Relationship Advice needed

I am a taurus female met a virgo male online. We arranged to go out for a drink and it kind of went from there. I was shocked how quick I fell for him. I went online to have a few dates not to have a boyfriend. So the guy also has a child. I have never been with a guy with a child infact it normally turns me off. But i found how devoted he was to the child so attractive. We were instantly comfortable, happy the sex was great too. It just felt so easy nothing Id ever experienced. He kept trying to introduce me to his family, he introduced me to his child. Who i adored. Then he asked me to be his girlfriend and I am sure from that point he turned me up side down. He would make arrangements then dissappear I would call him text him he would ignore me until nearly 24 hours later. He would sometimes ignore my texts throughout the week. Then he would reappear and be do you want to come to my family party, mums for dinner, we would have an amazing time and then hed ignore me the next day again. I put up with it i meantioned it too him all the time got annoyed about him standing me up. He always made out it wasnt happening. Course I didnt dissapear was just busy. I started to feel insecure, unhappy and confused as the weeks went on. In the end I told him if he does it again I cant be with him I dont want to not know whether im coming or going. Anyway he did it again. I chucked his stuff outside his house and told him to leave me alone. He didnt leave me alone! He text and called and text and called begging me to listen to him, he loved me, he was sorry, he has so much on his mind, I didnt want to ruin our relationship, my family are gutted for me. Please let me speak to you. See you. I was so annoyed he could say all this after he made out it was in my head. I told him to leave me alone. 2 days went by and i thought im going to call him I dont want to end like this. I called him. His attitude was indifferent again. I wanted to scream. Any way we arranged to meet up. He wasnt all over me he was a bit humble and kept trying to show me affection. So it was going ok. Till the next day he didnt call when he said he was gonna and when I called him the following day he never called me back, I text him and he didnt reply. I was so annoyed and felt like an idiot. I changed my number after texting he was a prick and take care. I miss him! Can i please have your thoughts. If he gave a shit he would get in touch another way so im thinking he doesnt care!

Standing you up is not a good sign, be careful about forming quick relationships with a man, the quicker the relationship develop their is a significant chance that it'll end just as quickly.

Leave his Bipolar indifferent ass alone, he fed you some BS words and you fell for it, falling for it makes you simple minded and a Virgo male want an intelligent female in his life, not a weak minded woman that fall instantly and give her heart away, he CAN'T TRUST YOU if you do that, if you fall for him quick you'll fall for any man quick, that's how some men feel about women who move too fast, yes he'll encourage you to fall in love but he won't respect you in the end for being so easy to get not just sexually but your mind and your heart, those are the most precious parts of your being and you just give it away, uh that's not attractive behavior and men lose attraction and they leave or their in and out with you.

When you give yourself to a man without your own standards and requirements and you don't take the time to tell a man what it'll cost mentally, physically, emotionally to be with you for example you could have said to him I expect you to show up in this relationship on a daily basis and if not then I can't be your girlfriend, if you don't SET THAT STANDARD immediately you are agreeing to do things his way and his way is to be available every other day, had you stated what's required of him to be with you romantically, sexually etc he would have most likely rose up to meet your standards or moved on to an easier target.

You cannot just jump in and expect everything to go great. Did you ask him what plans he had for you? Did you ask him what his ultimate goal is in having you as a girlfriend? If you don't ask then you get what he wants to give, in some cases nothing or just a little bit of himself.

You did the right thing, you left, the one thing you did wrong was to go back to give him the power to reject you again, stop doing that, let him go, delete everything and move on to someone who respects you and your time.

Thanks. Just confirms what I was thinking all along I guess. I do feel a little sad perhaps because I gave alot im not sure. I really dont do well with men at all. I do leave them all though. It would appear that men would quite happily have you dangling on string than admiting they dont want you. In response to the first comment I have never given myself so easily to someone before I thought the fact I was doing it meant something. Perhaps I just wanted to be with someone so much I didnt realise it. I really dont want anything more to do with men. It never works out for me. I always find someone who makes me feel insecure, unconfident, miserable and uncared for. I obviously have a difficult time listening to my feelings and getting out way before I get involved. Before I wrote this message I wanted him to come to my house, say how much he cared and would change. Maybe I am a hopeless romantic, deluded or someone who is so used to mistreatment I accept it. I have no idea. But I am always here. Perhaps im not hard to get enough. I want to just be me for a while now men only seem to take from my life they dont add to it. Ive never really met anyone who has said he loves me when he doesnt mean it. Its just crazy. He told me the night he asked me to be his girlfriend. There wasnt anything there I saw to think this guy doesnt really want me. It was only after that point. He was so all over the place. Maybe when it was good it was so good that I had hoped he'd stop the dissappearing thing. Anyway I am so annoyed again now. He does not deserve me! Hes a loser and I dont want him! Do you know I went out last night and a nice looking random guy seemed more concerned for me than that wanker has ever done! I was a little upset and worried about my sister her drink had been spiked and she was with the bouncers in the toilet they wouldnt let me in. He told me it was ok, they are helping her. I went for a wander later i saw him again, again he was being considerate and asking am i ok now. I later went to leave the club and speak to the manager and the guy was there again assisting me with talking to the manager. Thats a complete stranger. That bastard was my so called boyfriend and not once did he ever ask me how i was feeling. It was all about his problems, things on his mind. Sometimes it was murder getting a conversation out of him. He was call and text asking me to come to his family house or something and then ignore me most of the time.

