally and give you a sense of duty and pride in helping people.

This is hurricane season, communities have been hit hard and they need help.

show her that your trying ....ask her about her ...do something nice for her ...make sure that your paying attention to your partner and what she needs and want ...if the issue is about finances try and get a part time job to help out ...if you don't want to lose her ...SHOW her changes that you have made ...cancer is a cardinal sign and we are about action

It's not about finances, I do ok and just pay debt off slower than I would like to so i beat myself up over it. She even says how much she recognizes how responsible i am with money and paying what i have to.

And she knows how i really feel because i told her but i have no choice but to give her time. I'm just terrified that she'll focus more on the very minimal bad parts of our relationship and forget the overwhelmingly good parts.

I should slap you, dude, and if I saw you, I would.

1.) Start doing more masculine shit with your time. Work out, get running, trim your body fat off and get some shoulders and arms worth looking at.

2.) Take up some masculine hobbies like hunting, motorcycling and fishing.

3.) Don't spend what little money you have on booze, cigarettes and other useless shit. Cancer girls hate when guys waste money if they don't have any, so stop all that shit ASAP.

4.) Stop texting her and calling her. Give her a few weeks or months to herself. If she starts dating some other dude, then let it go. Even if she does start dating some other guy, it may be a ruse to see if you are a jealous creep. No matter what she does, just lay low. If your life has any value to you, she will eventually either contact you directly or make a subtle hint that she wants to spend time with you.

Do not play phone games or any of that stupid shit. Just use your phone to set a date, and make dinner together at your house.

If your life has any value to you = If your life has any value to her

PS....

Stop this "woe is me" shit around her.

If you are feeling low or depressed, go see a damn therapist.

Cancer women DESPISE weak men.

They typically want He-Man for a boyfriend, not some crybaby.

Keep the emo and crying shit away from her if you want her in your life.

I haven't updated this because after a 2 day break that i described here she texted me saying she wanted to talk. We talked and she apologized for acting how she did but explained it was her defense after thinking i wanted to leave her. in other words me being short for a day scared her and she acted out overthinking that maybe we shouldn't be together but ultimately decided she didn't want that.

However now she is doing the same thing just not as bad. I thought she was ignoring me yesterday in the middle of serious conversation bc she posted stuff on instagram so because i was annoyed i called her self absorbed and she hated that. She didn't ignore me and i apologized for calling her that and later on it got better but i fell asleep and woke up to a text saying goodnight and she'll see me tomorrow. In the middle of the night she texted me asking if i was still awake then when i talked to her this morning she said she was up all night thinking about how us disagreeing is pushing us apart. Also added that she wonders if we make better friends than lovers. That's all she said bc were both at work and she can't keep her phone but i just don't know why she keeps getting so emotional on me.

Stay strong and good luck man. Everyone needs to vent their feelings in a one month relationship. So communications helps alot instead of bottling it up all the time. Talk to people, clean your debt to where you can save and spend time with a gf too. Everyone has issues so it's up to you how to handle it together. But seems she's pulling back again so maybe there's other options for her. Cause I won't stop talking or move on with someone who had debt as long as you are working on it.

Wait you guys are dating and in a relationship for a month. You both have been loyal and faithful to each other and not seeing anyone else dating? and stuff like this maybe important to other people. And Being financially secured.