Venus in Scorpio Fear

As a Venus in Scorpio girl, I fell in love with this girl, who has Venus in Leo. I was totally obsessed with her. We were nice to each other, and one day she confessed to me. I wasn't expecting it at all. I froze, kept suprised and silent and she ran away. When I came home that day, from school, I was scared but happy at the same time. Is it normal for a Venus in Scorpio to be afraid of beginning a love relationsip with someone (specially when it's the first)? Because, when she confessed, the first thing that came to my mind was the "if I liked her enough". I started doubting my own feelings for her at that moment. I guess it was because of the fact that untill that moment, I thought that kind of situation wouldn't happend, so it was just me dealing with just my own feelings towards someone secretly (I never plan taking the risk to confess my feelings; it has always been like that 😆)

After her confession, we had a class. During that class I saw her coming to me. I remember I was scared and nervous. She came and told me she was going through an stomach operation next week, or something. I stared at her belly for a long time (trying to avoid eye contact, probably, I'm not sure) and raised my hand just a bit (I wanted to pet her belly), but then I immediatly stopped myself. I was afraid she would think it was stupid or if some of our classmates would see it (it would be embarassing).

After the class my dad and I drove her home. I remember, in the middle of the ride, changing the song of the CD that was playing in the car. I changed it to a song related to love and stuff... It was called L.O.V.E. by Jessie J, by the way. In a subtle, safe and indirect way I was trying to express myself a bit (she probably didn't realize it, and that's ok!)

The time passed, the girl missed school due to the operation, and I didn't give her a direct answer, I kind of wanted her to confirm what she had said. She probably interpreted my silence as a "no", and started to get close to another girl little by little. I started feeling jealous towards the two of them. They were physically close. The all class even started shipping them. Everyone was expecting them to end up together. Nobody knew or suspected about my feeling, so I didn't have that kind of peer support, so I kind of envied that.

Is it normal to a Venus in Scorpio to act and feel like this: getting scared of being too close to the person you like and still needing more confirmation?

Interesting...

Sag's with Venus in Scorpio, are a different breed. But it's nice to see how you guys feel for once.

Posted by arose32
Interesting...

Sag's with Venus in Scorpio, are a different breed. But it's nice to see how you guys feel for once.

What is that suppose to mean?

help

Posted by yupvirgoo
I'm Leo venus... and I really think we dislike it when people run from us lol

I didn't run away. She did, after she confessed, to the closest bathroom, probably because out of embarrassement. I also couldn't avoid but freeze, I wasn't prepared for that, I got scared and insecure.

I just wished she would have stayed by my side and confirm, instead of getting close to someone else. At the time it made me feel a little bit replaced.

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Posted by yupvirgoo
I'm Leo venus... and I really think we dislike it when people run from us lol

I didn't run away. She did, after she confessed, to the closest bathroom, probably because out of embarrassement. I also couldn't avoid but freeze, I wasn't prepared for that, I got scared and insecure.

I just wished she would have stayed by my side and confirm, instead of getting close to someone else. At the time it made me feel a little bit replaced.

lol maybe she took the lack of reaction as a rejection?

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Yeah.

Posted by starwars
It's normal I guess..

I don't need reassurance, I like to observe and I'm pretty good at reading people and why they like me once I realize they do. I could tell when someone like me for superficial reasons or when they have an image of how I'm supposed to be, or when they won't handle me, or have false perception of who I am.

when I don't like the person and it's one sided I can easily reject them, make them dislike me and move on, but when I like the person I become doubtful, I need to make sure that I like them enough, scared I'd unintentionally lead them on or hurt them.

with VIS I can confuse love with lust, that's why I take my time when it comes to acting on both feelings, I don't wanna wake up one day and be like, uh-oh, I don't have feelings for you anymore.

Patience is a must but I also think as a Virgo sun I need to be caught off guard and be forced to take action, because if I leave it to my Virgo sun I can convince myself that I'm not that into the person. However, a part of me believes that if I was able to convince myself that I don't like them, then I really don't like them.

the headaches I give myself....

I was obssessed with her (I have mars in scorpio in the 12th house, and venus in scorpio in the 11th house) and when she confessed to me, I was happy but in the begining I felt scared and doubtful, also because I've never had been in a relationship before. I also overthought a lot (I have mercury in virgo) and besides wanting her to confirm it again, I wanted her to give the first step once more, because I thought that, the second time I would be more prepared, I guess...