Powerful Cap and Virgo attraction - (please help!)

Okay - I've liked this girl for 8 years (off and on) and she has flirted so many times over the years (the wide eyes and raised eyebrows, throwing back her long hair, waving to me w/ her pinkie, wanting me to participate in a costume contest by having a pic taken w/ her tiara from her pageant costume, saying hi to me just about anywhere she see me, having brief conversations when we see each other, (I've been so nervous around her but until recently) my mom told her (Wednesday) that I attract these depressing people that don't have it all up there and she said 'well what about me!? I'm normal!' (I'm still trying to figure that one out) she's invited me to a party (though I couldn't go cause I had previous plans - I kick myself in the butt for turning that opportunity down to get to possibly know her better), her last b-day party (early last September - though I couldn't go cause I didn't have a car @ the time to get there w/) her mom even told me about her - how proud she is of her (I would be too - apparently she's an honor student and going to college in the medical field - her mom and I are good friends too by the way) and I've never seen her really w/ anyone - another instance was I had put my profile up to meet some people on a personals site and she ended up putting hers up too (but shortly after someone on the personals site asked me to go out w/ them and so having the low self esteem I have I figured I may as well give up ever being w/ her and try this new girl out) well that didn't work out and so we split up and she found out about it and now things are back to the way they were - but the thing is that I can't tell if she's flirting or not - and recently I found out that Virgo's have a way of flirting that is kinda non-chalant - and after finding out her birthdate I found out that her sun and moon sign are opposite mine (my sun is Cap and my moon is Virgo and hers is vice versa - so were compatible both on the outside AND the inside) but from time to time like - things will seem to be going well between us and then either we'll be distant or just not see each other for awhile and then it seems to be the same thing all over again - I've liked this girl since the 10th grade people (I mean isn't that a little strange that this SAME girl I liked so long ago I end up working w/ for like 5 years now to this day?!) I mean we're pretty good friends but we're both really shy - but we get along fantastically otherwise - please help...

Hello there, I'm cappysweetie 🙂 We are both newbies to this board so welcome 🙂

Well, I have a question to ask you ... have you spoke with her at all about the problems within your relationship ? I can't give any opinions until you answer this question ....

Also, posy this on the virgo website ... there a plenty virgo women there that can help you too 😉

I mean we're pretty good friends but we're both really shy - but we get along fantastically otherwise - please help...

Help comes from me in a small form. Admit your feeling Mr. Capvirgo for all you know you could die, or she could die tommorow. Think how you would feel if you never told her.

Yeah I have found that I'm able to talk to her more easily without getting so nervous around her - the last time I saw her she was with a guy (friend or b/f I have no idea) and as she started coming toward me she started dancing - it's strange sometimes though - like if I don't try to pay her no mind she'll start engaging in a conversation but other times she'll just be having one of those days I guess where she just doesn't wanna talk @ all - I'm hoping that she'll invite me to her b-day party again (as this time I'll actually be able to go as I have a car now) in early September (to get to know her better - cause I just know that if I did then I prolly wouldn't be so nervous around her) there was another time about a year (maybe two) ago - that I was in the parking lot w/ my arm around this friend of mine (girl obviously) from work and we were in this group (I wasn't going out w/ this girl we were just really good friends) just laughing about something and she comes to work and I guess she saw me doing this and she must've hit the brakes SO hard her tires squealed (almost as if to say "HEY!") and just stood there in her car for like a minute - just watching - and then pulled in opposite of my car - kind of looked a little upset going in - but I guess afterwards she just realized that the girl was married w/ kids and we were just friends - there's another thing that I've noticed about her - she'll either park in front of me, next to me, or opposite of my space (almost like mimicing me in a way) but like I said she's very non-chalant about expressing her affection - though her and I never really talked about our relationships - (I've never met any of her boyfriends and she's never met any of my girlfriends - we're both shy and secretive type people - but we're SO much alike! I've been making an effort recently to stay longer to get to know her better - ask her questions and stuff - the last time I saw her we got along great - just by the end of the night I think she was a little out of it though - she knows I'm a workaholic - (she works alot too but shes learning a trade as well) It's just that sometimes I feel everything seems right and then I guess the mixed signals kind of throw me off (cause I know that Virgos are analytical thinkers themselves so for all I know she could be taking notes herself about me as well) I'm trying to think of her as more of a friend though - but when she staring at me I can't help but feel that emotional attachment from her

I meant to say that I was trying not to think of her as more of a friend (believe me - I do want her - I don't think I've ever wanted someone so much in my life) Though I guess it is the fear of rejection - mixed with the possibility that if we did go out that things may not end up as I had anticipated (I'm sure I would find time for her somehow - but I guess whatever happens would happen for a reason) Recently I've found myself more confident around her - I guess I should believe in myself a little bit more - I'll definately work on getting to know her better - cause once we start talking it's easy - it's just that whole starting the conversation thing I guess - though now that I think about it - there are quite a few things I would like to ask her - the more I get to know her the more comfortable I feel around her - she has a tendancy to tell me about things that she likes to buy (one time it was this box of cereal she really liked and highly recommended I get it too - recently it was this laundry detergent she likes cause it makes her clothes smell so good) I guess now that I think about it though (after all these years) I would like to know once and for all if all these gestures really ever meant something or not - I guess I'm kinda frustrated with the mixed signals over the years I'm just gonna find out once and for all if she really likes me or not - cause a guy can only take so much - yknow? I appreciate ya helping me come to my senses - if it doesn't work out then I guess she's not for me after all - we'll see - I'll let you know soon - take care! Thanks again! 🙂

