Define Flirting

We can play semantics all day. But I'm just curious to know what you guys consider to be "flirting?"

Some can't even admit that they're flirts, & instead call it being "Friendly" or "conversational." But I think there's a fine line & difference b/w the two.

And oh gosh, some men absolutely hate it when they're referred to as a "Ladie's man."

Can any of you honestly say that it's EASY/HARD to trust a man/woman who is a flirt? And this question is for both the insecure AND secure people. Even secure people are entitled to NOT like something or consider certain things to be crossing the line.

Personally, I could never date a ladies's man or a guy who is a bonafide "flirt." I don't mind a man communicating with the opposite sex at all; in fact, I encourage it. BUT, I think "flirting" is when you unnecessarily (keyword) go out of your way to say/do something to another person (stranger or not)...especially if you would be upset persay the tables were turned

While at work yesterday, my co-worker's boyfriend went out of his way to call her best friend over to his car, tell her how nice she fit into her shirt & start drooling/blushing. I considered this to be "flirting."

I think it's dead wrong to drool over someone in front of or behind your partner's back. And I think it's even more dead wrong to lie & pretend like what you're doing/saying isn't flirting.

I guess I'd have more respect for bonafide "Flirters" if they were honest about the fact that they flirt. WHY they may flirt is another story, but if 2 people can't even agree on the same definition, there's a chance that someone will always be offended, and/or feel disrespected or insulted.

For those who call themselves "natural flirts," why will it absolutely KILL you to STOP flirting? Aren't there other ways to have the same conversation? After all, if you're not doing anything wrong, why can't you have a normal conversation or have a social life w/o flirting being involved? That's a question most flirters can never answer. Smh

Marriage. :/

Bwahahahahaaa who says they never meet?

Posted by venusianbull
Bwahahahahaaa who says they never meet?

😉 LMAO!

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Posted by 69virgo
You are really upset about this..🙂 and this is coming from a aqua,the flirts of the zodiac..I mean social people of the zodiac..my bad..😉

I thought the Gems were the flirts of the zodiac? 😉

From Sasstrology.com

Cardinal signs give life. They are the zodiac??s creators. Just as the seasons bring freshness and a new state of becoming, the cardinals start the engines. The fixed signs keep that engine running. They are the powerhouses of the zodiac. But what of the mutables? To take the car analogy further, it is the mutable signs (Gemini, Sagittarius, Virgo and Pisces) that mix the oil and petrol and "fan the flames."
The mutable signs usher in the seasons. The sign of Sagittarius bellows across the universe, —Hey Capricorn, this autumn is getting blustery. Can you close the doors— The sign of Pisces fawns, hands the keys of winter to Aries and says —Can you open these doors— Mutables then are regulators; they literally "mix things up." They are adjusters and energy conduits — the love energy tends to drift through and from these signs. Often they initiate flirtation just as one season "flirts" with the next. So how might each sign do this? Let's take a look:

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Pisces might fawn, open her big eyes, look, look away, look up and then down. The signals will be extremely subtle, almost subconscious, but signals they will be. Aries might jump in and initiate contact thinking he started the whole thing. Think again, Aries!

Gemini might be more obvious. Perhaps he glances quickly as if to try and connect a scene happening somewhere else to the two of you. Maybe he??ll cough, as if to say something. Cancer recognizes the desire for rapport and begins the emotional connection.

Virgo might shift around a little, sending a signal of "look at me" — look at this lovely craftsmanship, look at how well I??ve worked on myself. It serves me well — could serve you, too. Libra goes, Oooooh! Love a bit of quality!

Sagittarius might flick the hair, beam big smiles and pin the shoulders back. Maybe they??ll laugh, purposely catching the eye of the other. Capricorn just wants to bottle all this enthusiasm up. "It??ll be a cold winter," he thinks.

Mutable signs have this innate flirtatious quality which does make them suggestible. They also seem to rely on context — it's more about "the moment" for them. They feel the ebb and flow. The mutable signs are indeed the glue of the zodiac, their nature somewhat dualistic, malleable and youthful.

So ??_ Gemini, Sagittarius, Virgo and Pisces — never again see yourselves as flaky and ambiguous. Without you, the wheel of life would never turn.

Posted by SunGem20
Everyone flirts, its human nature to want to know that you are wanted in that way...It is who you choose to flirt with, why, where and to what degree....those decisions seperate the assholes from the flirters...The guy u used for an example is an asshole, not a flirter. He is disrespectful and doesnt give a shit for anyone but himself....Know the difference between a flirter and a complete asshole.

When I saw him flirting with his girlfriend's best friend, 1/2 of me thought that maybe it wasn't that big of a deal. Telling someone that they look nice in their clothing shouldn't insult another person. BUT you're right, it's HOW he said it & it's the fact that he went out of his way to compliment her, when she wasn't even anywhere near his truck at the time. He went out of his way to call her over to his truck & tell her.

flirting is healthy. just because your in a relationship doesnt mean your dumb deaf and blind.

