Virgo into someone or not

LDR with Virgo man. He pursued very strong for about 2 mo. texting a lot. Saw each other just about every weekend very close but no feelings mentioned except for myself telling him that I liked him as more than just a casual encounter. Texting started to become less frequent & he seemed to become somewhat distant, now since last Thursday(5 days ago) non existent. He has only emailed once a day for past 2 days.

Should I consider this as his way of saying he's no longer interested? Could he be pulling away because I expressed feelings? Have no clue of how virgo's work and need to know if I should just move on or see what happens if I back off.

Just really wanting to know if these are typical virgo male traits

He's analyzing if his feelings are the same as yours. Keep your options open and don't be so avaliable. If he texf you less frequently act like your busy and don't reply to his messages next time wait a week to reply. Show him you have a life and not waiting for him.

Posted by Octoberbaby91
He's analyzing if his feelings are the same as yours. Keep your options open and don't be so avaliable. If he texf you less frequently act like your busy and don't reply to his messages next time wait a week to reply. Show him you have a life and not waiting for him.

As I mentioned we are currently not texting at all. I have been "demoted" if you will to just one email a day. I feel like I'm being punished because I spoke up & expressed how I felt. We had plans for this coming weekend & now I am unsure of what to do.

So in my searching these people don't like for you to express your feelings? Your supposed to act like you care subtly? It's like you have to always watch what you say in case you say something they don't like. If you wait too long to reply isn't that acting like your playing games? I have never delayed my responses whether texting or emailing longer than a day. He will pick up on what I'm doing in a heartbeat & I don't play games. I'm happy to not initiate any reaching out though.

Posted by jd

Posted by Octoberbaby91
He's analyzing if his feelings are the same as yours. Keep your options open and don't be so avaliable. If he texf you less frequently act like your busy and don't reply to his messages next time wait a week to reply. Show him you have a life and not waiting for him.

As I mentioned we are currently not texting at all. I have been "demoted" if you will to just one email a day. I feel like I'm being punished because I spoke up & expressed how I felt. We had plans for this coming weekend & now I am unsure of what to do.

So in my searching these people don't like for you to express your feelings? Your supposed to act like you care subtly? It's like you have to always watch what you say in case you say something they don't like. If you wait too long to reply isn't that acting like your playing games? I have never delayed my responses whether texting or emailing longer than a day. He will pick up on what I'm doing in a heartbeat & I don't play games. I'm happy to not initiate any reaching out though.

Why don't you don't mention he is currently separated from his wife and three kids, and you are currently separated from your ex. Divorce first then ask questions. You pushed him too hard, and under these circumstances, you just can't do that. His head is in his kids, his divorce and how badly his ex is going to screw him over financially. I guarantee it. You are "demoted" and an after thought until he gets his life in order. How's your divorce process going?

Posted by jd
New here and need some advice. I have been dating a Virgo man for about 3 months and we live 1 1/2 hours apart. Both of us are in our mid 40's & are currently going through separations/divorces.

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Why are you so desperate to cling to someone who is not available at your age?

Posted by LetltB
Why are you so desperate to cling to someone who is not available at your age?

Look, there is absolutely nothing wrong with asking someone where they stand in a relationship. I am NOT a virgo, I don't give silent treatments nor go hot and cold. I communicate and speak, not run and hide. My questions are not to give everyone the complete full details. I am only interested in knowing Virgo traits & how they roll. Not interested in someone talking about my divorce or his etc. Just generalizations. If they like someone they do x, if they are hurt or offended they do x, if you show them your feelings they do x, etc.

For your information I have NOT pressured him and have not initiated contact with him as suggested. I have been extremely cool even in my emails. He has initiated every email and honestly I am liking that better than texting as he is typing books and being very personable.

I am not desperate, I am interested in learning about this man and he is teaching me to be more patient & relaxed. You seem to keep forgetting that I have been out of dating for 25 years and I have never had to work for a relationship as my soon to be ex didn't have all these do's and dont's to hurdle through. I'm sure you know that Virgo's are quite a handful whether they have divorce baggage or not. Just hard to read in general as I'm finding out through lots of reading on line.

He is available, just at a slower pace which is good for the both of us. If he wasn't he would say this is just too much stress for me right now in addition to my other stuff.

Posted by jd

Look, there is absolutely nothing wrong with asking someone where they stand in a relationship. I am NOT a virgo, I don't give silent treatments nor go hot and cold. I communicate and speak, not run and hide. My questions are not to give everyone the complete full details. I am only interested in knowing Virgo traits & how they roll. Not interested in someone talking about my divorce or his etc. Just generalizations. If they like someone they do x, if they are hurt or offended they do x, if you show them your feelings they do x, etc.

Well, if you choose to be deceptive from lying by omission, you are only looking for validation without the facts and background. There's a reason for EVERYTHING. In this case, and for relevant reasons, people need to know what this Virgo is going through. A DIVORCE WHICH INVOLVES THREE CHILDREN. Not to mention your own divorce. Look up the traits of a Virgo in normal circumstances, or go read the Virgo board...the information is THERE. He's giving you the silent treatment because you backed his ass into a corner becuae you are not satisfied with the attention you are not getting when he is not with you. When he is not with you HE IS CONCENTRATING ON HIS PERSONAL LIFE...A DIVORCE.

Posted by jd
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For your information I have NOT pressured him and have not initiated contact with him as suggested. I have been extremely cool even in my emails. He has initiated every email and honestly I am liking that better than texting as he is typing books and being very personable.

Really? Another lie.

Posted by jd
Both of us are in our mid 40's & are currently going through separations/divorces. We see each other almost every weekend for 3-4 nights on average.

I called him & finally said something & expressed that I do not wish to be fwb and would like to know what he see's us as.

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He WAS seeing you 3-4 nights out of a week. That wasn't good enough for you. So you push him into a corner and accuse him of using you as a FWB and with your demands. That my dear is PRESSURE. That is what caused him to back off whether you want to believe it or not.

Posted by jd

I am not desperate, I am interested in learning about this man and he is teaching me to be more patient & relaxed. You seem to keep forgetting that I have been out of dating for 25 years and I have never had to work for a relationship as my soon to be ex didn't have all these do's and dont's to hurdle through. I'm sure you know that Virgo's are quite a handful whether they have divorce baggage or not. Just hard to read in general as I'm finding out through lots of reading on line.

He is available, just at a slower pace which is good for the both of us. If he wasn't he would say this is just too much stress for me right now in addition to my other stuff.

You got yourself into a fantasy with this guy from a 25 year marriage. Any professional threrapist will tell you to get your shit together AND END ONE RELATIONSHIP before you jump in with both feet to another. Look it up. Not only did you jump in with both feet, you are placing demands and pressure on this guy. You say you are good with going at a slower pace, yet you accuse him of FWB, make a thread a week since the end of September in these forums and suggest to us you are not deseperate?

You are a 40 something year old acting like a 20 something year old. You need to back up and drop the fantasy. Reality is about to bite you in the ass really hard if you don't.