Ive been an idiot! And even though I miss him a bit. This is the first weekend I have felt happy and what does that tell me. I need to be shot for thinking of wanting him to come after me! He is a loser! And maybe its taught me alot. How I feel now is good start not wanting a man!! Perhaps I wont be so flaming easy to get from now on. I am a great girl and hes a dickhead. He can go to hell!!

Taurus fem stop being hard on yourself, I wasn't that good with men either, I'm Air and I live in my own world but I learned and I am with someone wonderful, you just have to put as much effort into learning including learning from your mistakes.

There has to be more thought into what YOU WANT versus what you think you'll get if you accept the kind of treatment that makes you look bad, think about yourself FIRST and you can't fail, meaning if you think about how a mans behavior effect you mentally and emotionally instead of spending your time wondering why he's acting a certain way and trying to fix it you'll feel less stressed.

Think about if what you're receiving is what you want and if it's not then don't waste your time and don't allow a man to waste your time, you'll save yourself from remaining in a dead end relationship with a man that's trying to use the girlfriend title to get you for free, free as in he doesn't have to put in any effort to have and keep you and men KNOW they have to do something, invest to get reciprocation but he'll take you for free meaning he'll take you with no standards and boundaries because it's easy.

You said your not good with men, the basics you can learn just by reading, a good ebook/book is "Think Like A Man, Act Like A Lady by Steve Harvey, this is MINIMAL basic stuff that every woman should know and learn at some point in her life and another book that is basic common sense is Why Men Love Bitches by Sherry Argov, it's basic but it's a very insightful book, it's not really about being a mean bitch so don't let the title fool you.

I do have the ebook by Steve Harvey if you want it, email me via private message with your email and I'll be happy to send it to you but you'll have to buy Sherry's book which isn't that expensive, you probably can get it used on Amazon.com.

Hi Tiki33 I think I private messaged you. Did u get it. 🙂 x

Mars and Venus on a Date is a good book, too.

Taurus fem, you're on the right track and you will overcome!! 🙂

Posted by taurus fem
Hi Tiki33 I think I private messaged you. Did u get it. 🙂 x

I didn't get your email, DXP is messing up again b/c I've sent emails as well that didn't go through, please send it again and I'll be sure to get you that ebook today.

Thank you everyone. Never heard from venus and mars on a date. Sounds gud. I need how to not bother with a man book! Haha I'm feeling so much better isn't amazing that I feel much happier within a week. He must have been really dragging me down cos I even notice now that I have a spring in my step. This will make you laugh some guy I spoke to online for a bit sent me a photo of him posing he looked gud. I didn't reply he said did u get my photo I said yeah. Haha I can't be bothered!! And another one has emailed me and I haven't replied to him. Its progress! Usually I would be so eager I'd jump! And praise and whatever else I normally do. Tiki33 I sent it again did u get it. Any additional advice uv learnt and want to give please feel free. This site hhelps me!

Posted by taurus fem
Thank you everyone. Never heard from venus and mars on a date. Sounds gud. I need how to not bother with a man book! Haha I'm feeling so much better isn't amazing that I feel much happier within a week. He must have been really dragging me down cos I even notice now that I have a spring in my step. This will make you laugh some guy I spoke to online for a bit sent me a photo of him posing he looked gud. I didn't reply he said did u get my photo I said yeah. Haha I can't be bothered!! And another one has emailed me and I haven't replied to him. Its progress! Usually I would be so eager I'd jump! And praise and whatever else I normally do. Tiki33 I sent it again did u get it. Any additional advice uv learnt and want to give please feel free. This site hhelps me!

Lol...i feel you girl. I cant be bothered either.

Lol how long have u not been bothered for?