Posted by 69virgo
You are really upset about this..🙂 and this is coming from a aqua,the flirts of the zodiac..I mean social people of the zodiac..my bad..😉

haha

Posted by QLIbraMale
We Libras don't Flirt just give enhanced communication lol.

"Enhanced" - Too funny! Putting in my memory bank just in case I need it in the future.

Posted by Maddy


I will be more suspicious of the quiet ones that never say anything, I think they're more dangerous that the ones who flirt.

That's interesting. Kind of sneaky, right?

I disagree. In my opinion, flirting is NOT who a person is. It's what they DO. And there's a difference. To say that flirting is "who you are" suggests that you'll do it all the time & that you can't control it.

Well the fact that so many people just so happen to conveinantly & coincidentally ONLY flirt with those they consider "attractive" means that we absolutely DO/CAN make the choice & that we CAN control our flirting.

After all, the people who claim they're natural flirts always seem to know how to "control" their urges to flirt when they're around people they consider unnattractive.

So here's my question...If flirting is "who you are" then that means this about you will come out all the time like all other traits within you. So wouldn't it make more sense to be honest & say that flirting is something you DO vs. it being who you are?

Flirting is a decision. It's a choice. It's an action. It's what a person chooses to do. And YES, flirters are very much aware of what they're doing b/c they clearly know when to control it...after all, that's why self-proclaimed "natural flirters" never flirt with an old fat 88 year old or some gay guy! I mean hey, if it's "in your blood" then how come you don't flirt with everyone?! The mere fact that most people pick/choose who they'll flirt with suggest that flirting is NOT a personality trait, but moreso a choice...

.....a choice that most people justify or feel is right. But don't say that it's who you are just b/c you can't admit that flirting is something you like to do AND will do regardless of how others feel about it.

Very rarely are there traits in us that we cannot change or control. Most of our personality traits or actions CAN be controlled.

I wish people would just be honest & say, "I flirt b/c I want to & b/c I can" vs. using the corny line that it's who they are. Who you are does NOT change regardless of the people OR environment you're surrounded by. BUT actions/choices DO change, therefore flirting is a choice

Flirting makes someone feel good about themselves when they get attention from the person they flirt with, for many they do it purely as a boost in their self-esteem and deem this harmless...

they do not think anything further than what makes them feel good and certainly don't think of anyone else or what could happen should it be reciprocated!

Posted by everevolvingepithet

Posted by sweethearts
Flirting makes someone feel good about themselves when they get attention from the person they flirt with, for many they do it purely as a boost in their self-esteem and deem this harmless...

they do not think anything further than what makes them feel good and certainly don't think of anyone else or what could happen should it be reciprocated!

You sound like a narcissist !
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Definition of a flirt 😉

You don't flirt to be nice...You flirt for attention!

You flirting with me Bling 😛

No denial there, Leebs are the biggest flirts

and it takes one to know one 😉

Posted by everevolvingepithet
I don't think I'm flirty, seriously.
Although I think that approach works better than when I'm 'blunt'...... I'm not that blunt, seriously.
It's all down to the person receiving what's put across, once I've said it then outta my hands really.
Not it's not the same if someone else does it. 🙂

Given, you're not a serial flirt but lightheartedly I've seen you woo a few of the ladies here....that's when they can figure out what you are saying **laughs** ...me flirting **smiles**

True gentleman 🙂

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Missing me?

Not here much so you have to flirt for my attention 😛

And I'll always come back to gain the attention of a gentleman... there's a bad boy dying to get out in there somewhere, I know 😉

Posted by sweethearts
You don't flirt to be nice...You flirt for attention!
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Exactly. Who says you're no longer a "nice" person all b/c you don't compliment or flirt with others? Sheeesh, I didn't know that people measured their own ability to be considered a nice person based on how many females/guys they can flirt with. That's bull!

Being a nice person & flirting are 2 different things. I'm 1 of the nicest people in the world, BUT I don't have to go around flirting with everyone just to get that point across.

And like I said, it's pretty conveinant that most supposedly "natural flirters" always know when to pick & choose who'll they flirt with, when yet they don't even realize the contradiction in the fact that if something was "natural" to you, that side of you would come out with EVERYBODY, not just select targets.

If the only people you coincidentally find yourself flirting with just so happen to be your type, you're flirting to get attention OR you're atleast getting SOMETHING out of it vs. it being "who you are."

Problem is, many people are in denial about the "something" they're getting out of flirting. No one ever wants to admit that they're doing something to get an ego boost. Hell even Leos don't admit the ego thing even though they invented egos!