Do I not know how to talk or are some guys a kid?

I went for some scary road adventure few days ago where I met a guy and we had a fun evening...off the road he took me to dinner etc...
on the way back right before getting out of the car he asked if I have boyfriend...(answer:no)...so he said maybe we can go to dinner tomorrow night...I said I'll be out but evening i'll probably be free...call me...
next day he texted me : I had fun with you yesterday. hope to see you again.what are you doing tonight. i have no plans. wont be home before 10though...might just stay in and watch movies...

I dont know how you interperet this message but to me it meant, he wants to see me later, but tonight he reaches home late and prefers to stay at home....

Am i wrong? ( maybe my english is not really good and I didnt get him)...

I answered: aha? i can imagine watching me scared to death yesterday was so much fun!!!...im going out tonight,to much pain muscles though...will come to road trip again though...was exciting...

and he never replied...
two days after I invited him to a dancing night( i knew he like it) and didnt reply...

so im now confused...we werent dating...we had just met ,were friends...why did he think I shut him off?! some guys cant have a simple friendship without having dating expecations!!!

or maybe he doesnt have sense of humore and thought im being sarcastic in the first part of my message..(oh, but that reading too much into it)...

so basically he misunderstood me and I misunderstood him and we blew each other off!Sounds ridiculous...

Or maybe he just didn't get the message .. sometimes, messages just vanish like socks in a dryer.


He obviously wanted to see you again, so now you decide all kinds of exaggerated shit due to your paranoia ... when it could be something simple, that you're not bothering to clear up.

i agree i over analyze everything...but I also want to learn from my mistakes...so not to repeat them again...
thats why I ask other people's opinion...he definitly got my two messages ..because I receive a delivery report...

and I know I hurt him because he wanted me to show interest in seeing him that night...But I absolutely didnt have a slightest idea that message meant lets meet...

If that helps, he is a cancer...they are so sensitive....oh...im so madly in love with his body 🙂

Posted by Shinny_girl
i agree i over analyze everything...but I also want to learn from my mistakes...so not to repeat them again...
thats why I ask other people's opinion...he definitly got my two messages ..because I receive a delivery report...

and I know I hurt him because he wanted me to show interest in seeing him that night...But I absolutely didnt have a slightest idea that message meant lets meet...

If that helps, he is a cancer...they are so sensitive....oh...im so madly in love with his body 🙂

Jesus .. please use sense. If you haven't even talked to him, then you don't know how he feels. To say he is hurt, is your assumption.

You are speculating, and imagining, you are trying to tell us in here that you know he is hurting because of you due to him being a Cancer.

You are trying to create drama.


According to you ............ you have not heard from him, so everything you just said about how he feels after that night ... is all lies you made up.


I thought you actually wanted help .... I see you are just like the rest of the people in here who just want to make shit up for the dramatic reactions. And I know this because you then proceeded to tell me how he is feeling because of you, when you don't know shit about how he feels.

More likely, you want him to be hurt about you .. because that would make you feel special.


out ... I'm sure you'll get plenty more people in here who will give you opinions about how he feels, based off of your story .... because people, in general, are really like that.

omg....i guess you didnt even get me...
im saying he is hurt because he hasnt replied my 2messages, and obviously a normal person answers other people when they get in touch in a matter of days...

im not creating drama....im expressing my feeling....you dont need to attack me !

so, should there be another attempt from my side? I dont consider it as a date...so in the friendship world how many times do you try to reach a friend before you give up on them?

Well how do you know that he even assumed that you were "shutting him off?"

Maybe he wasn't all that interested to begin with, thus his unwillingness to respond reflects that.

Or maybe he didn't get your text

Or maybe he's seeing someone on the side. Ya know there def. are plenty of guys in the world who will be all over you 1 minute & then disappear off the face of the earth the next min. like it never happend.

And hey, even if this guy did somehow take what you said offensively, he's probably NOT the right kind of guy for you anyways. Call me crazy, but there's nothing in your words that suggests you were insulting him or trying to blow him off. If anything it seems like he was just talking & being sweet just for the sake of hitting you up. There's no guarantee though that what he actually said was genuine.

Just chalk it up. Don't drive yourself crazy by over-analyzing everything b/c only HE knows what the real deal is.

If he won't respond, F him! Like you said, it's not like the 2 of you were dating or are entitled to any kind of loyalty or promise to communicate.

If he was truly into you, he'll come back. And if he's into you AND if he truly took what you said offensively, he'd do his part in discussing that with you instead of just giving up/quitting & walking away.

So look on the bright side of things. If his 1st resort whenever there's a miscommunication is to run & disappear, are you SURE this guy is really worth your time anyways? NOT!

Posted by everevolvingepithet
Ignore Krys, even though her posts are over elaborate. In this one it's like the standard magazine article response arf don't buy fully into that 'oh no girl he betta aught come to you or he just ain't that into you'. The Bullshit !.
You're a capable human being, find the clarity yourself.

My response/opinion to this post was absolutely universal & over-generalized, considering I don't know much about the poster nor many details about what's going on.

My point to the poster was simple. If someone is being inconsistent, you technically DON'T have to put up with it. If you still want this guy in your life, reach out to him again & try to pry for yourself b/c there's a chance that you may be misreading the signals he's sending you. However, if he's just another fish in the sea to you, don't harp on the "unknown" forever & move on. Simple.

It may sound universal, but oh well. It def. works, especially in situations that aren't as complicated as others may try to make it seem

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