Well the aftermath of this is that on either her b-day (or the day before) it turned out that her brother (whom I'm pretty good aquaintences with) kinda lured me into a convo toward an area where she was kinda hiding in the background for quite a few minutes and after a few minutes she kinda popped up and said that she didn't wanna interrupt us but after not seeing her for a month (as she was on vacation) when I saw her I gotta say that she looked drop dead gorgeous - which (despite how well I've been able to control my nervousness inside) made me feel all the more nervous around her as well (I mean she was REALLY dolled up - makeup on her face couldn't have been applied any better - it really brought out her eyes - lipstick - the whole nine yards) so we all got to talkin - I complmented her on her tan and asked her about this test she recently took - she said she did very well and we got to talkin about school and she's telling me her SAT score and how we both are bad at math (and all the while my heart is just racing) I guess after awhile this conversation got the attention of one of my co-worker friends and even though I had to cut the convo short cause of work and all (still on the clock) I walk by my co-worker who's been analyzing this whole situation and realizes that I have this thing for this girl - and askin me if I'm gonna go get her and so I tell him that even though I do like her ALOT - I just feel that it might not work out (even though if it might or not but I think my own self-esteem gets the best of me - nothing like having a girl you like ALOT and having them improve their looks even more - I dunno why she was dolled up - I know sometimes she wears makeup but at the same time I STILL dunno if she has anyone - but I feel that if I asked her such an awkward question I would give myself away right there - but at the same time - now my co-worker knows about my secret infactuation - so I'm thinkin if SHE might notice it too since Virgos are ALSO analytical thinkers - but anyways - I was excited to see her and talk to her again that I forgot to wish her a happy birthday! 😢 (But she knows how busy I am and all - and I know shes busy too - this is what I mean by us being so much alike - LOL - but at the same time I just - until I know that she's either not interested or taken - cause it seems shes STILL leading me on - I still wanna get to at least know her better - she even parked next to me that day too - I just wish I knew...

STop the games, capvirgo. Just start hinting to her what u really feel. And since she is so much like u, she may be waiting for u to take some initiative. Guess she has already given u plenty of hints that she likes u(Actually u both know that,seems more of a problem as to who wil acknowledge it first)Hope u can push this story faster ahead.

Go CapVirgo. Show and tell the V-gal you like her. You know you want to. In life you have to take some risks otherwise you'll never get anywhere. Come on now. Get the engine started up now and goooooooo......

BTW, you have nothing to worry about. There lots of Virgo women who are hopelessly attracted to Capricorn men.

Very true and visa versa...yet the worst part with Virgo/Cap combinations one is always waiting for the other to make the first move!!! 😛 damn we are hopeless

BTW, visa versa meaning cap women attracted to virgo men 😛

I thank you all for the replies! Virgoangoat - I think you couldn't have said it better cause that does sound like something she would probably think (she's so quiet and I feel terrible cause she HAS given me alot of signs (asking me to parties or offering to buy me a donut or telling me about this cereal she likes or this laundry detergent she uses - wanting me to participate in this halloween contest in which I otherwise wouldn't have but ended up posing for a pic w/ a tiara on my head while she kinda curiously stood in the background - always saying hi to me - everytime she sees me - these lil moments we've had I cherish them all - but I only get to see her like maybe once a week now cause she's goin to school - it's just too amazing how we're SO much alike and our compatibility is phenomenal - (even our astral tables match up and complete one another) but you're definately right pdragon - she's just like me - her moon sign is my sun sign and my moon sign is her sun sign and our rising signs are even compatible - but I did get some helpful advice from a Virgo on here after I ended up helping her realize her dilemma with a CapVirgo guy and why he's been so distant from her based on the scenario given (which is funny because the guy seems to be in the same disposition I was in a previous relationship so I could totally relate to how he feels) but she also said that the smallest things can mean so much to a Virgo - God I feel terrible now - but I will make up for it - my leadership skills have helped me also gain confidence as well - I feel that even though I'm nervous around her - I used to be much worse - (like my neck would even start to tense up) but we'll see what happens - I'll keep everyone posted! Thanks again for the feedback! 🙂

But see I would love to do that whole expressing the little things that I cherish thing - but I feel like it might make her feel uneasy - I'd rather just mention them after knowing that she's interested - cause the last time I got her something - she ended up not being able to accept it cause I guess (from what this other Virgo told me) she might've started to question my motives - cause she was all for it and then (I guess cause she felt it was kinda expensive - though I told her that I wanted to get her something for X-mas - and she mentioned that she didn't have a radio in her car like the past April before - and remembering that I got her one - but now that I think about it I guess it was a lil too generous for someone that she felt she didn't know that well - as she felt she couldn't accept it - but that was like 2 years ago - we hugged and she wrote me a note before leaving saying that what I did was really sweet but she just couldn't accept it cause she didn't feel right about taking it or something like that - we were distant for awhile after that - but she still came back around - so now I'm worried even getting her a b-day card might like make her uneasy - (even a belated one) I guess I'd rather just tell her and talk to her - kinda mix it into a conversation - as for the small things - I gotta say they've gotta be some of my fondest memories - from the first time I saw her in the 10th grade - up until this recent conversation - there's alot of years and alot of moments we've had - but again - I dunno if she'd get the wrong idea about that either - I guess it's all in the timing and depth of our friendship - I mean - I don't wanna lose her as a potential possiblity of having a relationship w/ her - but at the same time - I don't wanna lose her esp. as a friend either thinkin something strange of me - I dunno...I guess I'll just wish her a happy birthday and conversate with her and see where it goes 😛)